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0zzyfan · 2021-06-05T20:14:24+00:00

....... and I got it on Thursday ..... I have wanted it for some time, and love it! The effects haven’t fully started yet, but I mentioned a friend (who was with me) had it and he hit the roof! Said point blank - if I fucked with my face he would leave me over it. No questions asked. The only question I have is - should I pack his bags for him and tell him? Or just ignore him and continue making myself happy?!

MrsMaizel · 06/06/2021 21:31

[quote Yesyoucantell]@DelBocaVista

I'm just sick of people pretending to themselves and others that Botox and fillers look good. They don't, they look crap.
The industry is built on women's insecurities and it makes me sick.

I'm allowed to say and think this and not join in with the delusion.

As for your look I've no idea what you look like in person, you probably look lovely but in general I personally think fake tan looks tacky.

My hairdresser is a beautiful, beautiful woman with lovely skin but she started fake tanning due to feeling insecure (she told me this) and it looks orange and cheap and nasty. So I'm sad for her.
She's also super intelligent and interesting to chat with, talented and creative so I'M not judging hairdressers.[/quote]
You do seem a bit obsessed about this even changing your name for this ? You say you are "sad" about fake tans and "sad" botox and "sad" about blah blah .....It actually sounds like you have some issues that need tackling . Why do you spend so much of your life being sad because other people don't look they way you like ? 🤔

MrsMaizel · 06/06/2021 21:33

[quote Yesyoucantell]@oioisaveloy108

Probably not, no, but I'm just being honest.

You can tell when someone's had botox.
Fake tan is tacky.
Lip fillers look ridiculous.

That's just my opinion. I'm not telling people not to do those things if it makes them feel better.[/quote]
How sad that you feel you are not a nice person ....

BackforGood · 06/06/2021 23:15

I agree @Mookie81
I know MN likes to call men out as being controlling whenver it can - and generally, that is not a bad thing - but the OP has come back to the thread with a list of things she has done, and continues to do that her dh really dislikes.. Now, if this were a man who refused to take on board anything about his wife's feelings, and who continued to change his body and put all his efforts into looking very different from the man they fell in love with, the answers on this thread would be very, very different. The fact the OP is so comfortable with doing so much she knows her dh doesn't like, says something about their relationship and lack of consideration for him so him having being pushed past his line isn't a sudden, one of ultimatum.

Some excellent posts by @AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken

@MrsMaizel - you really are coming across as very childish. This is a discussion board.

nolovelost · 07/06/2021 08:27

Like you said, the botox is to make a subtle change so it seems like an overreaction to say he'll divorce you.

When you say that you don't care that he doesn't like your change with the hair colour and extentions, do you mean that you REALLY don't care, as in that he could leave you? Some men really don't like their woman to change completely from their usual look, which is understandable I think, they like them for what they were when they met. I know a man that wasn't happy about his wife's complete hair change!

But you do what makes you happy.

Tulipsandviolets · 07/06/2021 09:16

I would be very concerned putting anything uneseccery into someone's face. I appreciate why ppl do it to look younger and boost their self esteem but so many thing's can go wrong and ppl end up all looking like clones with pumped up expressionless faces. Was your husband just concerned as surely that's just normal??

MrsMaizel · 07/06/2021 09:58

@BackforGood

I agree *@Mookie81* I know MN likes to call men out as being controlling whenver it can - and generally, that is not a bad thing - but the OP has come back to the thread with a list of things she has done, and continues to do that her dh really dislikes.. Now, if this were a man who refused to take on board anything about his wife's feelings, and who continued to change his body and put all his efforts into looking very different from the man they fell in love with, the answers on this thread would be very, very different. The fact the OP is so comfortable with doing so much she knows her dh doesn't like, says something about their relationship and lack of consideration for him so him having being pushed past his line isn't a sudden, one of ultimatum.

Some excellent posts by @AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken

@MrsMaizel - you really are coming across as very childish. This is a discussion board.

You need to read the whole thread .

Ingridla · 07/06/2021 11:36

@Tulipsandviolets

I would be very concerned putting anything uneseccery into someone's face. I appreciate why ppl do it to look younger and boost their self esteem but so many thing's can go wrong and ppl end up all looking like clones with pumped up expressionless faces. Was your husband just concerned as surely that's just normal??

Not if one goes to Harley St is doesn't

ChequerBoard · 07/06/2021 11:40

I think I there are enough examples of very wealthy women who could afford the very best cosmetic surgery & treatments who wish they had left well alone.

Britt Ekland, Lesley Ash, Jackie Stallone and many other were hardly going to a backstreet hairdresser were they?

A Harley Street address doesn't mean you won't suffer from bad treatment or have side effects!

user1471538283 · 07/06/2021 12:09

I love botox! I only have a little to freshen up. I would let him go.

I was once told by DSs father he would leave if I went blonde or cut my hair. That was because he didnt want me getting an attention. We broke up anyway and the last time I saw him he complemented me on my hair.

Your body, your choice.

MintyMabel · 07/06/2021 13:14

You'd leave your life partner if they wanted Botox?
Wow that's pretty shallow

I’d leave him if he decided to put his health at risk for vanity, yes.

Having had to deal with the risks and complications of our daughter having Botox injections for her disability, yes, if he chose to put us through that again, I’d leave him.

LostSocksBrigade · 07/06/2021 13:25

Honestly I didn't read the whole thread so not sure if it's been addressed already but you had it without even talking about it with him beforehand? What a lot of husband bashing in the first few pages for him making a comment that as far as he knew was hypothetical. Given an actual conversation he may have lined up with your own values, but you weren't honest about it, and you literally set up a conversation for him to fail in. There's no real context to this unless more has happened since your first post and if I were him I'd be annoyed that you didn't at least have a real conversation about it BEFORE having it for so many reasons. You could have had a reaction, it's a lot of money, and just good communication between spouses?

pixiecircles · 07/06/2021 13:32

I haven't RTFT but what I did read was a lot of people giving their opinions on whether or not the OP should have Botox? That's none of anyone's business except their own?

OP, agree with the previous comment about joint finances and if that is the case, it should have been discussed from that perspective alone. But aside from that, it's your face, so do as you please.

I had an ex who was dead against me getting filler until I did it and he admitted it actually looked great, really balanced my face out. Do it for you, provided you can afford it x

SeaShoreGalore · 07/06/2021 13:50

I’ve had botox for my frown lines. Best money I’ve ever spent.

BackforGood · 07/06/2021 15:10

You need to read the whole thread

I have MrsMaizel, and had done when I posted yesterday

Yesyoucantell · 07/06/2021 17:24

@MrsMaizel oh the irony of someone who keeps coming after me telling me I'm obsessed!! Careful, you're causing me laughter lines which seem to be frowned upon here (oops you can't do that with Botox can you? Sorry!).

I sincerely apologise if my honest OPINION that Botox, fillers etc are obvious and weird looking offends you. It must sting to realise you've spent £££ on pointless procedures.

How sad

Lurcherloves · 08/06/2021 21:16

Don’t tell him. I’ve had it loads of times and DH doesn’t notice. He does say that I look nice more often. When it starts to wear off he says I look tired. I don’t go OTT though and a have a small dose

Lurcherloves · 08/06/2021 21:20

@MintyMabel what health issues did your DD face that were a result of Botox?

MintyMabel · 08/06/2021 21:37

@Lurcherloves

Without giving too much detail, after her fourth dose, there were a series of effects that lasted months, and basically made it impossible for her to do the simplest of tasks. She was exhausted, and breathless, and it has left her with some long term muscle weakness we are still trying to correct years later. It was supposed to be therapeutic and help her be in less pain. We refused further treatment.

Lurcherloves · 08/06/2021 22:04

@MintyMabel I’m sorry to hear that. I hope she is improving and you have been able to find alternative pain management. It must be very difficult seeing your daughter suffer

nancybotwinbloom · 08/06/2021 22:34

Get it.
Dot tell him
See if he notices

Ingridla · 09/06/2021 08:22

@ChequerBoard

I think I there are enough examples of very wealthy women who could afford the very best cosmetic surgery & treatments who wish they had left well alone.

Britt Ekland, Lesley Ash, Jackie Stallone and many other were hardly going to a backstreet hairdresser were they?

A Harley Street address doesn't mean you won't suffer from bad treatment or have side effects!

Procedures have considerably moved on since the early 90s my dear

ChequerBoard · 09/06/2021 09:46

@ingridgla, well my condescending numpty, perhaps take a look at any of the women who are on 'real housewives of Cheshire'.

Again, hardly short of money, are going to clinics considered the very best and having multiple 'tweakments'. In the latest series almost all of them look like pillow faced, boss eyed, fish lipped loons. It's very obvious they have had 'work' on their faces and that over time it's leaving them with issues.

Is that a recent enough example??

AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 09/06/2021 10:27

[quote ChequerBoard]@ingridgla, well my condescending numpty, perhaps take a look at any of the women who are on 'real housewives of Cheshire'.

Again, hardly short of money, are going to clinics considered the very best and having multiple 'tweakments'. In the latest series almost all of them look like pillow faced, boss eyed, fish lipped loons. It's very obvious they have had 'work' on their faces and that over time it's leaving them with issues.

Is that a recent enough example??

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Also the Khloe Kardashian.

She only more recently started to mess with her face.

It’s been a very fast slide for her.

Ingridla · 09/06/2021 15:50

That my dears is filler. Botox, if done subtly does not alter the face, it merely stops wrinkles. You're looking at the worst examples and Khloe Kardashian has had WAAAY more than a dab of Botox done.

I happen to know what I am talking about, you're basing your ill judgement on celebrities who have gone so far overboard with their treatments it's like comparing rice to ice cream.

Ingridla · 09/06/2021 15:52

[quote ChequerBoard]@ingridgla, well my condescending numpty, perhaps take a look at any of the women who are on 'real housewives of Cheshire'.

Again, hardly short of money, are going to clinics considered the very best and having multiple 'tweakments'. In the latest series almost all of them look like pillow faced, boss eyed, fish lipped loons. It's very obvious they have had 'work' on their faces and that over time it's leaving them with issues.

Is that a recent enough example??

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Oh and by the way, if you have to resort to name calling you've clearly lost the argument.