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New neighbour wants me to be friends with his wife

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AlTempleton · 28/03/2021 10:09

New neighbours moved in a few months ago. I saw the husband not long after they had moved in and we introduced ourselves and exchanged pleasantries.

I didn't meet his wife for a while, but then about a month ago I was cleaning my car and they both came out with their baby and came over to introduce the wife. He did all the talking - told me her name, that she's a SAHP, she doesn't know anyone here - and she stood there nodding and smiling as he spoke, but not actually saying anything herself. He explained her English is limited but she'd love to make some friends, she's very lonely at home alone when he's out at work, and that I should go round for tea with her once restrictions are over. I said something noncommittal like "that's very kind" and left it at that and didn't think anything more of it.

However I've just bumped into him again, this time on his own, while I was coming back from walking my dog, and he reminded me about having tea with his wife and reiterated again how lonely she is. He also said we can go in each other's gardens from next week. I said something like, oh well work's very full on at the moment but thanks, that's very nice of you.

I have a feeling now though that he's not going to drop it and that he's got me lined up to be a friend for his lonely wife. This is probably really mean of me, but I just don't want to. I'm working full time and I have a generally busy life, but also I just don't want the pressure of being the person who has to resolve this stranger's loneliness. I've only met her that once when he brought her out to meet me, but I have bumped into him loads of times as he's gone out to work, gardening or he's going for a run. I only ever see her sat at her living room window staring out. It feels like I've been earmarked to resolve the issue of her never going out.

I want to very politely shut this down as I don't want to have to vaguely keep saying things like "work is full on at the moment" every time he brings it up because I think that's not going at stop him asking me, particularly when restrictions are lifted.

Any ideas please? (Or am I just a horrible person??)

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BuiltForComfortNotForSpeed · 30/03/2021 11:19

Are we close to filling the thread yet? DaffodilDaffodilFlowersDaffodilDaffodil

AlTempleton · 30/03/2021 11:19

If I go and make a cup of tea (that's not some kind of 'in' joke by the way; I really want a drink), will this thread be full by the time I come back?

If so, thanks for all the support and laughs this morning everyone. It was horrible last night but this morning has cheered me right up. I appreciate it, you big load of bitches.

Farewell DaffodilDaffodilDaffodilDaffodil

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MumuMelon · 30/03/2021 11:20

I really need to get back to work. I’m in credit control so financial year end and all that

DartmoorDoughnut · 30/03/2021 11:20

Brew cheers!

TwinklyTits · 30/03/2021 11:20

Nominating for Classics @MNHQ
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AlTempleton · 30/03/2021 11:21

@TwinklyTits

Nominating for Classics *@MNHQ* DaffodilDaffodilDaffodilDaffodil
Oh god, please don't Grin Grin I'll never live it down
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BuiltForComfortNotForSpeed · 30/03/2021 11:21

🌷🌷🌷. Yay, I found tulips.

MumuMelon · 30/03/2021 11:21

Cheers

New neighbour wants me to be friends with his wife
ClaraLane · 30/03/2021 11:22

I love being a raging bitch. It makes me happy to know I don’t kowtow to what an idiot with a penis thinks I should be doing. If anyone fancies something to read that makes them angry then check out Invisible Women by Cristina Criado Pérez - my mum and I refer to it as the “angry book”.

AlTempleton · 30/03/2021 11:22

@BuiltForComfortNotForSpeed

🌷🌷🌷. Yay, I found tulips.
Vaginas on stalks
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AlTempleton · 30/03/2021 11:24

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Byyyeeeeeeee!!!

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EatCrow · 27/04/2024 09:38

I can’t believe how nasty you’re being OP. It’s not healthy to spend so much time in the company of dogs. You say you run a lot, I would ask what are you running away from? There must be some deep self hatred that you’re projecting on to your lovely neighbours,

What a world we live in.

😂😂
I couldn’t resist it OP. I was searching for something similar and your thread came up.

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