Opinions on Boyfriend situation

[bluelight274]

So I've been seeing someone for 5/6 months long distance. I'm pretty easy going & have NEVER before even remotely questioned bf about anything. Last night I sent him a message in the early eve & thought it was strange that there was only one grey tick on WhatsApp as he always has signal at home. He also usually goes to bed between 9:30-10pm like clockwork, but responded to my message at 10:30pm. (On Day 1 of period, so might have been unreasonable)
Me: Did you go on a date?
Him: What?
Me: it seems like your phone was switched off from early evening.
Him: 🤣🤣🤣
It was charging but on
Me: cat meme saying "fine"
Him: meme saying "you're crazy"
Me: Lol. My text didn't go through until now! It showed up as one tick all evening.
Him: And?
Me: Well it happened to be prime date time 😬
Him: another meme saying "omg, you're really crazy"
Goodnight....
Me: No kiss? 😢
Him: Nope
Never again

He usually texts good morning, nothing this morning, so I texted around midday:
Me: Hey are you ignoring me
Him: yes
Me: why?
Him: you need to find someone closer to you. I can do bullshit.
Me: ?
What bullshit
Him: reposted my msg about his phone being switched off
Me: Ohhh ok. So I sent you a message early evening. And it showed one grey tick all evening until you texted me back at 10pm. Which is very unusual because it always goes to 2 grey ticks to say it’s delivered. There are only 2 reasons for that, one is the person’s phone is switched off, or 2. They’re out of network. So as I have a tendency to catastrophise, I assumed the worst & asked you. You said you didn’t (well, you called me crazy) I believed you & asked for a kiss, you said never & that was it.
So I think there are network problems in your area. Sorry for asking, & telling you what I was thinking. It’s not a reflection on you, it’s a reflection on me.
Him: I am Not going to be on the end of your suspicions etc......I will not explain myself to anyone (been there done that) .....
So I thinks it's best if u find someone closer to u who has more time to give u etc
....
Me: But I’m not a suspicious person. I’m really sorry for asking. It was one silly wobble in all the time I’ve known you, & I believed you & let it go straight away when you told me.
I thought we were joking about it!!
Him: No it wasn't jokes and u know it
Me: I was just saying “please reassure me” & you blew up?!
Him: I didn't blow up .....I just thought I am not in the mood for this shit 🤷

I'm so confused! It was just a question. Admittedly a stupid one but I was lonely & hormonal, but I literally moved on from it in 5 seconds after his first reply. It almost sounds now like he did actually meet someone yesterday!

Hmm.

Dont beg anymore, you've come across all reasonable and he's saying nope all of a sudden.

Bit of a non issue to break up over. Why is he so ok with breaking up suddenly??

And if course, why the one tick???

Yeah I’d be running far far away from your crazy.

Honestly OP, I think he’s fair enough. You accused him of cheating because he didn’t respond to one message.
I think his response is quite measured.

I'm with him tbh.

Would it be so difficult to actually use the phone to call and speak to each other ?

5/6 months.
Not that long yet, but long enough to be a shame if it does end.
Long distance?? Not great.
Too many ifs. Who would move for example?
And now this. A red flag. A breach of trust and suddenly you're on the back foot...

Yea I think it’s best you go your separate ways.

I'm afraid that I would respond in the same way. I would hate to be questioned suspiciously like that.

I tried calling and he cut my call. The plan was him moving closer because I have DC.

You were being crazy and sooo needy .

I realise I was being silly and hormonal and I did apologise. He has every right to be annoyed, but to end it?

I couldn't be doing with that shit either. He's made the right decision.

You're batshit to go straight to accusing him of cheating.

I don't blame him. I think learn from it and move on.

you've come across all reasonable

Give over. Accusing someone of cheating on you because they messaged you slightly later than they usually would is not reasonable.

No it was the length is time he took to respond, it was that my message didn't go through.

Let him go. Honestly, you sound unhinged.

I'm so confused! It was just a question.

But it wasn't "just a question", was it?

I meant it *wasn't

You seem very high maintenance. I would definitely be running for the hills

And I owned it and apologised! If the tables were turned, I would've laughed it off & reassured him.

@bluelight274

No it was the length is time he took to respond, it was that my message didn't go through.

I don't blame him!

OP you came across as unhinged in your texts, if I were him I would respond in the same way.
You sound very very insecure to jump to that conclusion straight away.

It wasn't just a question though was it, it was the implication behind it. He's not daft, he knew exactly why you were questioning the one tick.