Has anyone experienced such an intense chemistry with a new partner before?

[OrlandointheWilderness]

I've just started seeing someone. From the second I saw him it has been overwhelming, there is an incredible pull towards him but a familiarity at the same time. Sexually it is like nothing I've ever experienced before. He is feeling the same - he brought it up the other day and said about it. It's like a craving, but instead of craving on a purely sexual level I'm craving him. We connect on an intellectual and emotional level too, it's effortless and feels as easy as breathing.

It's terrifying me quite frankly! We started seeing each other three weeks ago and I'm not a lovesick teenager, I'm a grown woman and he is a grown man. As back ground we've never met before but have mutual friends and he is pretty universally thought of as a decent, good man.
Does anyone have experience of this?!

Yes and a year later it's only getting better / worse for both of us 😆. Enjoy it I say x

@OrlandointheWilderness

Though I'd update this -

We've been together ten months now. Still an incredible connection and chemistry, but God I adore this man! He is endlessly kind and decent, always considers me and I love being with him. The chemistry is still strong but we're building on it and I know we have something built to last here. He is a good man and I've never felt this sense of being home with anyone before.

Fantastic 🥰

Only ever experienced it once I'm 53. I think it's rare to be honest

Yes I have...but this is when my hormones were raging aged 36-38 and before I got pregnant... I'm not sure I will ever get it back... it's as if pregnancy and childbirth used up all my hormonal reserves for procreation

Yes when I was young. I had never felt anything like it and haven’t since. It didn’t work out timing wasn’t great I was going abroad to work. Recently bumped into him and it stirred up all kinds of emotions. Enjoy it but try not to move to fast would be my advice.

Yes. He lied. He was married. It killed me.

@almond123

Yes. He lied. He was married. It killed me.

I absolutely hate it, because it obviously couldnt (and didnt) go anywhere. But I'm reasonably convinced that I wont ever find that kind of chemistry again. And it's messing up my search for a real partner. It was a blazing ride, but I wish Id never met him or known what I have to live without.

Yes! We have been together for nearly a year but it is quite one sided. He said the sex is great bit I tell him I crave him and have never felt like this before and he doesn't say it back. Tells me he loves me and treats me really well. He moved in about 5 months ago and it is great. However I would love to get married now my divorce is finally though but he is hesitant. Was married before and he doesn't see the point in marriage. Said I'd he does do it again he just wants a ceremony and nothing else. Says he thinks we will probably "get round to getting married one day" 🙄 I am now trying to pull back a bit as it feels I am more into him than he is to me and although I know he loves me, it doesn't feel enough.

I would say just enjoy it while you can and see where life takes you x

Definitely no rush here. We've just taken the step of meeting children and have done a day out with both of them, but we have no plans to move in together or anything. We plan for the further in future, but both of us want to wait a couple of years before living together.
I think actually that is one of the things I find so different. I feel no rush. I know I will have years and years with him and I don't feel a desperate need to affirm it by pushing it now.
Saying that, every night I go to bed alone is like purgatory!

Yes. Every single time I've had a relationship. Why else would I bother with them 🙄.
OP, as stated previously on this thread, repeatedly, such feelings are to be expected as norm in any new relationship, how else would the humankind have grown into billions.🤨
Enjoy the oxytocin et al, at best, it'll last circa 6months.
Biology. Innit.

Well I beg to differ actually @valerianaofficiana, having been in a number of relationships previously including a marriage and a child. This isn't something I've personally experienced before, and so far it's lasted a year.
There really is no need to be rude you know.

@OrlandointheWilderness

Well I beg to differ actually *@valerianaofficiana*, having been in a number of relationships previously including a marriage and a child. This isn't something I've personally experienced before, and so far it's lasted a year. There really is no need to be rude you know.

Don't bite OP. Some people love to piss on other's bonfires. You enjoy what you have, it sounds wonderful 👌🏻

Yes in both relationships I've had. I think it's normal

Yeah, he turned out to be a psychopath.

There's nothing so magnetic as matching wounding - and psychopaths see your wounds and deliberately match them.

Go carefully and hold on to your heart.

Yes. I’ve had it. The timing was off for us, several times over, but he still makes me feel giddy when I think of him and I know I have the same impact on him. In a way, I’m glad we never got to spoil it😂. Enjoy this feeling op, wherever it takes you!

Yes, several times.

They've all turned out to be arseholes in my case though!

I did last year, but unfortunately I was with someone already who was an abusive ass and ended up ghosting me after 7 years together. He introduced me to his parents after 2 dates as I did him with mine. They had never even met the ex of 7 years, but this one felt so right. He was even planning on our future after one week, saying where he'd like to be in a years time. Unfortunately due to personal circumstances we didn't see each other again, and he's now married I believe..

I think the pandemic and all the restrictions that have come with it have made everything more intense.

I was going to say this. I've noticed it too.

Yes, almost two years in and hasn't changed.

Yes, but unfortunately both of us were married and we ended up going down the same road together. Chemistry and connection was sky high. I ended my marriage over it.

It is amazing to find that with someone and it’ll rarely happen in a lifetime.

This is lovely.

I had this once but unfortunately for me it wasn't to be. The feeling I had when I just kissed him was nothing I've felt before or since. He felt exciting yet so familiar. These things are once in a lifetime I'm sure. I still think of him daily.

Great to see a happy update OP

Ah we've just passed a year together and it's just the same! With the addition that he is my best friend, who I can tell anything too and won't ever judge me, and who embraces my love of a takeaway, pjs and a film on a Friday night! 😂
But he is still the only man I've ever met who literally makes me weak at the knees and gives me a wonderful feeling of being grounded. He's my gravity and I bloody love him.

And he is still kind, decent and a joy to be with.

Yes and we've been together 15 years and he still makes my heart skip a beat.

Yes! Married him 11 months later 😁 couldn't be happier

Yes. Exactly same as what you described.
However it turns out he is a (happily) married man with 2 kids (he told me that he is single but he has a “room mate that always in the flat” so we only met at mine) . I said that i would not see him anymore but he tried to convince me to continue “us” as a pure sexual relationship and he “would choose to be with me as the chemistry is so strong bla bla bla but he is tied financially with the mortgage and could not leave his kids” … Meanwhile i discovered that he is doing similar thing with several other women as i found out that he has had several shady social media accounts that follows only one person.(same as the way he chatted with me..and i stupidly believed that he “is not keen on social media”) At the end i found that he told me a fake name. But i know his job and where he works. And i just felt sorry for his wife (blissfully unknown to all this but i do think its just a matter of time of catching him)