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Has anyone experienced such an intense chemistry with a new partner before?

249 replies

OrlandointheWilderness · 30/06/2021 21:03

I've just started seeing someone. From the second I saw him it has been overwhelming, there is an incredible pull towards him but a familiarity at the same time. Sexually it is like nothing I've ever experienced before. He is feeling the same - he brought it up the other day and said about it. It's like a craving, but instead of craving on a purely sexual level I'm craving him. We connect on an intellectual and emotional level too, it's effortless and feels as easy as breathing.

It's terrifying me quite frankly! We started seeing each other three weeks ago and I'm not a lovesick teenager, I'm a grown woman and he is a grown man. As back ground we've never met before but have mutual friends and he is pretty universally thought of as a decent, good man.
Does anyone have experience of this?!

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Guavafish · 01/07/2021 03:50

Yep

6 years together and married for a year!

BootsScootsAndToots · 01/07/2021 03:55

Yes, with DH.

I quit my job after knowing him for 3 months to follow him backpacking.

The day after we met I told my DM I'd met the guy I was going to marry.

We've been together 16 years, married 13.5 years.

1300cakes · 01/07/2021 04:42

I had something like this, we ended up getting together and eventually got married. It's been 6 years now and the feeling is completely gone, as you would expect I guess. I find him so boring and not particularly attractive. I'm sure he feels the same. But anyway, enjoy.

Dannyandsandy · 01/07/2021 04:49

Yeah, it’s called the honeymoon period Hmm

maras2 · 01/07/2021 04:55

Felt just like this when we met in 1968.
Still feeling it 53 years later.
He's drooling and snoring like a wounded hippo next to me but I look at him and see the 19 year old from back then and just think,
'Ahhh, still got it' Wink

YeokensYegg · 01/07/2021 05:03

Yes, at an airport.
I was just sitting there by the gates being bored and I happened to look up and locked eyes with him. The most intense wave of energy engulfed me head to toe. I felt like a couldn't breathe.
He walks to where I was sitting.
and asked me my name. We exchanged names and chit chat and I said so you felt that too. I was going to Madrid and he was going to Hong Kong but now he's going to Madrid.
We went to the counter, he bought a seat and changed my ticket to sit together. We spent an amazing 3 weeks there. 😁

Cazzovuoi · 01/07/2021 05:08

Yes and we’re married 15 years next month.

Craving is the right word, we absolutely couldn’t not be together despite some difficulties. We upturned a lot of things to be together but we’re still going strong all these years later so worth it in the end.

The intensity faded long ago but what is left is the most incredible friendship, partnership and love. Plus he’s really good in bed Grin

Wegobshite · 01/07/2021 05:15

Yes I let my husband in March married in the August of the same year
He came home with me from a nightclub and never left 😂
We have been married 22 years this summer

Amethyst1974 · 01/07/2021 05:39

Yes. It wasn’t meant to be though. I miss him every single day.

lothermand · 01/07/2021 05:45

I've had several LT relationships (I'm erm..mature) I've experienced lust, this isn't lust. I've experienced a slow burn, that never ignited sadly. I've not been love bombed either. This just feels 'right' not schmaltzy 'right', just ordinary 'right'. That's the reason it's so scary..but I'm 'mature' so I think I can handle any 'fallout'.

Elderflower14 · 01/07/2021 05:46

@YeokensYegg

Yes, at an airport. I was just sitting there by the gates being bored and I happened to look up and locked eyes with him. The most intense wave of energy engulfed me head to toe. I felt like a couldn't breathe. He walks to where I was sitting. and asked me my name. We exchanged names and chit chat and I said so you felt that too. I was going to Madrid and he was going to Hong Kong but now he's going to Madrid. We went to the counter, he bought a seat and changed my ticket to sit together. We spent an amazing 3 weeks there. 😁
Are you still together?
category12 · 01/07/2021 05:46

Just to be clear it isn't a sexual thing - yes there is an element of it there, and the sex is utterly incredible, but it does go far past that.
And I'm pretty well versed on love bombing - there has been no warning signs that I've seen from him.
I am also completely aware of everything that can go wrong here. That why I posted really - this is scary! Wonderful, but terrifying.

It's only been 3 weeks

This.

For everyone whose relationship like this worked out, there's someone for whom it turned out shit. I had the thunderbolt experience and amazing chemistry with my ex.

Chemistry is just that. It's incredible, and it's fun, and it's mind-blowing. But whether the relationship has legs or not is not rooted in chemistry.

At three weeks, you really are fooling yourself to say there's no signs of this or that. It's three weeks!

lothermand · 01/07/2021 05:47

@maras2 you are an incredibly lucky lady..not sure about the snoring thoughWink

Peppallama · 01/07/2021 05:54

Under a month and I'd assume its ovulation making me randy Grin I've felt the same about the guy from bridgerton after all.

81Byerley · 01/07/2021 06:06

Yes, my husband and I met 17 years ago. We still talk about it now....and we still adore each other.

SingingInTheShithouse · 01/07/2021 06:28

Yes, now together for over 22 years & married nearly 20 with wonderful DD. We did actually know each other for a long time before that, but both of us were loyal to other partners. First drunken kiss when we met up as singles as I was visiting his town was as you described & the rest is history

grapefruitish · 01/07/2021 06:30

@inmyslippers

Yes he turned out to be a narcissist and was love bombing me
Same.
2018SoFarSoGreat · 01/07/2021 06:42

Yes. Absolutely that. Been married 40 years and still feel the same.

Dandy0911 · 01/07/2021 06:43

Yep! I felt exactly that when I met my husband. First time I clocked eyes with him I was drawn to him like nothing before. We've been together 8 years and although the initial exciting, giddy phase is over, he's the absolute love of my life and my soul mate.

Cannes12 · 01/07/2021 06:55

Yes isn't it great?
Now married with 3 kids and v v happy.
Beware though, there may still be bumps in the road as you grow closer and integrate your lives, as there is for most couples.

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 01/07/2021 06:57

Yes exactly the same, he turned out to be a sponging cock lodger and we're now divorced.

HappyCamperT5 · 01/07/2021 06:57

@Elderflower14 are you still together?

Elderflower14 · 01/07/2021 06:59

[quote HappyCamperT5]@Elderflower14 are you still together?[/quote]
Not my story.. I was asking someone else the same thing!

HappyCamperT5 · 01/07/2021 07:11

Oh sorry @Elderflower14
I was also meant to ask @YeokensYegg
Are you still together?

edwinbear · 01/07/2021 07:24

Yes, he turned out to be an utterly vile human being. The chemistry was mind blowing though. I hope never to see, hear from or speak to him again - although if we did happen to bump into each other, I’ve no doubt we’d be ripping each other’s clothes off within seconds.