Husband put a tracking device in babies push chair

[Tilpop]

So today I had a child free day for the first time in 11 months.
I went for a hair cut then out for lunch with my best friend.

DH took LO out for the day.

Got home and he had opened a Package. He said they were devices used to find keys, bags etc. Then proceeded to show me that they "beep" when the app on your phone is activated.

Turns out these are apple air tags.

I decided to take LO for a walk in the push chair as he was getting grouchy and needed a nap. I opened the top of the chair and inside was one of these devices.

I googled it and apparently they are also tracking devices.

WTF........ I'm gutted. I asked him about it when I got home and he said he was testing it to see if it worked. But never told me it was there to start with.

There are 8 of them sat in my kitchen.

He says they are for keys etc......and you need to be near them for them to show on the app.

I doubt this as I've googled it.

What do I do. I'm so upset. Does anyone know anything about this?

@Loopylobes that's your interpretation. I stand by what I said.

Just what we need on MN. Someone who gets a kick out of being snippy with victims of domestic abuse.

This is no life, OP

Please make a plan.

@MrsTerryPratchett

All the women here can do is sew seeds. The OP may not be in a place where she can hear this. Or do anything. Or even acknowledge that there's an issue. But maybe in six months when mat leave is over and she posts another thread, one of the seeds will sprout. Maybe she'll call women's aid or tell a friend.

Her job is to get through the day, living with a controlling abuser. Not to immediately LTB because we tell her to.

True. It’s helpful for her to hear that other people’s reaction to this is “LTB!”, though, and, in fact, that a couple of us have LTBs who started off exactly like this.

One of the most pernicious aspects of coercive relationships is that they corrode your boundaries and disorientate you imperceptibly, over time.

[quote Treemama]@smallspeckbigcloud
@Loopylobes
I'm actually seeing a bigger picture here and my input was to make OP reflect if they really want help or only want sympathy at present. Challenging a person to think more clearly is more helpful than providing sympathy which doesn't offer the other person any real support. If OP is not ready to take any actions right now, it's fair enough but acknowledge the situation that she's at and the advice that was given, instead of saying "I don't know what to do". Being dismissive of this is not going to make any progress. There's nothing wrong in saying I'm not ready to get out of this relationship and work from there.[/quote]
All input is help. Don’t be so condescending.

Actually if you think the choice is “do you want help or only sympathy” you don’t have any relevant perspectives to lend here.

OP this is bloody awful. Who the fuck does he think he is?!

Please go to someone’s house, tell them and leave this dangerous excuse for a man. Friend/family/priest- whoever.

@Treemama she was not the only person who read your comments as very dismissive and as if the OP was wasting your time. If that's not what you intended, which is certainly how it was written, you may wish to consider how you write things on an Internet forum where the subtleties of face to face speech do not exist. Your post has proved how it is extremely easy to misinterpret things that are written especially when written on a chat forum.

Absolutely @RickiTarr and she should LTB. But my point is that demanding this massive thing from her is wrong.

I know the frustration is really fear for her.

and while that may not matter on a thread about the Eurovision competition, on a thread where you are directly writing to a woman opening up about her abusive relationship it really does matter.

Imagine the OP to have logged off last night having interpreted your message as "stop wasting our time"

I completely agree with @Kissthepastrychef

OP despite how a few of the comments have read here, we are all concerned for you

Ignorance to the posters saying you are overreacting you are not. I hope you are not too scared to reach out to one of the services commented by pp's. When you are ready.

And I'm sure the majority of us will be happy to continue supporting you on how ever many threads you need to post to get you through this

Sending all the strength I have, to you

I think you're overreacting hugely.
If it was a tracker then fair enough but an air tag. They are for protecting valuables.

What's the problem? I'd use one on our pram

@stabinthedark0 he has form for being controlling and wanting to know her every move - I don't think she's overreacting. Especially after reading the updates x

@stabinthedark0 have you read about the cameras?

@stabinthedark0

I think you're overreacting hugely. If it was a tracker then fair enough but an air tag. They are for protecting valuables.

What's the problem? I'd use one on our pram

give us strength 🙄

@stabinthedark0

I think you're overreacting hugely. If it was a tracker then fair enough but an air tag. They are for protecting valuables.

What's the problem? I'd use one on our pram

Good grief did you even bother to read the rest of OP's posts?

• that she lives in the big brother house with cameras inside and out
• that she cannot even leave the house without her H ringing to find out where she is going

... and now a tracker on the pram so she is tracked on her walks

@stabinthedark0

I think you're overreacting hugely. If it was a tracker then fair enough but an air tag. They are for protecting valuables.

What's the problem? I'd use one on our pram

Jesus wept. Thirteen pages into a thread about serious domestic abuse and coercive control, and here come yet more fucking bobble heads who can’t be arsed to RTFT but still want to chip in and let the OP to know how air tags are great for finding car keys ... oh, and that her husband’s well meaning and a bit misunderstood, bless him. Really?

Given all your previous posts about your abusive, controlling husband, I'd go back to work full time for a bit, get your finances sorted so you have your own bank account, make sure you get rid of all the tracking devices he's installed on you/pushchair/ god knows what

while you get your ducks in a row and LTB, getting you and your son to safety away from the abusive shit.

Hugs and flowers and be brave. You can do this, for your son if not for your self xxx

@stabinthedark0

I think you're overreacting hugely. If it was a tracker then fair enough but an air tag. They are for protecting valuables.

What's the problem? I'd use one on our pram

You're an utter moron.

@stabinthedark0

I think you're overreacting hugely. If it was a tracker then fair enough but an air tag. They are for protecting valuables.

What's the problem? I'd use one on our pram

Get a grip 🙄

Erm, the Women’s Aid links were posted less than an hour before you asked that!

Oh, I didn't realise. It was already such a long thread so I had assumed had been going for a longer time.

I used to work with a woman whose husband did this to her. They were actually separated but shared two children. She was also convinced he had cloned her phone as well because he knew things sometimes which he shouldn't have known. He wasn't even living in the same country as her at some points.

OP this is really crazy and not normal

@Tilpop I hope you are ok

@Tilpop said in an earlier post that she was a cop previously, so she hopefully will know how to protect herself, disable cameras, and call her former colleagues for protection.

[quote PixelatedLunchbox]@Tilpop said in an earlier post that she was a cop previously, so she hopefully will know how to protect herself, disable cameras, and call her former colleagues for protection. [/quote]

oh my lord 😱