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He bruised me

186 replies

Justlife3 · 21/07/2021 09:51

For the first time in my life. I dont know what to think or feel about it. It was an "accident". We were arguing and he slammed the door even though I was standing in the doorway. I tried to open it and he pushed it closed and caught my leg. The part he caught is so tender. The bruise isnt anything horrific. His family was in the house when it happened. No one asked if I was okay. I'm disgusted and shocked. He said it was because I triggered him with something he said and he was angry. I didnt say anything horrible but it was sensitive as it was about our baby.

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youvegottenminuteslynn · 21/07/2021 14:42

Please call the police OP. Call 999 and say your partner has raped you previously, is continuing to be abusive, you want to leave and him and his family have said they will not allow you to. Make sure you mention you have a baby there and that you want to leave with the baby and need help to do so immediately. They will come out to you quickly, please make the call now.

rishisboater · 21/07/2021 14:44

Make the call. Immediately

rishisboater · 21/07/2021 14:45

Before they take your phone.

toocold54 · 21/07/2021 14:46

If you want to leave then ring the police asap before they take your phone. This will be your best chance to get out with your baby and pet.
Once you’re out you can post back on here and we’ll help you with what to do next with your pet etc as I’m sure there’s a rescue place that can take it in for now.

luce2202 · 21/07/2021 14:48

Call the police, it doesn't get better and it won't change. Make the call before your phone gets broken or taken away from you. People on this thread will be here to help and support you OP!❤️

username18702 · 21/07/2021 14:54

Dial 999.

QueeniesCroft · 21/07/2021 14:56

Lock yourself in the bathroom or toilet and call 999 now. The Police will help you.

minatrina · 21/07/2021 14:56

Oh gosh please call the police! This sounds like a very very dangerous situation, I'm so sorry ❤️

Saidtoomuch · 21/07/2021 15:01

Please call the police, grab your daughter and leave. Tell them you have been abused and they are keeping her away from you to stop you from leaving. The police will help to find somewhere are for you to go.

5zeds · 21/07/2021 15:02

You are not their property. Call the police and ask them for help.

Saidtoomuch · 21/07/2021 15:05

I feel sick with worry for op, she hasn't updated for almost 30 minutes. There isn't a way MN can trace her, is there?

Original poster
Justlife3 · 21/07/2021 15:07

I'm still here..I've packed my car but my dp and mum have my daughter in their living room

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Justlife3 · 21/07/2021 15:08

If I go in there and ask for her they will make a scene and try and get me to stay. I've tried calling my dp to bring my daughter out so I dont have to go back in but he wont pick up. What do I do

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QueeniesCroft · 21/07/2021 15:08

You really must call the police. Whatever happens, whatever he says, do not leave witohut your baby.

QueeniesCroft · 21/07/2021 15:08

witohut=without!

rishisboater · 21/07/2021 15:08

Call the police. Don't leave without your daughter.

SmokedPaprikaHotChilliPowder · 21/07/2021 15:09

Oh op ... this sounds absolutely terrifying. What do you think would happen if you walked in and grabbed her? Could you do that? (Sorry if this is a stupid thing to suggest. I'm just wondering about the level of threat..) how many people are in the room?

rishisboater · 21/07/2021 15:09

Don't go back in. Call the police from outside the house.

youvegottenminuteslynn · 21/07/2021 15:10

You must call the police now. Immediately, don't wait.

Saidtoomuch · 21/07/2021 15:10

You are still on line, thank goodness. Call 999 and let the police stand over you whilst you get your daughter and some of her things. Ask them to take you to a refuge.

youvegottenminuteslynn · 21/07/2021 15:11

@Saidtoomuch

You are still on line, thank goodness. Call 999 and let the police stand over you whilst you get your daughter and some of her things. Ask them to take you to a refuge.
This - have the police WITH you to get your daughter back in your arms and go from there. Call them right away.
username18702 · 21/07/2021 15:12

Lock yourself in the car and dial 999. Refuse to open the door to them and keep the keys in the ignition in case they try to get to you. Wait for the police and tell them when they arrive, that you have been physically assaulted by your partner and they are hold your child hostage in order to prevent you from escaping.

rishisboater · 21/07/2021 15:13

If you leave your daughter there it will make it look like the abuse isn't real (else why leave your dd in that situation) or, that you left your dd in an abusive situation.

You mustn't leave without her no matter how much you want to get away.

Police now and chat to us while you wait

AttilaTheMeerkat · 21/07/2021 15:15

The police need to be involved here. You need their presence to get your child back.

azimuth299 · 21/07/2021 15:21

This sounds so difficult and frightening. You do need to call the police. Tell them that your partner has been violent towards you and will not let you leave with your baby. The police have seen this situation many times and will be able to help you. Ask to go to a refuge. Good luck.

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