Husband looking at teenage girls

[Candyblosoom1]

I caught my husband (early 40s) looking at teenage girls a few times when we're out.

The girls he looks at are usually wearing mini skirts, shorts or have their breast out.

They look like there are between 15-18 years old.

I remember when I was around 14, I had a few men staring at me even though I always dressed modestly so I'm starting to wonder if that's in men's nature.

I asked one of my friend who's husband thinks his behaviour is normal. That every men are attracted to young girls(15-18) with boobs or nice legs even if they don't want to admit it. It doesn't mean that they will act on it.

Yes have a child with someone like that op and then when your daughter is 18 and he is eyeing up girls the same age as her watch yourself regret that decision big time.

Absolute creep.

@Candyblosoom1 unfortunately then he’s a creep, maybe you could have a talk, ask him to be honest and go from there. For what it’s worth staying with someone just to have a baby will end up the same way, just a lot messier and unhappier for everyone. If you do leave, there is time to meet someone and start a family.

Definitely not ok that he’s looking at children like this. This is not normal. Sorry OP but this will not get better. You still have plenty of time to leave him and move on

Also can I just add op if you have a child with this person all you are doing is recreating the cycle of what you experienced yourself. As you said when you was 14 you saw older men doing that to you that most likely had daughters themselves. Why would you want to re create something you experienced for others. Dump the guy and find better

I have no words for how disgustingly gross that is;I honestly feel abit sick reading that.

Is he channeling his inner Jimmy Saville?

I wouldn't stay married to a man like that.I have teen daughters in that age range.If I caught a man in his 40's looking at them like that I'd very loudly ask him if he was a peadophile.

You're married to a creep.

There's no justification for his behaviour.

I am going to vomit - your husband is definitely a creep and this is never okay.

Don't have kids with this man.

You must be utterly repulsed by him now op, I think when you lose respect for someone there is no going back.

Makes your skin crawl doesn't it.

They don't seem to realise the more they behave like creeps the more sexually repulsive they become.

Gip.

A few seconds is still a long time to look/ be looked at.

Grim behaviour.

I'd dump him. Lecherous men ogling teenagers is grim. I remember it well. Horrible feeling.

‘Eowwww - dirty old man, you’re old enough to he her dad/grandfather’ loudly.

It’s not up to children to dress so men don’t perv over them. Children are innocent, your partner is not.

It’s not normal.
He’s one of those creeps who’d stare at us when we were younger. Unfortunately you’re married to him. I would have to leave him.

Euww definitely not normal. Not saying it doesn't happen, but personally I've never been in a r'ship with anyone who did that (I have experienced my (ex) DP looking at other women, but not children). So no - it isn't something 'normal' that men just do.

I've never known this sort of behaviour by men or women to be honest.

It's leering at children - I can't believe anyone things that's OK.

Do you look at muscular 15 year old boys?
I’m guessing not.

Your husband and his friend are disgusting.

Yuck. He's a creep. I remember being that age and dirty old men whistling and looking.

Girls can wear whatever clothes they like and why shouldn't they? They look amazing and creepy old men shouldn't look.

I don't lust after teenage boys who are ripped etc

That’s yuck. What will he do when he has a teenage daughter and her friends walking round the house.

@Recessed

I think it is "common" though I can't say it's normal! I see it all the time. I'm really aware of it since having DDs - they're still only little but since they were born I started seeing potential threats to girls everywhere.

I've become more aware of this since having DD also. And how young it starts.

OP, it won't get better. If you have a child and as you get older, you'll get increasingly insecure being with this man.

LTB.

Hard pass. Gross.

That’s unfortunate that you want to breed with an open pervert simply because you can’t be bothered to better quality male.

I don't lust after teenage boys who are ripped etc

Isn't it funny how that instinctively seems all wrong even just reading it, we know what's right and wrong and leering at young people when you're twice their age is every sort of wrong

Thank you all for your replies and honesty!

I agree that that's not acceptable at all and wouldn't want any young girls to be hit on by him.

We went out for a walk today and two women were passing by, one of which was very attractive . He was staring at her for some time.

After a few minutes I decided to bring it up asking whether he noticed he looked at the women. He said he did and that he looks at everyone we cross path with. It's just the way he is. That he never has any bad intentions or lusting thoughts.

I noticed that before but mostly with women and young girls. I told him that and he said he doesn't notice it himself. I will make sure he knows next time he does it.

I will check his behaviour for the next couple of weeks and if he doesn't change, I'll leave him.

I'm trying to find a job at the at moment so I can become more independent.

I'm just so sad at the whole thing. Im so heartbroken just thinking having to go through a failed marriage.

I would not be able to stay with a man who was perving on children. 15 years old is a child.

Better a failed marriage than being married to a paedophile.

No it's not normal! Not at all, sorry your going through this