How would you feel if your partner said this to you?

[Bloodyfuckit]

Lying in bed, cuddled up. I said, you smell nice. He said, do I. I said yes, have you put something on? He said yes, I put some aftershave on this morning......for the nurses (he had his jab today). How would you feel about this comment?

I'd be telling him that the what's app group is degrading to women generally and disrespectful to you and he needs to grow up and come out of it.

I don't understand why you were posting about him wearing aftershave and asking how other people would feel about a comment that in most circumstances would be the sort of joke that millions of men (my Dad included) would make. When the problem is nothing to do with that, as your later drip-feeding made clear.

To get useful replies, you need to ask the right question. I'd suggest doing that in future.

"I'm married to a sleazeball sexist who has sleazeball sexist friends. How do I get a divorce' might be a start?