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Husband put a tracking device in babies push chair

324 replies

Tilpop · 05/06/2021 20:16

So today I had a child free day for the first time in 11 months.
I went for a hair cut then out for lunch with my best friend.

DH took LO out for the day.

Got home and he had opened a Package. He said they were devices used to find keys, bags etc. Then proceeded to show me that they "beep" when the app on your phone is activated.

Turns out these are apple air tags.

I decided to take LO for a walk in the push chair as he was getting grouchy and needed a nap. I opened the top of the chair and inside was one of these devices.

I googled it and apparently they are also tracking devices.

WTF........ I'm gutted. I asked him about it when I got home and he said he was testing it to see if it worked. But never told me it was there to start with.

There are 8 of them sat in my kitchen.

He says they are for keys etc......and you need to be near them for them to show on the app.

I doubt this as I've googled it.

What do I do. I'm so upset. Does anyone know anything about this?

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MrsFin · 05/06/2021 20:17

What are you worried about exactly?

Purplewithred · 05/06/2021 20:18

I've got a tracker on my car keys as I lost them once. Could it be innocent? Why do you think it might be something sinister? Does he have form for not trusting you?

PacifyLulu · 05/06/2021 20:19

OP is worried because her partner tracked her without his knowledge.

OP how’s the rest of your relationship?

RoseRedRoseBlue · 05/06/2021 20:19

How this plays out will depend entirely on the nature of your relationship.

Hyacinth88 · 05/06/2021 20:20

I'm not understanding really.
There must be more to this. Do you have trust issues

Original poster
Tilpop · 05/06/2021 20:20

Not at all. We have cameras all over the house. And he monitors our bank account (but has his own) that's I have no access to to.

I just feel like he has done something sneaky. It wasn't on view he had hidden it.

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3ormorecharacters · 05/06/2021 20:21

Sounds fairly innocent to me. It's not like he put it in your handbag or anything. He would have to think really very little of you to suspect that you were taking your baby to some kind of illicit encounter, assuming that's what you think he was checking.

AOwlAOwlAOwl · 05/06/2021 20:22

You have cameras in the house and a bank account with your money in it you can't access?

Wantubackforgood · 05/06/2021 20:22

We have got a few of these .it pops up on your phone to say an air tag is near you so you always know if you are being "followed".....I like them ...but then I am bad for losing things like keys xx

MrsFin · 05/06/2021 20:22

Were you going anywhere you didn't what DH to know about? If not, I can't see the issue.

WouldBeGood · 05/06/2021 20:22

What do you mean about cameras all over the house?

bounce89 · 05/06/2021 20:22

Why do you have cameras all over your house?

Aprilwasverywet · 05/06/2021 20:23

Personally I would buy a cheap buggy and keep it in my boot..do not use the one he has bugged.. He sounds unhinged..

YoureGoingToHateMe · 05/06/2021 20:24

Why on earth do you have cameras all over your house? Do you mean cameras actually inside the house or security ones covering drive/ garden?

Wantubackforgood · 05/06/2021 20:24

We also have cameras ,can see if teenagers have come home at time we requested and if they have any girls in ...got nothing to hide so they work for us .

Original poster
Tilpop · 05/06/2021 20:24

He works away a lot and I stay home with the baby all the time.

Half the time I have no idea where he is. Maybe I'm just being silly he said he was
"Testing" it. So why not tell me. Why do it in secret?
I've nothing to hide

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pinkyredrose · 05/06/2021 20:24

We have cameras all over the house. And he monitors our bank account (but has his own) that's I have no access to to

He's a controller, watching you everywhere. Do you have your own account that he has no access to or is that his privilege alone?

RoseRedRoseBlue · 05/06/2021 20:24

@Tilpop

Not at all. We have cameras all over the house. And he monitors our bank account (but has his own) that's I have no access to to.

I just feel like he has done something sneaky. It wasn't on view he had hidden it.

This puts a very different slant on things.
HollowTalk · 05/06/2021 20:25

@Tilpop

Not at all. We have cameras all over the house. And he monitors our bank account (but has his own) that's I have no access to to.

I just feel like he has done something sneaky. It wasn't on view he had hidden it.

Oh my god - that is terrifying. Honestly, it's like the start of a psychological thriller where everyone's screaming at the heroine to get away from her husband as soon as she can. You can't live like that, OP.
HollowTalk · 05/06/2021 20:26

Have you posted about this before? He watches you while he's away?

UhtredRagnarson · 05/06/2021 20:26

Cameras all over the inside of your house? You have no access to money? And now 8 tracking devices? There’ll be one going in your car for sure. Does he have a key logger on your phone? He could be reading this thread.

AntiHop · 05/06/2021 20:26

You are right to be concerned. It sounds like he was planning to track you without your knowledge.

pinkyredrose · 05/06/2021 20:26

Were you going anywhere you didn't what DH to know about? If not, I can't see the issue Hmm seriously? You'd be happy being spied on?

There's this thing called 'privacy', to some people it's quite important.

me4real · 05/06/2021 20:26

If it's innocent, to keep tabs of items, I don't see why he would put it in a pushchair. People don't often lose pushchairs, do they? And that he didn't tell you is a bit weird.

Original poster
Tilpop · 05/06/2021 20:27

@HollowTalk
Yes

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