Has anyone experienced such an intense chemistry with a new partner before?

[OrlandointheWilderness]

I've just started seeing someone. From the second I saw him it has been overwhelming, there is an incredible pull towards him but a familiarity at the same time. Sexually it is like nothing I've ever experienced before. He is feeling the same - he brought it up the other day and said about it. It's like a craving, but instead of craving on a purely sexual level I'm craving him. We connect on an intellectual and emotional level too, it's effortless and feels as easy as breathing.

It's terrifying me quite frankly! We started seeing each other three weeks ago and I'm not a lovesick teenager, I'm a grown woman and he is a grown man. As back ground we've never met before but have mutual friends and he is pretty universally thought of as a decent, good man.
Does anyone have experience of this?!

You say you've been together seven months, then in another post 10 months, then a year?

Look at the dates of the posts

Yes. Spent 9 years on and off, feeling all the feels, good and bad, forgave some things I really shouldn’t have because as soon as I saw him I wanted to jump him. Split up before Xmas and then accidentally bumped into him recently and ended up shagging him again, only for him to go cold and push me away again.

Fucking chemistry can do one tbh.

I know he felt it too as about a week after we met he tried to dump me because he had found himself “craving me” and wasn’t ready to meet someone fat with 3 kids “real” but when I cried he felt bad and changed his mind. Should have left it there really, as he clearly resented the fact that his body wanted me when his mind didn’t.

Yes, and we've been together almost 4 years. I've fancied all my partners, but at the age of 37, with both of us previously married to others, I got the fireworks/knowing he was the one, that I'd never had before. Two hours after our first date he messaged me to say "this has long term written all over it". I still fancy him like mad & start blushing if I catch his eye for long enough!

The happy stories on this thread make me sad for all that I’ve missed out on in life. Probably too late now (I’m 47).

Update anyone!?

2 years ago tonight we had date number one. He's still not a twat! 😁 Bloody love him and its still incredible, best relationship I've ever had.

@OrlandointheWilderness amazing! Oh I love a happy update 😍

Sometimes it's not all doom and gloom is it!

Yes, the minute we laid eyes on each other we knew. It was as if we had known each other all our lives right from that first meeting. I went home and told my friend I had met the man I would fall in love with, and he did exactly the same thing. It wasn't sexual for some months, but he was all I ever thought about, and vice versa. We are 20 years in now :)

Fantastic update OP, good for you!

Great update . Congratulations.
Have you / are you moving in together ?
or keeping yourselves as two independent people ?

I invited my (now) DH round for a couple of drinks and he never left. We spent all the first night talking and kissing and just couldn't bear to be apart. Got married in 11 months. Good luck OP!

We're just in the process of moving in together @MayBeee.

@OrlandointheWilderness I commented on this thread because I had this with my now DH from our first date. Loads of people said I was bonkers, barely knew each other etc but I’d met my share of arseholes and I just knew.

13 years later, we are the same. We had our first child last year, and when she was 16 weeks I found out I had breast cancer. I don’t know how I would have got through it without him and for some bizarre reason (because I feel hideous) even after a c section, only having one boob and all my hair falling out - growing back now but I look like 11 from bloody stranger things - he still looks at me like I’m the most beautiful woman on earth. Sometimes you really do find a good one. Good luck with the next chapter ❤️

@WorryMcGee so sorry to hear about your trials, but thank you for commenting. Yes I think somethings lightning actually does strike! Glad you found your person too.

Love your updates. Happy for you.

Anyone for an update..?
He's still not a twat! He's bloody wonderful, my absolute rock. Never a cross word, we laugh together and enjoy a damn good seeing too as always! 3 years soon.

I'm still addicted!

Yes, I’m still trying to get over it. He was a pathological lier amongst other things and told me he’d left his wife - he hadn’t.

I’ll never get over the person I thought he was though - I’ve never experienced anything like it. It felt like we were made for one another.

awww i love this! I'm older than you and just embarking on a new relationship for the first time in absolutely years. I didn't think I needed a man in my life until i found one and now I'm like a love struck teenager with butterflies in their stomach when they think about him! Hopefully he doesn't turn out to be a twat.

Yes! I was totally and utterly in love, married him, had kids, thought I was the luckiest person alive. 25 years later it turned out he was a narcissist and it had all been a sham. Pretty extreme situation all round!

Same 😔

Lucky you!

I thought that was me until this last week - 9 months of pure bliss but over today as she thinks she has feelings for her ex. Really did think she was THE one!

Yes, been together 18 years and still feel it but not as intense of course!