Husband looking at teenage girls

[Candyblosoom1]

I caught my husband (early 40s) looking at teenage girls a few times when we're out.

The girls he looks at are usually wearing mini skirts, shorts or have their breast out.

They look like there are between 15-18 years old.

I remember when I was around 14, I had a few men staring at me even though I always dressed modestly so I'm starting to wonder if that's in men's nature.

I asked one of my friend who's husband thinks his behaviour is normal. That every men are attracted to young girls(15-18) with boobs or nice legs even if they don't want to admit it. It doesn't mean that they will act on it.

‘Girl where of age in the past once they started there period.

Men will stare at teens that have bodies that are developed like women. ‘

Considering that’s around age 10 ???????

What are you saying about men who do this ?

It’s normal for men to stare

It’s common..... but it’s not normal.....and certainly not ok.

'Girl where of age in the past once they started there period.

Men will stare at teens that have bodies that are developed like women.'

So starting at 9/ 10 for s fair few girls.

'It’s normal for men to stare'

No it isn't. Most don't. Most men are not creeps who stare at girls/ women.

I don't understand why you don't know that? Don't you remember being s teenage girl?!!

The porn star might be 18, but are chosen as they look very young with the addition of dressing them like very young teens.

It happens s lot.

There's a lot of men about.

The vast majority of men do NOT STARE at the bodies of any/ all post pubescent girls.

@Guavafish

The porn star might be 18, but are chosen as they look very young with the addition of dressing them like very young teens.

So what are you saying about these men ? That they are interested in children but only stop because of the laws ?

Of course it’s not right

But it happens a lot..

@Maskless

I'm laughing with incredulity at the naivety of the women on here!

All men look or stare at pretty girls, most especially at the ones who are deliberately wearing sexy or revealing clothes which are designed and intended to attract male eyes.

Men are very visual, and can't help themselves.

You really are dolts if you think your husbands are "immune".

I am also so surprised at the naivety of people on here. Girls every day, even in school uniform get looked at and commented to by men. Then people wonder why boys in school do it to them too?? Also, and there was a thread on it too, about women who have comments etc when they go out running etc. A LOT of men feel they can do and say what they want as women find it a compliment and are slowly being surprised by it being talked about in the media, that shock horror they do not like it and makes them feel unsafe. Unfortunately until their partner, wife or daughter says something to them it does not register with them how women feel. Its a whole big wide issue of women feeling safe due to men.

'chosen as they look very young with the addition of dressing them like very young teens.'

What are you trying to say here?

Yes we know there are a fair few men about who would fuck a girl whose body had started developing, irrespective of age. So from 9/ 10 upwards.

Yes we know that. We are well aware of it. Very very aware.

So what are you getting at?

@Guavafish

Of course it’s not right

But it happens a lot..

So does sexual assault, child abuse and rape. OP shouldn't be made to feel her husband looking that way at CHILDREN is acceptable because it's common...

@Guavafish

Of course it’s not right

But it happens a lot..

Yes paedolohila happens a lot

@Guavafish

All you’ve effectively said is that a lot of men have attractions towards children

That is paedophilia

It's really not normal for men to stare at young girls, or any women for that matter. None of my male family, friends or work colleagues do this. I have seen this from creepy and perverted strangers.

@PurpleMustang

I don't think it's rare. I think it's vile and wouldn't want to be with a man that does it.

That's not naive, it's having standards and a moral compass.

Decent blokes are perfectly capable of not staring at girls. Again, don't you remember how horrible a feeling it is being that girl? It's gross.

It's ok to say that's a hard boundary in a partner that you won't tolerate or accept.

Something being common doesn't mean it's something people should say is ok for fear of being labelled naive.

Plenty of things are simultaneously common and deplorable.

PurpleMustang

It is a too large minority of men. But s minority.

And most men do not stare at girls who v young but developing.

Also.

'
Unfortunately until their partner, wife or daughter says something to them it does not register with them how women feel.'

A lot of them know exactly how we feel. That's half the fun.

I don’t know.

I’m not talking about the morals of this, just pointing out that men look at teens. So much so, that one of the biggest search on porn websites is teens. I think we would be naive to think it doesn’t happen.

In the OP situation, I wouldn’t be comfortable with a partner that stares at teens in my presences.

Strictly speaking it's not paedophilia.

In fact as guava pointed out, men used to be able to marry 13 yo girls here!

Those were the days eh.

A lot of them know exactly how we feel. That's half the fun.

I agree with this so much.

Men who shout at us from their car or van don't genuinely think we are excited or flattered by it.

They think it's funny, entertaining, arousing to make women and girls feel uncomfortable.

It's happens so often to girls in school uniform. I so often wonder how the men who do it would feel if it was done to their daughter aged 12-16.

Vile.

@Guavafish

I don’t know.

I’m not talking about the morals of this, just pointing out that men look at teens. So much so, that one of the biggest search on porn websites is teens. I think we would be naive to think it doesn’t happen.

In the OP situation, I wouldn’t be comfortable with a partner that stares at teens in my presences.

You're not actually going to respond to what is actually being said are you.

We KNOW exactly how it is because we were once girls.

It's not difficult to understand that surely?

@Guavafish

I don’t know.

I’m not talking about the morals of this, just pointing out that men look at teens. So much so, that one of the biggest search on porn websites is teens. I think we would be naive to think it doesn’t happen.

In the OP situation, I wouldn’t be comfortable with a partner that stares at teens in my presences.

Yes once again we all know paedos exist let’s stop just calling it’men looking at teens’ and call it what it is …. Men who are sick and have attractions towards children’s

I didn’t say attraction... I’m talking about looking and staring.

Fuck's sake. This thread.

I'm laughing with incredulity at the naivety of the women on here!

You're laughing at the idea that we think men who openly stare at young girls are creeps. We're not naive. WE HAVE ALREADY BEEN THROUGH IT OURSELVES. And dealt with the consequences of those stares. In the absolute worst ways possible.

Naive? I don't fucking think so. Battle-weary? Abso-fucking-lutely.

That's why we know how fucking dangerous it is.

What kind of disgusting apologist are you?

I don’t understand what you mean?

@Guavafish

I didn’t say attraction... I’m talking about looking and staring.

Oh so now your claiming that the looking at teen porn or ogle a girl in tiny shorts on the street as the op described has nothing to has nothing to do with attraction ?

@Guavafish

Stop making excuses for these pieces of filth who are staring at teen girls and OBVIOUSLY qre attraction to these children