Why *(content warning: concerns domestic abuse)

[mcdreamymcsteamy]

I'm shaking writing this but I don't have anybody to talk to in real life. I have no family and I'm too ashamed to tell my friends. I have no where to go.

But I need to tell somebody.

Yesterday whilst holding my 12 week old baby he slapped me across the face. Then when I swore at him he put his hands around my neck and choked me until I sat down on the sofa.

Today he was holding the baby and I was sat in the comer of the sofa, he'd made a comment that I am insecure that's why I always wear black underwear?! I said he is a sick fuck for hitting me with a baby in my arms, he put the baby in the Moses basket and said I'll show hits then bang there was 3/4 hits across my head and a chunk of my hair on the floor! I tried to kick him then more fighting but it's a blur but somewhere in there he shouted at me that I'm fat as fuck and made nasty comments about my stretch marks and my arms.

What the actual fuck.

He is not here right now and im sitting plucking up the courage to ring the police.

Please call the police. Take photos of your injuries. It's good that it's your house although I don't know how safe you will feel there even with the locks changed. Glad your sister is coming round. Is she nearby?

Yeah she lives ten minutes away so will be here any minute I'm going to show her this

God I'm so sorry.
Please ring the police and get out of there before he comes home, you don't deserve to be treated that way and your child doesn't deserve to be brought up in a violent home.

Solidarity from me I'm thinking of you and your little one. You can do this, and you can be safe.
Please call the police!

Ring the police, make sure your sister stays with you.

I am really sorry, I feel sick reading this and had a little cry. I have a 9 week old baby you don't deserve to be treated like this.

Thank you everyone. I appreciate every single response, I have t cried or anything I feel shell shocked.
Why do I allow myself to be treat like this im a good person

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this, but you have to phone the police. Look at your daughter, her innocent smile. Can you imagine a man laying his hands on her beautiful face? Bruising her perfect skin? What would you advise her? You can do this. For you, and her. Let her grow up safe, in a home where mum is not a punch bag. Big big hugs. Deep breath, and be strong xxx

Aww lovey I'm so so sorry
No one, NO ONE deserves to be treated like this
You're stronger than you think, you can do this.
Phone the police when your safe with your sister

@mcdreamymcsteamy

Thank you everyone. I appreciate every single response, I have t cried or anything I feel shell shocked. Why do I allow myself to be treat like this im a good person

Turn this around to "why does he think it's ok to hit you?"

You're not to blame, he did this.

You don't deserve this.
You don't have to put up with this
Your life is in danger. And possibly your baby's life.

Have you phoned the police yet?

Because he’s made you believe you are worthless and can’t cope without him. He’s never been worried about you calling the police because he doesn’t think you’re strong enough to do it.

Men don’t just attack women randomly because they know they’ll just leave and find someone better and then he’ll have no one else to bully, so they spend time subtly breaking them down so when they do attack they make the women believe it’s somehow her fault and that she is worthless.
Then the attacks will increase in amount and severity as they see how far they can push it, the only time it ever stops is when the women dies or leaves.

So sorry, how awful for you! Hope you get the support you need x hugs x

@mcdreamymcsteamy

Thank you everyone. I appreciate every single response, I have t cried or anything I feel shell shocked. Why do I allow myself to be treat like this im a good person

You're not allowing anyone t treat you like this. He's doing it to you. But no more. Speak with the police, cry on your sis's shoulder then get angry that he could be such a prick to his daughter's mum.

I’m heartbroken reading this. Please let us know how you are doing. A 12 week old is hard enough without this. Do everything in your power to protect your baby and you. Please feel the fear and do it any way xxxx

Hi OP. I don’t usually comment on posts but I just HAD to for this one. Firstly I’m so so sorry that you’re going through this. I’ve just come out of the other side of a long abusive relationship myself and I promise you, it doesn’t get better.... it gets worse. The longer you stay the more you will feel worn down and will find it harder to pluck the courage to leave. Speaking to someone in real life, although so so hard, is the first step to leaving. I have full faith in you that you can leave and will be okay. Sending lots of love your way ❤️

@username34512875 well done you .. 💐

Have you called them? Get to a place of safety ASAP.

@mcdreamymcsteamy

Thank you everyone. I appreciate every single response, I have t cried or anything I feel shell shocked. Why do I allow myself to be treat like this im a good person

You didn't allow it.

But he might kill you if you don't call the police and end the relationship.

Hi, totally echo all the messages of support above. Just wanted to add a slightly different perspective about why it’s important to ring the police. Children (even babies) who witness domestic violence are considered to be victims. If you stay in this toxic situation, social services will soon become involved and you will find yourself defending your fitness to look after your baby. If you make the first move, all the services (police, social services, domestic abuse services etc) will all be behind you and totally on your side to protect your baby from this man and to support you back to a place where you are strong enough to not find yourself in this kind of setup again. Crucially, it will also go on this man’s record so if you separate and he enters a new relationship, then other women and children can be more easily protected from him. I used to work in children’s safeguarding and really urge you to get the services you need behind you because you are absolutely in need of protection and support. Good luck!

He could kill you or your baby. Please call the police and face the reality: he isn't going to change.

People saying call the police you need to tell her how. 111 or 999

Oh lovely please ring the police, he tried to kill you in front of your baby. This is not your fault and he will more than likely do it again. The police are there to help.

You do deserve better. Call the police, lovely. They will help you to get you and your baby a safer life. Thinking of you

@Christmasfairy2020

People saying call the police you need to tell her how. 111 or 999

It's the same call centre. The call handlers will advise accordingly. I'd call non-emergency unless he's near home.