How would you feel if your partner said this to you?

[Bloodyfuckit]

Lying in bed, cuddled up. I said, you smell nice. He said, do I. I said yes, have you put something on? He said yes, I put some aftershave on this morning......for the nurses (he had his jab today). How would you feel about this comment?

[LindaEllen]

My DP put his best t shirt, jeans and trainers on, plus had a shave and put aftershave on when he went for his jab.

As he rightly said, it's the closest we've got to a day out for a very long time!!

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

[Brookes99]

I would be pleased by OH has a sense of humour!

[notagainmummy]

Lighten up.

[CaraherEIL]

Has he always looked at porn, had this same set of friends? Are you just noticing it more because of the past year lockdowns? It might be now life opens up abit it will bother you a lot less. I think a lot of women on mumsnet have found their husbands complete dickheads during the last year!

[booboo24]

I'm another one with the ridiculous whatsapp video sharing partners, mine usually shows me, rolls his eyes, some he forwards on some he doesn't, it doesn't particularly bother me to he honest.

[Washingtofold]

@Pyewackect

You sound hard work.

Yea I agree this guy sounds like hard work
You should tell him that his teenage behaviour is too much hard work

[harknesswitch]

Wouldn't bother me, it's just a joke

[Dontletitbeyou]

Nurses have a lot on their hands these days , I doubt whether they have time to be paying much attention to people turning up for their jab . I don’t know your DH, but I’d have probably taken it as a joke , certainly wouldn’t have copped a strop about it . Next time you go out be generous with the perfume , if he asks tell him it’s in case that new hot guy is working at __today.
Honestly , it sounds like you have just had enough of him . Porn isn’t a problem for me I don’t care one way or the other ,but lots of women hate it I know , if it’s a problem for you then you need to discuss it with him and make sure you get your point across very clearly

[DarkDarkNight]

It wouldn’t have bothered me, would barely register but seeing your update about sharing pictures with his friends that would annoy me. What are they, teenagers?

[Vooga]

I wouldn't think anything of this comment

[Bluesheep8]

but in his mind, nurses is synonymous with sexy young women in sexy outfits that you want to impress.

Is the milestone birthday his 18th? 21st?

[dieblauenStrumpfhosen]

I can't even imagine getting stressed out about that comment. And I wouldn't date someone who caused a drama over fragrance.

[Phoenix121]

@Bloodyfuckit

Lying in bed, cuddled up. I said, you smell nice. He said, do I. I said yes, have you put something on? He said yes, I put some aftershave on this morning......for the nurses (he had his jab today). How would you feel about this comment?

DH said exactly the same thing to me.

I thought 'what a wanker'.

That aside, I know that his need for female attention stems from his self-esteem issues. I don't suffer from that, thankfully, so I cut him some slack.

Could that be the same type of thing in your case?

[Bloodyfuckit]

@dieblauenStrumpfhosen

I can't even imagine getting stressed out about that comment. And I wouldn't date someone who caused a drama over fragrance.

It's not about fragrance though.

[Bloodyfuckit]

@Bluesheep8

but in his mind, nurses is synonymous with sexy young women in sexy outfits that you want to impress.

Is the milestone birthday his 18th? 21st?

50th.

[Bloodyfuckit]

@LindaEllen

My DP put his best t shirt, jeans and trainers on, plus had a shave and put aftershave on when he went for his jab.

As he rightly said, it's the closest we've got to a day out for a very long time!!

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

This wouldn't bother me in the slightest. His comment was entirely different though.

[Phoenix121]

Ah, 50th. That explains a lot.

Mid-life nonsense. Suddenly realised he's getting old so reverts to adolescent mentality. It's excruciating to watch, and even worse to be the partner of one of these toss-pots.

Prepare yourself for more of this utter nonsense, @Bloodyfuckit. Hopefully it won't last too long..

[sageflower]

I would of laughed it off and told him what young sexy nurse would be interested in you.

[purplecorkheart]

A friend of mine is a nurse she mentioned that loads of people get dressed up, do make up etc when they for their vaccines. She said people are so delighted to be getting their vaccines

[SakuraEdenSwan1]

@Bloodyfuckit

He meant he was trying to impress all the sexy young nurses basically.

Grow up ffs, many patients wear perfume/aftershave so they smell nice as opposed to awful, means nothing other than your showing your insecurity's and jealousy.

[Bloodyfuckit]

I'm not sure how many more times I can say that he wasn't saying it in the context of smelling clean/fresh/nice for a medical appointment. He was saying it in a sexual context. Anyway, it would appear, as with most things, there's a range of views. It would bother some and not others. It bothers me though, especially in the context of everything else that's going on with him.

[worriedatthemoment]

It doesn't matter if it bothers others or not its about you not anyone else
That wouldn't bother me and neither would the magazine from a friend as Im not offended by porn like some are.( especially in mn)
I would tell my dh it wasn't allowed in the house but thats about it , plus he would laugh prob look at it and bin it.
But if his comment etc offends you and it makes you think he is sleazy etc and the whats app pictures then you need to re think your relationship or tell him how it makes you feel and see if he is willing to change etc

[BrimFullOfAsher]

Can we nominate for classics as the ultimate guide to dripfeeding?

Pornmag from the year he was born is pretty funny tbf, someone at my work received the same as a secret santa

[youvegottenminuteslynn]

@Bloodyfuckit

I'm not sure how many more times I can say that he wasn't saying it in the context of smelling clean/fresh/nice for a medical appointment. He was saying it in a sexual context. Anyway, it would appear, as with most things, there's a range of views. It would bother some and not others. It bothers me though, especially in the context of everything else that's going on with him.

Frankly, you're going out with a cunt. Who has a sleazy attitude towards women and delights in sharing that with his equals sleazy mates. Doesn't matter if other people think he's sleazy or not - you've said he is and you're the one sharing a bed with him.

The question is... why?!

Why do you want to be with someone like him?!

[NiceGerbil]

'Pornmag from the year he was born is pretty funny tbf, someone at my work received the same as a secret santa'

Bloody hell.