Unexpected joys of being single

[Misty9]

What are yours? I'm newly single again after a short relationship following the end of my marriage. I think I intend to stay this way now, for a good while at least, and I'm thinking of all the good things about being single.

• I can starfish in bed whenever I want
• I can get up at the weekend and only have myself to please (when the dc aren't here) plus no one asking "what shall we do today?"

I can't actually think of any more... So what are yours?

Having the remote to yourself
Not having to eat something you don't want for tea because the other person wants it
Less washing

I’m in a relationship now but when I was single, it was the luxury of TIME. Working around another person eats up a lot of time! Also being able to eat whatever you want whenever you want without factoring in anyone else’s dinner plans.

i can eat what i want
i can walk about naked with no suggestive comments
i can go to bed and get up when i want

Oh I love the fact that I decide what to watch on TV. That I Dont walk on eggshells in my own home!! I don't feel anxious wondering what mood he'll be in! My money is my own! I get to say weather the heating needs to be on! I know that days out won't be ruined by him

Having people round (in the garden at the moment! ) My ex would never let people in the house. It's been a joy to have people over and be social without going to a pub.

Making decisions by yourself without having to run them by someone.

Eat what and when i want. (Cereal for dinner...)
If I cook, I always have at least 1 portion leftover, therefore not having to cook the next day.
Not have the bastard TV on all the time.
Not have to wait to use the singular bathroom.

I have lots more but they're more related to the controlling nature of my ex

A lovely clean and tidy house, men just seem to mess it up.

Not having anyone - and certainly no man - around.
Go where I want, when I want. Nothing but possibilities.
Men ? No thanks. Been there, done that. Game over.

Freedom. Nobody expecting me to fit around them. No tension. Nobody minds if housework isn’t done. Spontaneity.

@Pokske

Not having anyone - and certainly no man - around. Go where I want, when I want. Nothing but possibilities. Men ? No thanks. Been there, done that. Game over.

ditto.

There is nothing that would entice me to get into a relationship with a man again. I was married for 25yrs. I thought I was happy for much of it. Nothing compares with the pleasures of choosing exactly what I want to do, eat, watch. Decide where I want to live, what time I go to bed, what colour to paint the kitchen, NEVER to have to compromise. BLISS.

I like being messy
When my partner is here I’m much tidier
And farting in bed

Nothing unexpected about it. Total autonomy.

I painted my kitchen orange recently (only one wall)

Everything smells nice.
I can have a long relaxing bath with a glass of wine.
The big bed all to myself.
Bedtime whenever I'm ready. I can stay up late or go early, completely up to me.
I've got a vibrator if I feel like using it, no rejection from that 😂
I can book trips, buy clothes, nice underwear, all for me with my own money.

I actually think even parenting is better alone sometimes. Only sometimes, but there are benefits of being able to spoil them if I feel like it, and the best nights sleep I have are when I have a film night and sleepover with my children, camping on the living room floor.

@Misty9

I painted my kitchen orange recently (only one wall)

Pics or it didn't happen.

Why is being coupled up the default?

I exist in the world on my own.

Not having to worry about being cheated on/betrayed

Not facing the hurt of rejection/being dumped/ghosted

Dressing for myself, not having to worry if I'm attractive

The feeling of being free from heartache and disappointment from men generally, its liberating!

@EarthSight it'd be a random thing to make up, but here you go

@chipsandpeas

i can eat what i want i can walk about naked with no suggestive comments i can go to bed and get up when i want

That x 100!

(You can also go out with whomever you like and stay out late if you want.)

I know. I was just teasing/goading you to share a pic 😁

Never seen a kitchen that colour. I'm speechless!

Sleep better. Eat less. Drink less. Feel better. Fewer worries. Fewer irritations. Less mess. Pleasing yourself. Seeing friends more. Fewer domestic chores. Not having to kiss and have sex with someone you don't want to. Feel relaxed.

Just read some of the threads on here op. The grass ain't greener!

I love that orange kitchen!!

Not having to worry if he's drunk at any given hour of the day
Not getting sarcastic snappy comments
Not having to clean up piss from bathroom floors
Not having to pick up after him in general
Not having to share my bed
I can buy expensive gin and it will last for weeks without a little 'mouse' nibbling away at it
Not having to plan every day meticulously to avoid more snappy sarcastic comments and 1000 questions
Spending MY money on stuff I want
Etc etc etc

Downside : ds not being here 50% of the week

I’m married and can do most of those things, apart from the making decisions thing on my own - I would LOVE to be able to make decisions without worrying about how someone else feels about it!