How soon Into a relationship did you have children

[Overwhelmed245]

I’ve been seeing someone for just under a year. In all my previous dating and relationships it’s never felt like this I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. We both own our own homes I own mine outright though. He’s 28 I’m nearly 27 I’ve always wanted children so has he we’ve discussed it from day one as well as marriage. He’s said he’s ready now for a baby and so am I but would this be too early. I have bad endometriosis and some other issues so trying for a baby sooner rather than later has been suggested by doctors. I just worry I’m going to be judged or something for it being too soon but is there ever a perfect time to have a baby.

About 3 months 😂 luckily it all worked out OK. Lol

When you know you know. I'd probably crack on with it given the endometriosis issues but I say this as someone who struggled to conceive. You might be surprised by how quickly you do get pregnant! Good luck OP.

@pallisers I wouldn’t jump to assume he’s “off” - he might just be a bit naive. They’re both considering it, and It doesn’t exactly sound like he’s pressuring her, more like they’re exploring the idea together.

However I’m not saying it’s necessarily the best idea to have a baby. @Overwhelmed245 I got pregnant after about a year, and we broke up when DS was 9 months old. We’re back together now and very happy (this was many years ago) but at that time there is no way we were prepared for the challenge of a baby. You need to have loads of arguments under your belt, learn from them, compromise, and grow together as a couple first. Just loving each other dearly is no substitute for being an experienced and long standing couple.

Good luck whatever you decide!

4 years into the relationship, not planned.
We married the following year.
Still together 30 years later.
Always live with them before getting married, or having kids.

I fell pregnant with my eldest son a year into the relationship. In hindsight it was too early. We split up after 9 years and 1 more child. I think if we'd not had him so quick we'd have fizzled out after a couple of years but we stayed together longer than we should have because of the children.

Pretty quickly. Got pregnant around 6 months into the relationship and had a MMC which devastated both of us. We got engaged a month later and were expecting DD 3 months later. We had been together 18 months when she arrived. Been together almost 20 years. There’s no right or wrong time IMO.

After 2yrs with 1st.
Relationship ended after 13yrs and another Dc.

Then Met my my Dp ,pregnant at 9mth in to relationship.
7 yrs on and weve another DC now.
Both planned.
Would'nt change a thing

6 weeks for engagement
3 years for wedding
6 years 364 days for baby

Together 21 years.

I fell pregnant about a year after we met, but we had already been married 6 weeks. We have three children now