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Husband put a tracking device in babies push chair

324 replies

Tilpop · 05/06/2021 20:16

So today I had a child free day for the first time in 11 months.
I went for a hair cut then out for lunch with my best friend.

DH took LO out for the day.

Got home and he had opened a Package. He said they were devices used to find keys, bags etc. Then proceeded to show me that they "beep" when the app on your phone is activated.

Turns out these are apple air tags.

I decided to take LO for a walk in the push chair as he was getting grouchy and needed a nap. I opened the top of the chair and inside was one of these devices.

I googled it and apparently they are also tracking devices.

WTF........ I'm gutted. I asked him about it when I got home and he said he was testing it to see if it worked. But never told me it was there to start with.

There are 8 of them sat in my kitchen.

He says they are for keys etc......and you need to be near them for them to show on the app.

I doubt this as I've googled it.

What do I do. I'm so upset. Does anyone know anything about this?

OP posts:
UhtredRagnarson · 05/06/2021 20:27

You need to leave and fast OP. He is escalating.

MrsFin · 05/06/2021 20:29

If you actually need privacy regarding your whereabouts, you shouldn't carry a mobile phone either then.

Akire · 05/06/2021 20:29

Keys phone fair enough can be very useful. The pram sounds like he is tracking you and where you have been. Does he normally what a blow by blow account of your day? I would be checking my bag and car to see what else maybe tagged.

ProudPolyGradSingleMum · 05/06/2021 20:29

You need to leave love. This isn’t normal. At all.

JustCallMeJulia · 05/06/2021 20:29

Why the hell have you got cameras all over your house... inside?

That is excessive.
What is the reason you feel you need this level of surveillance?

I lived in a nice house in an extremely dodgy area and we had 2. One was out front and one was on the back door area.

And 8 trackers. 1 or 2 is understandable. 8?

Original poster
Tilpop · 05/06/2021 20:30

@MrsFin why shouldn't I carry my phone? I have a baby. I need to my phone ????

OP posts:
DelBocaVista · 05/06/2021 20:30

This isn't normal behaviour. It's very worrying.
Can you leave?

JustCallMeJulia · 05/06/2021 20:31

Is he tracking your phone.

Original poster
Tilpop · 05/06/2021 20:31

@Akire yes
He asks everyday where I've been etc

OP posts:
MsAdoraBelleDearheartVonLipwig · 05/06/2021 20:31

Can you see the tags from your phone?

I’ve got one on my keys so I can find them if they get lost. You can track it from your phone and it will bounce a signal off other people’s phones if they are near it. Apparently you can find them anywhere in the world.

I’m a bit worried for you. This is weird.

Ostara212 · 05/06/2021 20:32

I had to google this

People are batshit

One thing I wonder

If he was tracking you, wouldn't he be subtle about it? Is he just one of these people who is fecking obssesed with tech?

Tell him you want the cameras and baby tracker out. His response will tell you a lot.

What would he do if you switched off the internet?

Does your phone need to get dropped in loo and a new one bought?

me4real · 05/06/2021 20:33

I think I remember your previous thread. He's dodgy as hell.

Time to make plans to leave OP.

HarveySchlumpfenburger · 05/06/2021 20:34

And if he was testing it, why not just say. If he’d opened the package and showed you them and then wanted to test them to see if they worked when you went out most people would say wouldn’t they?

Also if you need to be near them. What exactly was the point in him testing them by putting them in the buggy when you went out?

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 05/06/2021 20:34

That’s terrifying! Sorry but I cannot relax in my home being watched, you’re a grown up OP so pls don’t believe he needs to do this for your safety. I’d leave ASAP

MsAdoraBelleDearheartVonLipwig · 05/06/2021 20:35

You don’t need to be near them. That’s the whole point of them.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 05/06/2021 20:35

@me4real

I think I remember your previous thread. He's dodgy as hell.

Time to make plans to leave OP.

What happened in the previous thread?
Crispychillibeef · 05/06/2021 20:36

So strange. I think you need to leave.

Akire · 05/06/2021 20:36

I had ex partner many moons ago who would try catch me out (nothing to catch me
For ) would want to know where I’d been and what time got back. Then if I’d give a rough time “I got the bus at 3 and was home at 330” he would produce a bus ticket, this is (how long ago it was) . And then say ah ha you got home at 410 What where you up to????? It’s unreasonable behaviour.

In the unlikely event he had some sort of general anxiety and needs to keep tabs on everyone in his life he needs tell you and get help. If not it’s plain old gas lighting and control you be better off without. It’s not healthy. The cameras and bank accounts not good flags either.

VaguelyInteresting · 05/06/2021 20:37

You don’t need an air tag in a buggy. You don’t misplace a fucking buggy.

Run.

randomkey123 · 05/06/2021 20:37

This is as far from normal as it's possible to get.

Cameras and now trackers?

georgarina · 05/06/2021 20:38

That's really scary OP.

Don't understand pps' responses at all.

He's put cameras all around the house and he's tracking you everywhere and not telling you about it.

Agree with suggestions he could also have a keylogger on your phone.

OP this isn't normal, can you talk to anyone in your life about this?

Greenmarmalade · 05/06/2021 20:38

Do you have support? It will be impossible for you to pack and leave as he’ll know what you’re doing. You’ll need to just go.

You need to be very careful to clear everything from your browsing history every time you use your phone to do this- he won’t like you on here if he’s controlling.

Anxietyforever · 05/06/2021 20:38

You've posted about him before, many posters told you to leave as he is controlling and it's obviously escalating

Why haven't you left yet?

Greenmarmalade · 05/06/2021 20:39

When you’re out and away- contact the police and tell them about the cameras and tracking. Are you in the uk?

LidlMiddleLover · 05/06/2021 20:39

I would ge shoving the air pod where the sun doesn’t shine so I could track him