Why *(content warning: concerns domestic abuse)

[mcdreamymcsteamy]

I'm shaking writing this but I don't have anybody to talk to in real life. I have no family and I'm too ashamed to tell my friends. I have no where to go.

But I need to tell somebody.

Yesterday whilst holding my 12 week old baby he slapped me across the face. Then when I swore at him he put his hands around my neck and choked me until I sat down on the sofa.

Today he was holding the baby and I was sat in the comer of the sofa, he'd made a comment that I am insecure that's why I always wear black underwear?! I said he is a sick fuck for hitting me with a baby in my arms, he put the baby in the Moses basket and said I'll show hits then bang there was 3/4 hits across my head and a chunk of my hair on the floor! I tried to kick him then more fighting but it's a blur but somewhere in there he shouted at me that I'm fat as fuck and made nasty comments about my stretch marks and my arms.

What the actual fuck.

He is not here right now and im sitting plucking up the courage to ring the police.

Please ring the police. This isn't going to get any better.

Why? Because he's a nasty bastard and he can.

If you don't feel that you deserve protection from him (and you absolutely do), think about your child.

Ring the police ... now please
They can support you to get to a place of safety and have this fucking wanker locked up
You and your baby are in danger
We are here for you

Choking is really really serious. Your life could genuinely be at risk. Please get some things together, get out of the house and call the police. You'll have support from us. Be strong. You can do this.

Please ring the police if you feel safe to do so. Do you have a friend or a family member you can call as well?

Please don't delay because the missing hair , any red marks or bruises that are visible now are vital evidence to help them prosecute the peice of shit

Omg I hope your ok 💐
That is absolutely awful. You need to ring the police now!

Thank you for the fast replies. I am 100% going to ring the police. Just bracing myself to do it, I've actually got the hair although I'm not red still as it was a few hours ago, the bruises are showing now.

I can't believe this, my phones shaking in my hand.
How fucked up do you have to be to hit someone with a tiny baby in their arms.

Why?
Because he is a sociopath.

Call the police or next time he might leave your baby an orphan. Or the baby might be seriously injured.

As pp said, get photos of you injuries.

Are you somewhere safe? Could he come back?
Go out to the police station in person if so.

Jesus, you poor thing. Please ring police and start packing an overnight bag for you and baby.

He's gone to work. I have no where to go unless I go to a hotel, or better stay here at wait for the police? I don't know. I'm in so much pain. My babies smiling at me and playing and I'm just broken

Please call the police. Now.

Please leave the house and ring the police when you are safe and away. He might return while you are on the phone. I know it is scary ringing the police but that is what they are there for. I bet this isn’t the first time and it is not unusual for domestic abuse to escalate once there is a baby in the house.

@mcdreamymcsteamy

He's gone to work. I have no where to go unless I go to a hotel, or better stay here at wait for the police? I don't know. I'm in so much pain. My babies smiling at me and playing and I'm just broken

Ring the police and see if they can give you an idea of how long until they arrive. That will give you an idea of whether to stay there or go elsewhere.

Please call the police. Pack what you need and your important documents like passports.

Call one of your friends and go to theirs, please don't be embarrassed.

Have you called the police yet? How hard did he choke you because secondary strangulation can be a risk.

Get help my love and work the rest out later x

You poor thing. He doesn't care about you or your sweet baby. Call the police immediately and hopefully they can advise on your next steps. Please seek help x

@MagentaRocks

Ok I'll ask them. You're right it's not the first time, although first time since I gave birth, last time was when I was 20 weeks pregnant, he was hitting me so hard across the head my ears were ringing and I ended up with bruising to
My eye. I thought once I gave birth he would develop some love or respect for me as any other time he would be so nice, what an idiot

Is this your property or is he legally a tenant/ owner with you ?
If the police arrest him and tell him to not come back after his release .. you can stay where you are
They can up some security measures and help you get locks changed etc

Make sure you tell themexactly what happened and show the hair and any bald patches, and bruises.

You might need X-rays.

I'd say it was ABH not common assault, so make clear to them that he actually has pulled out your hair and punched you, and verbal abuse.

The law surrounding common assault and ABH are different.

So sorry you are going through this.

It's my house, I am financially independent although a little less at the moment due to maternity pay but I'm ok.

I don't know how hard he strangled me I think he tried to do it a few times and squished both his hands around my throat but it's a blur. I've got a hand print bruise on my arm where he put me to the floor

Phone the police now, lovey. They'll help get you somewhere safe before he comes home from work.
If he's willing to hit you with the baby in your arms he's clearly not too worried about the baby's safety so this isn't just about protecting you.

Get yourselves away from him. He'll only get worse.

If you haven't already called the police, please do so very quickly. Different people I love have been in your position and come through it, please do it while you can. I am so sorry this is happening to you xxxxx