Hi hi folks
Sorry for radio silence…it’s been an interesting few days. One of the things I’ve done is reread all my threads from the start, which has really helped. Work has been absolutely insane and I’m hoping for a big win in the next few days…will keep you posted!
Can we start by saying FFS Geller is an absolute WOMBAT? (Waste of money, breath and time)?
The latest is that he has reacted to me pushing back on messing the kids around by selling my beloved Land Rover. A £15k marital asset. Apparently he’s buying a new Mazda. Which shows a shocking lack of imagination as that’s the car I paid for for him for 3 years. It’s bigger than my 2k pile of shite and much shinier, according to the kids.
I have had numerous ridiculous texts from him, and an insane email.
I have ignored all of them and gone back through my lawyer. I would never have had the courage to do this if it wasn’t for you all.
I got so cross with his endless stream of consciousness on Saturday that I bought a £100 dress whilst out for coffee. His next text about the girls annoyed me so much I went back to the shop and got a pair of earrings to go with it.
This is now war. I have instructed my solicitor I will settle for £250k of the pension, 75% of the capital assets and £595 spousal until the kids go to secondary and no less. She is about to send a letter stating that unless his next offer is reasonable we will see him in court (at present he is offering 70k pension, which when he’s sitting on over £500k is ridiculous)
I will, of course, have the girls 100% of the time if required. I have them 60% of the time anyway, and if it goes to 70% that is fine. Or 80%.
Yes, of course I am prepared to be a bit flexible, things happen in life and it’s all about give and take. I know I need to be reasonable and I am being. However, I am already accommodating 6 of his changes in the next few weeks- I’m not his nanny to keep doing that. If he keeps messing them and me around he can go take a long walk off a short pier.
DI Dishy is an absolute delight. I fear that we will end up barred from most of the pubs and restaurants round here 😁 On Saturday night we went out for dinner and we got halfway through and he said nope, can’t do it any more, the tables are too big, can I come sit next to you?! It’s so nice to be so wanted and appreciated. And my bits are just fine and dandy, but thank you for the link 🤣
Le sigh 😌 I am trying very hard not to fall but the brutal reality is that I am falling for him and it’s been the most wonderful month.
My run was great and I got under 1:10 (just) but bloody hell it was hot. Ran a shade under 5 miles yesterday and then fell over. Had to go to a friends to be patched up.
Lots to think about from yesterday’s therapy session. I raised with her my chronic insecurity and lack of self esteem. Straight back to my mum. Unsurprising, in many ways.
In good news, the updates on weddings mean I can see the girls be flowergirls at a family wedding the first weekend in July. They are always vile the first night back from his. But all is good and this weekend we’re off to see a good friend of mine and her son whom they adore, not seen them since January. And it’s by the sea so fingers crossed that this weather continues!
Hope everyone is doing ok and enjoying the current hot spell.