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Has anyone experienced such an intense chemistry with a new partner before?

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OrlandointheWilderness · 30/06/2021 21:03

I've just started seeing someone. From the second I saw him it has been overwhelming, there is an incredible pull towards him but a familiarity at the same time. Sexually it is like nothing I've ever experienced before. He is feeling the same - he brought it up the other day and said about it. It's like a craving, but instead of craving on a purely sexual level I'm craving him. We connect on an intellectual and emotional level too, it's effortless and feels as easy as breathing.

It's terrifying me quite frankly! We started seeing each other three weeks ago and I'm not a lovesick teenager, I'm a grown woman and he is a grown man. As back ground we've never met before but have mutual friends and he is pretty universally thought of as a decent, good man.
Does anyone have experience of this?!

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MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 30/06/2021 21:06

Yes, we've been together over 30 years Grin

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OrlandointheWilderness · 30/06/2021 21:12

@MrsPelligrinoPetrichor

Yes, we've been together over 30 years Grin
You made me smile! Was it overwhelming for you at the start too?
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DaxtheDestroyer · 30/06/2021 21:14

Yes same here and we're on 22 years.
We had quite a tough time at the start with extraneous things going on and we talked about giving it up but neither of us could bear the thought.
We still have that same connection, 3 kids and much ill-health later.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 30/06/2021 21:21

Was it overwhelming for you at the start too? Very!

AttilaTheMeerkat · 30/06/2021 21:22

Yes, we celebrated our Silver wedding anniversary not so long ago.

osbertthesyrianhamster · 30/06/2021 21:24

Why is everyone a person meets these days a 'partner'?

HappyCamperT5 · 30/06/2021 21:24

Yep! 2kids and 11 years later and we feel exactly the same ❤️

Itis6oclocksomewhere · 30/06/2021 21:24

Yes, me! We've just celebrated 20 years together, been married 17 years and have three beautiful children.

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OrlandointheWilderness · 30/06/2021 21:26

@osbertthesyrianhamster

Why is everyone a person meets these days a 'partner'?
Because saying boyfriend seems odd when you are 37?! There was no real point behind it, quick typing is all. Maybe 'squeeze' would've been better Grin
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Naaaaah · 30/06/2021 21:27

no, never. no one before you has ever experienced a deep sexual/emotional connection with someone. you are the first.

Bryonyshcmyony · 30/06/2021 21:27

Yes. We've been together for 27 years and have four amazing kids. Absolutely mental for the first few months. He gave me the key to his flat after 10 days and we've been together ever since.

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OrlandointheWilderness · 30/06/2021 21:27

You lot are lovely to read. Still scaring me though!!!

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Travielkapelka · 30/06/2021 21:28

I did with someone when I was first single, it was like nothing I’ve ever felt in my life and I doubt I’ll ever have it again. Ultimately the timing and other things were wrong but it was incredible

I’ve got 90% of that with my current partner. I look at him and think he’s the most sexy attractive man and can’t believe my luck. Luckily we also get on brilliantly too but the chemistry is hot

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OrlandointheWilderness · 30/06/2021 21:28

@Naaaaah

no, never. no one before you has ever experienced a deep sexual/emotional connection with someone. you are the first.
Ah I do apologise for phrasing the title incredibly badly, how foolish of me.
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Iamuhtredsonofuhtred · 30/06/2021 21:29

Yes. He turned out to be a wanker but at first it was incredible

idontlikealdi · 30/06/2021 21:31

@Iamuhtredsonofuhtred

Yes. He turned out to be a wanker but at first it was incredible
Same here Grin
Doyoumind · 30/06/2021 21:37

Yes. It didn't work out long term though.

inmyslippers · 30/06/2021 21:45

Yes he turned out to be a narcissist and was love bombing me

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OrlandointheWilderness · 30/06/2021 21:58

Thank you everyone- it's good to hear experiences from both sides!

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Chunkymenrock · 30/06/2021 22:00

Yes I have. Unfortunately I was married when it happened. It's probably limerance.

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OrlandointheWilderness · 30/06/2021 22:02

@Chunkymenrock

Yes I have. Unfortunately I was married when it happened. It's probably limerance.
Yes I'm aware it could well be. I'm keeping my eyes on something still too.
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Tuckedinbelly · 30/06/2021 22:02

Of course. It's just hormones and chemicals though. biology. Evolution. Nothing more nothing less. May as well enjoy it all the same

Iknowtheanswer · 30/06/2021 22:03

Yes, but it couldn't work long term because we were different religions/cultures and it was just too hard to deal with. A bit of me is still heartbroken 30 years later. I know he is too.

PenelopeP1tstop · 30/06/2021 22:05

I'd try and calm down a bit tbh

AnneLovesGilbert · 30/06/2021 22:06

With an ex. It was a torrid fling, had no future at all but my god what a summer we had Grin

I grew to feel that about DH, as I got to know him, after neither liking nor being attracted to him when we first met.

Still pretty obsessed with him (DH) and he says and shows he feels the same after years of marriage and kids and normal life. He makes the blood in my veins feel sparkly and also feels like home.

Enjoy every minute OP, he might be the love of your life or just give you an amazing summer - there’s merit in both!