To be reconsidering my relationship because of lockdown

[whitemirrors]

I won’t be leaving because we have young children.

But I am increasingly frustrated with DH wfh and I feel it’s forcing a lifestyle on me I just don’t want.

He’s at home all the time. It’s rare he leaves the house. When he does it’s only for short periods like to go to the supermarket to fill the car with petrol or to go to the dentist. Those sorts of things.

Then at weekends because he’s home all the time he wants to be out of the house. I’m exhausted with it.

Don’t know why I’m posting. Just feeling so stifled.

Is it possible to get him a pod for the garden?

1. there's a pandemic on, not his choice
2. talk to him

Does he work full time?

Where in the house is he working? If it's in your main living space he needs to work elsewhere.

No garden.

I have noticed there is a pandemic, thanks. But I really appreciate your supportive reply.

Is he ever going back? Where does he work at home?

Are you SAHP with the kids?

Can he not take them out with him? Or is he out and leaving them with you?

Yes sienna

He can’t work elsewhere. It is what it is.

Why can't he work in a bedroom?

I hear you. It's really hard isn't it. I've never wanted to spend 24/7 with my dh either...it's too much. I used to like him being at work and looking forward to him coming home. It absolutely sucks

I can see both sides. I work part time from home and in my days off I have to get out or I’ll go mad. Does he not see friends? Do you work?
If he’s in your living space he needs to move to the bedroom. I do sympathise my dh is working from home too. Luckily he hides away in our top bedroom.

Get a job outside the home, as he's WFH he'll have no trouble doing his share of drop offs etc

When you talk about the situation and how it's getting to you, does he have any ideas for what to try to make things better for you? What do you think would help?

@WaterBottle123

Get a job outside the home, as he's WFH he'll have no trouble doing his share of drop offs etc

Depending on his job, WFH doesn't mean you can just wander off wherever you want to do school runs etc. He is working.

@lockdownalli

Why can't he work in a bedroom?

That’s not really important. He can’t.

Yeah it’s shit. But what can he do, really? If he has to work from home he has to be at home.
Mine is at home too. He hates it, I hate it. We’re both desperate for him to go back to the office.

I don’t talk about it small. No point. Can’t be helped. It’s gone from fine to mildly annoying to annoying to unbearable.

Get a job working out of the house?

I’ve got one. Your point?

Well if it's unbearable you need to talk to him.

What room is he using? Is he expecting silence around him? Can you get out with the kids? Does he go out weekends without you or expecting you to tag along and look after the kids?

Well work from home is supposedly ending on the 19th July. Is there a chance he will go back to work?

@whitemirrors

I’ve got one. Your point?

If you're not at home then why is it is such an issue?

If you have a job out of the house why does this bother you? Surely that means you're not there all the time he is?

Of course I can and do get out with the kids, but have you ever tried being out all day, in all weathers? I don’t mean that snappily and I’m sorry if it came across that way. I’m just suffocated.

So the answer to being miserable that I have a partner working at home all the time is to never be at home myself. Either be at work or our. Marvellous. What a fucking life. I’m currently on maternity.

Yeah, it doesn't seem you're actually going to be receptive to any suggestions of help here OP...