He bruised me

[Justlife3]

For the first time in my life. I dont know what to think or feel about it. It was an "accident". We were arguing and he slammed the door even though I was standing in the doorway. I tried to open it and he pushed it closed and caught my leg. The part he caught is so tender. The bruise isnt anything horrific. His family was in the house when it happened. No one asked if I was okay. I'm disgusted and shocked. He said it was because I triggered him with something he said and he was angry. I didnt say anything horrible but it was sensitive as it was about our baby.

Are you able to leave the house weigh the baby for a walk and call women's aid?

For me it's not just the injury. It's the reaction afterwards and the fact you sound like you are trapped there. Why don't you have any money?

@Justlife3

I dont understand why everyone around me thinks this is okay?

Because it's easier to turn a blind eye then accept the truth.

I'm so sorry your family aren't being more supportive. If this happened to my dd I'd be round there like a shot to pull her out.

I am trapped. I have no where to go and my family are refusing to acknowledge what's happened because they dont want to be put in a position where they have to help. My dm said I was making her feel bad because she couldnt let her grand daughter be in potentional harms way, but she has made it clear she doesnt want me there by saying that. No one cares if I'm hurt.

I want to disappear. I hate my life. I hate what I've had to go through. I hate my family for giving me a cold shoulder and trying to make me complacent about it. Dps parents want me to forgive him.

@Justlife3

I dont understand why everyone around me thinks this is okay?

Because they aren't willing to stand up for you, because they want the baby to still live with them, because for some reason they do think it's normal if perhaps they've been around abusive men a lot... there could be many reasons why people excuse this behaviour but what's important is that you MUST NOT do so. You've obviously got a good head on your shoulders, you know this is wrong and an unhealthy relationship. It's also an unhealthy household because the other people there are complicit in abusive behaviour through their silence / defensiveness.

Do you have any friends or family you could stay with for a couple of nights to allow you to call womens aid for advice on setting up a home with your child away from this man? You can't allow her to grow up in this household or she too will think abuse is acceptable and be more likely to end up in a similar relationship.

Sorry cross posted and just saw you dont have anywhere else to stay temporarily. Can you get out of the house for short periods of time alone to call womens aid?

Or even better can you visit a Boots? Make an excuse that you need something from there. If you say 'I'd like to ask for Ani' then they will take you into a little room and give you the resources and privacy you need to make some calls and start getting some support.

Manu family members turn a blind eye and or side with the abuser also because they do not want to become a further target.

Is it possible for you to go to Boots the chemist and ask for ANI?. The staff will direct you to a consultation room where you can access domestic violence support services.

He should no longer be your DP and no you do not have to forgive him.

@AttilaTheMeerkat I dont think my family are scared or intimidated by him. I think it's that it inconveniences their living situation so everyone would be quite happy for me to stay here

If I call womans aid what will happen to my pet? I can't leave him hear I love him so much and he is one of the only Joy's I've had the past year

@Justlife3

If I call womans aid what will happen to my pet? I can't leave him hear I love him so much and he is one of the only Joy's I've had the past year

Women's aid will be able to talk you through all of your options, including those involving your pets. There are even charities that foster animals of women leaving abusive situations until they are set up in a new home. But your priority, as much as you love your pet, will need to be your child obviously so try not to let that distract you too much for now. There are options though, dependent on who owns the dog - who bought it and who it is registered to with the vet etc can all affect that. As I say though, your priority must be you and your child.

Is it a dog? Can you take it and the baby for a walk and make your calls?

I lost my pet when I left my abusive relationship. Years later I still feel I will never get over it but the alternative was losing my child for not protecting her so unfortunately you do need to put you and your baby first

"I never had anyone leave a scar on me"

have you been hit before?

Please someone help me I'm shaking I'm.so scared

I've told my partner I want to leave and I dont feel safe and his told his mum. They refuse to let me leave

They've got my daughter

Call the police

I cant stop shaking someone help

And tell them what?

This is abusive, call police. Have you posted previously about controlling in laws and being marginalised in their house?

Call the police and tell them you wish to leave with your baby because you don't feel safe but are being intimidated and literally told you cannot leave. They will come and help you, I promise. Do it now while you can see how unreasonable and awful his family are being

Coercive control , emotional abuse ....

@LIZS I've posted before about my partner raping me

Sexual abuse too. Just tell police you are being abused and controlled and are being threatened by them withholding your child.

Tell the police they won't let you leave and that you have been raped and he's injured you.
They will help you. Just make the call. Please