He bruised me

[Justlife3]

For the first time in my life. I dont know what to think or feel about it. It was an "accident". We were arguing and he slammed the door even though I was standing in the doorway. I tried to open it and he pushed it closed and caught my leg. The part he caught is so tender. The bruise isnt anything horrific. His family was in the house when it happened. No one asked if I was okay. I'm disgusted and shocked. He said it was because I triggered him with something he said and he was angry. I didnt say anything horrible but it was sensitive as it was about our baby.

I have never posted on here, but I have read your thread and I’m so worried for you and your daughters safety. Please call the police immediately and tell them you have been assaulted by your partner, that you told him you felt unsafe and wanted to leave and he is now refusing to allow you to take your infant daughter. He has sexually and physically assaulted you and is gaslighting and controlling you by saying that you trigged his response. This is not true, you are not responsible for his behaviour, he is.
I understand you are frightened, I have been in an abusive relationship and I have experienced it, I know it’s not easy. You have to make you and your daughter safe.
Please call the police.

Stay in your car and ring him again. And say bring your daughter and a bag of her stuff out (and your pet if you want) else you will call the police.
If he doesn’t you will have no choice but to call them.

I disagree. I wouldn't tell him you're going to call the police, just do it.

Otherwise he could bring the child out and trick you in to giving him access to the car and man handling you back inside.

It will also give him time to plan a story for the police

Element of surprise is needed here

Call the police and tell them you have been the victim of rape and domestic violence

@rishisboater

I disagree. I wouldn't tell him you're going to call the police, just do it.

Otherwise he could bring the child out and trick you in to giving him access to the car and man handling you back inside.

It will also give him time to plan a story for the police

Element of surprise is needed here

Totally agree with this. Please do call now OP.

OP, i mean this kindly - its the equivalent of tough love. But stop making excuses and protect yourself and protect your daughter.. I was in your position last year and I wish someone had said this to me - call the Police, get them to the house and they will remove both you and your daughter. That is the safe and only way.
Everything else that happens afterwards is a cross that bridge when you get to it moment.
Please just get yourself out of this situation, you can do it - I promise you can do it. x

Call. The. Police.

Call the police. Maybe also women's aid. If you were even the slightest acquaintance of mine i would come to help-- try even casual friends?

I disagree. I wouldn't tell him you're going to call the police, just do it.

Yes I agree actually.
I could just sense OPs hesitation and thought if she gave him a chance and threatened calling the police she won’t feel bad when she does have to ring them.

You call the Police and you call them now and tell them what he's done to you.!

Do not stay there and do not leave your Daughter there!

The Police can and will help you!

My DH is in the Police Force.

@toocold54

I disagree. I wouldn't tell him you're going to call the police, just do it.

Yes I agree actually.
I could just sense OPs hesitation and thought if she gave him a chance and threatened calling the police she won’t feel bad when she does have to ring them.

I can see where you were coming from

@Pebbledashery

OP, i mean this kindly - its the equivalent of tough love. But stop making excuses and protect yourself and protect your daughter.. I was in your position last year and I wish someone had said this to me - call the Police, get them to the house and they will remove both you and your daughter. That is the safe and only way. Everything else that happens afterwards is a cross that bridge when you get to it moment. Please just get yourself out of this situation, you can do it - I promise you can do it. x

Please listen to @Pebbledashery she has been through absolute hell and knows how you feel right now.

Get outside and lock yourself in the car. Call the police. And report the rape while you're at it. The best thing you could do now is to go to a women's shelter far away from all these people.

So worried for the OP. It's been nearly an hour since last update. Although obviously updating on here shouldn't be on her mind. Praying the police are doing their thing

OP, are you safe?

I hope your safe

Call the police, 999. Tell them the truth you’ve been assaulted by your partner and your trying to leave, don’t feel safe and they have your baby. The call will prioritised because you are in a risky situation.

This is really scary OP - hope you're ok and getting the help you need

You need to call the police. DO NOT leave without DD.

I hope you’ve called the police OP.

OP you need to immediately dial 999. Tell the police that your partner has previously raped you, and has now physically assaulted you. Tell them that you are trying to leave but that he and his family are withholding your baby from you.

Don’t tell anyone you are calling 999. Just do it.

In a lot of ways, having the police involved at this stage will be helpful further down the line.

OP are you okay?

We're so sorry to hear you're going through this, OP.
We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged to us we like to link to our web guides, which we hope may be helpful. If you'd like to, please do feel free to take a look at our Domestic Violence page:
www.mumsnet.com/webguide/domestic-violence

Very best wishes from all at MNHQ.

You call the police. Why would you not?

Hope you are okay @Justlife3. Please let us know what's happening. No judgements, we just want to know you are safe.