Bf does not like giving oral

[thedukeofed]

We're a few months in and all is wonderful. He told me from the first intimate occasion that he didn't Like giving oral but he felt that he had too.
He said that it's so warm , clammy down there and in the past didn't like the smell.
I'm not pushed on oral sex. It's never given me any pleasurable moments so I'm not upset that Im missing out. I could take or leave it .
He is a generous lover,always and we enjoy a spicy and varied sex life .
Is my Bar too low or would you be offended?
I explained that I would never want any intimate partner to feel that they' had' to do something that clearly disliked .

@Hont1986

I think some posters on MN have some very regressive ideas about sex and sexuality, like sex is something that women reluctantly 'give up' to their beastly husbands. If a woman enjoys anything other than fortnightly missionary PIV then she's obviously only doing that because she's been brainwashed by her partner/she's been brainwashed by porn/she's actually a hairy-handed bloke wanking to the responses.

how strange 🤔

Hmm, I don't see how it's regressive to be a bit about a sex-life that doesn't really seem to focus on female pleasure - oral for the bloke alone - and anal?

There's nothing more backward-looking than sex that revolves around performing for the bloke and not getting pleasure back. I'm sex-positive - I want women to enjoy the sex they have.

@category12

Hmm, I don't see how it's regressive to be a bit about a sex-life that doesn't really seem to focus on female pleasure - oral for the bloke alone - and anal?

There's nothing more backward-looking than sex that revolves around performing for the bloke and not getting pleasure back. I'm sex-positive - I want women to enjoy the sex they have.

exactly.

As long as he does not expect oral in return and is pleasing you in the bedroom, seems Ok to me.

Good God. I hope this isn't real. Expects blowjobs and having a go in your other orifices. You sound like a blow up doll. To add insult to injury he thinks your genitalia is smelly, leaky and too disgusting to put his dainty little face near. But somehow your anus which actual shit and farts come out of is good for a go.

also coming from a perspective that there are a lot of very selfish lovers out there that are very happy to recieve but not give pleasure, and its so boring and clichéd, and women basing their whole sexuality about how much pleasure they can give, and how they perform to men and please them, rather than getting in touch with their own pleasure. There could be all sorts of reasons a woman would feel uncomfortable with someone that close to their genitals, because of societies messages about it, and then men come along telling us it smells or tastes funny but yeah, you can do it to me, thats different. I think they need to grow up a bit. Theyll probably also wonder why their girlfriends go off sex once initial honeymoon infatuation has passed

This is so painfully true. I based my whole sexuality on performing for men until my mid 30s when I had a bit of a sexual reawakening and started to really think about what I enjoyed. I realised I’d never had the sort of sex that I really wanted. I even put up with one guy who wouldn’t give oral or use his hands because he was “squeamish” (he was a frocking para 🙄), and didn’t like me moving or making any noise because it “put him off”. He never cared about my pleasure, he was incredibly selfish and yet for some time I didn’t even see it. I had a realisation one night when I found myself sobbing in the bathroom after sex, feeling like a wank sock.

I know this is not the same as your situation OP, but please do make sure you’re being honest with yourself.

I think I must be your twin sister OP!
Oral does nothing for me. I enjoy giving it but not receiving. Fingers is good, anal and piv are better!
So no not a problem at all - I'd be very happy with your current arrangement!

@honeylulu I think you need to read the whole thread.

@category12

Hmm, I don't see how it's regressive to be a bit about a sex-life that doesn't really seem to focus on female pleasure - oral for the bloke alone - and anal?

There's nothing more backward-looking than sex that revolves around performing for the bloke and not getting pleasure back. I'm sex-positive - I want women to enjoy the sex they have.

Perfectly put

The OP's updates were beginning to read like modern "erotica" written from the more male perspective

I'd dump anyone who liked 69, FWIW, that's a dealbreaker to me.

@osbertthesyrianhamster I've been thinking about this post since yesterday and have only just worked out what thread it was on

Why would you dump someone for merely liking 69?!

This thread is weird. It seems to me op is just fishing for some explicit replies to get off on.No wonder op is happy to leave it here probably has enough wank material already.

@TheWaif

I'd dump anyone who liked 69, FWIW, that's a dealbreaker to me.

@osbertthesyrianhamster I've been thinking about this post since yesterday and have only just worked out what thread it was on

Why would you dump someone for merely liking 69?!

me too... shuffles off to be mortified alone .. 😂