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Husband said he will divorce me if I get Botox

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0zzyfan · 05/06/2021 21:14

....... and I got it on Thursday .....

I have wanted it for some time, and love it!
The effects haven’t fully started yet, but I mentioned a friend (who was with me) had it and he hit the roof!

Said point blank - if I fucked with my face he would leave me over it. No questions asked.

The only question I have is - should I pack his bags for him and tell him? Or just ignore him and continue making myself happy?!

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AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 05/06/2021 21:15

Tell him and let him make his decision

LadyOfTheFlowers · 05/06/2021 21:16

He said THE same as yours - meant to say.

seekingadvice23 · 05/06/2021 21:16

Make yourself happy!! I'd love to have it! Pregnant at the moment. Was it painful?

JM10 · 05/06/2021 21:16

Well do you want to be with a man who thinks he can dictate what you do to your own body?

Umberellatheweatha · 05/06/2021 21:21

Tell him to get packing.

It's your body and you can do what you like with it.

I'd maybe understand if he was reacting this way about a nose job ect...as he thought you might die in the procedure or something. But botox...pft..
he is just being a dick.

bagelbaby · 05/06/2021 21:21

Keep going. Mine has no idea.

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0zzyfan · 05/06/2021 21:21

@seekingadvice23 it felt much like a lead pencil being pointed on my head - you know how you might do absent mindedly?
Some bits stung the smallest amount, but for no more than a second ?!

Very very easy to do! Go for it if you want to!

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0zzyfan · 05/06/2021 21:23

@AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken

I am feeling this! I’d rather not keep a secret - as that IS something that I am against

Botox however ....?! It’s my face! ....

Right?!!

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TheMotherlode · 05/06/2021 21:23

Just tell him and what he does with that information is his choice, you’ve nothing to be ashamed of and it’s fuck all to do with him what you do with your own face.

roseylemonade · 05/06/2021 21:23

Omg! You can do what you want to your own face!! As long as you have the money it is completely up to you!! My partner was very much against it but I think they think everyone who has Botox will look like this plastic barbie and really it's not like that! I get mine done regularly now and tbh he doesn't even notice anymore!

AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 05/06/2021 21:24

@Umberellatheweatha

Tell him to get packing.

It's your body and you can do what you like with it.

I'd maybe understand if he was reacting this way about a nose job ect...as he thought you might die in the procedure or something. But botox...pft..
he is just being a dick.

I’d be so upset if my husband started getting Botox. I can understand why he’d feel the same.
TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 05/06/2021 21:24

You should do what you like with your body.

However, some peeps with Botox look like they’re wearing a Halloween mask (India Knight) and I guess that’s mostly the only Botox you ‘see’.

So, he probably just doesn’t want a terrifying mask lady for a wife and has no idea that it can look subtle.

Serpenta · 05/06/2021 21:26

He's entitled to not like it but that seems a very extreme reaction. Does he mean it or does he generally tend to be a bit ott?

Thinking about it, if my husband decided to, for example, have his entire face tattooed I would find that very hard to tolerate even though his face his choice etc. Is that the same as what your DH is doing? Hmm.

Veterinari · 05/06/2021 21:27

I’d be so upset if my husband started getting Botox. I can understand why he’d feel the same.

Why? It's weird to think you have the right to control another person's body

@0zzyfan I wouldn't tell him for a month until the effects have fully kicked in. Then I'd say again that you're thinking of getting Botox and he tells you no you can ask him why he's do against something that has had no noticeable effect on your health or appearance?

If you tell him now you'll just get him squinting at you and saying that he can 'tell' and doesn't like it

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0zzyfan · 05/06/2021 21:29

I think he is worried about the mask lady look, as many people are who don’t realise half the ‘refreshed’ ladies they see and admire are full of Botox!

But I have to admit I feel this is also very ‘you will look how I want you to’ rather than ‘if this is what you want I’ll explain my reservations but ultimately it’s your body’

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AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 05/06/2021 21:29

@Veterinari

I’d be so upset if my husband started getting Botox. I can understand why he’d feel the same.

Why? It's weird to think you have the right to control another person's body

@0zzyfan I wouldn't tell him for a month until the effects have fully kicked in. Then I'd say again that you're thinking of getting Botox and he tells you no you can ask him why he's do against something that has had no noticeable effect on your health or appearance?

If you tell him now you'll just get him squinting at you and saying that he can 'tell' and doesn't like it

Is there really nothing your partner could do to their body that wouldn’t upset you? If they got an eyebrow piercing or a really horrible tattoo?
Veterinari · 05/06/2021 21:29

@Serpenta

He's entitled to not like it but that seems a very extreme reaction. Does he mean it or does he generally tend to be a bit ott?

Thinking about it, if my husband decided to, for example, have his entire face tattooed I would find that very hard to tolerate even though his face his choice etc. Is that the same as what your DH is doing? Hmm.

Except facial tattoos are always visible, permanent and impact on employability.

Not quite the same thing.

I think it's reasonable to want to discuss why your wife wants Botox and how you feel about it/what the implications are. But not reasonable to dictate

MichelleScarn · 05/06/2021 21:30

Agree with the as long as you have the money aspect, do you have the money for the continuing appointments?

justanotherneighinparadise · 05/06/2021 21:31

My only criticism with Botox is it can make some women look rather hard faced. Sort of pissed off constantly.

Winkywonkydonkey · 05/06/2021 21:33

If it's joint finances I'd be annoyed at a few hundred pounds going on face-feeezing every few months. But each to their own.

toastjam · 05/06/2021 21:36

I got it today and am so happy. I have 2 babies under 2 and haven't slept in years and I wanted to do it for myself. I said to DH I wouldn't get it - but only if he dealt with every night waking. He said no so I got it 😀

londonscalling · 05/06/2021 21:39

Whilst I appreciate you can do what you want to your face, I like the fact that your husband loves you as you are. MN's would be up in arms if he said he would leave you if you didn't get it!

SappysCurry · 05/06/2021 21:43

hi Op
Does he not want you to look lovely ? It seems very extreme to say he’s going to leave you over it….

AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 05/06/2021 21:44

@SappysCurry

hi Op Does he not want you to look lovely ? It seems very extreme to say he’s going to leave you over it….
You don’t need Botox to “look lovely”
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