He bruised me

[Justlife3]

For the first time in my life. I dont know what to think or feel about it. It was an "accident". We were arguing and he slammed the door even though I was standing in the doorway. I tried to open it and he pushed it closed and caught my leg. The part he caught is so tender. The bruise isnt anything horrific. His family was in the house when it happened. No one asked if I was okay. I'm disgusted and shocked. He said it was because I triggered him with something he said and he was angry. I didnt say anything horrible but it was sensitive as it was about our baby.

He said it was because I triggered him with something he said

Classic abuser talk. "You made me do it".

Are you pregnant op?

@StarCourt

No

The fact he wasn't immediately sorry and begging forgiveness would indicate the end of the relationship if I was in your shoes OP.

He has hurt you and blamed you for it OP. There will be a next time as that boundary has been crossed. Now hurting you is an option for him.

Are you married? Living together? How old is the baby? You sound like you're in shock OP. When was this, was it today or yesterday or what?

Yep, now he’s hurt you and it’s your fault then he’ll just get worse. Ltb ASAP

The injury is bad enough.

The deal-breaker for me, as with PPs: his total refusal to accept responsibility.

I have no where to go and no money. It's a classic line but its true. I definitely think I'm in shock. I've never had anyone physically leave a scar on me let alone my own partner. I'm trying to understand that he didnt literally set out to hurt me but he still did and now everyone has been forgotten and everyone is acting like nothing has happened

Woah. When you hurt someone even accidentally you apologise and are concerned about hurting them. I'm sorry op.

Op we need more info. I got the impression you might be visiting relatives but perhaps they are visiting you. Are you at home or not?
If you're at home, whose is the house? Are you married?
Sorry to bombard you with questions and I know you're upset but these things matter.

Breathe. We can help you.

Time to leave with your child asap. I would also call the police today and tell them what happened to you. I am not altogether surprised his family have not said anything; their loyalty lies with him after all.

How is it you have no money, does he control your access to this?.

Can you leave today and stay with a relative/friend?.

We arent married. I live with him and his family. I have no one to turn to. Baby is 7 months

I dont think police will act upon him closing a door and catching my leg? There is no proof. Doubt his family will back me

Can you ring Women's Aid? They can talk you through your options.
Please also take a photo of the bruise because you might need it later.

@giletrouge I have already and shown my family. Thing is no one can take me in so no one is saying anything about it. I feel like I'm going crazy because I'm the only one reacting to this..his family have turned a blind eye and my own family has nothing to say on the matter

I'm truly alone... no one cares about me and they all expect me to put up with this otherwise I inconvenience everyone

You need to get out now. Take it from someone who knows, it won't get better. He will end up using you as a punch bag in every respect of the word and you will believe it's your fault. It's called domestic abuse.
I left a horrifically abusive relationship last year, I have clumps of hair missing, scars all over my arms and legs, and I ended up with a fractured nose and bitten ear. I left his house with 3 black bin liners and my daughter in tow. The first 3 months were fucking hard, but you know what - I did it. And so can you.
Don't let it get to the stage it gets to with most women. Safelives recount that it takes women up to 50 incidents of domestic abuse before the seek help - that's even before leaving the abuser.
Your partner is on his downward spiral of abusing you and if you stay you are going to let him.
Call womens aid, and get a place in a refuge.
Only you can help yourself.

@Pebbledashery how do I get out when both him and his family are always with us. I can discreetly pack and leave

Can you ring Women's Aid OP, or would he know?

..He said it was because I triggered him with something he said and he was angry.

So he admitted he did it on purpose!

Just pack a suitcase, leave it somewhere safe or ask a friend to come round and give it to them, leave it in the garden, whatever it is there are ways.
Unfortunately you will be faced with a choice of your baby and him.

I dont understand why everyone around me thinks this is okay?

How long are you together and has there been other abuse Such as verbal abuse, issues around controlling your moves or financially controlling?