Dating Thread 201: Get out from under your 3 month wonder and widen your areas

[cravingthelook]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Hehe I approve, thanks craving 😄

Great thread title!

Love it 💪

Checking in.. maybe I'll have some sort of update by the end of this thread!

Fingers crossed for you heartbeat and everyone.

I've been pondering why it's so damn difficult to meet someone you click with...it's so hard.

I'm glad of this thread 🙂

boo!

I deleted Hinge today so completely off the apps until mid April.
I was just matching with needy men who expected me to answer as soon as they replied. From one I got 'have I said something wrong' and 'dancer' when I took more than 10 mins to respond. I told him that I'm not on my phone 24/7 but it didn't sink in.

Prioritizing the awful job, job hunting and interview prep until things can open and proper non walking dates are an option.

Good on you dancer and good luck with the job hunting.

I had a prospect like that a few weeks ago, I didn't reply in 20 mins and he said "that's that then"...I know what you are like now. I was in the shower! It literally is needy men or ghosting men on these apps, I just want a middle ground.

10/10 on the title @cravingthelook 😂😂🥳🤩❤️❤️

Surprisingly I still have a chat going from someone on pof who i think is totally hot and seems normal for over 24 hours now! Gonna name him Mr Mac.

Good work on the thread title craving

Interesting thought heartbeat - where will we all be by the end of this thread? I wonder if Mr Music will still be in my life...

Great title. Here's to lots of positive updates as we edge out of lockdown. Had my vaccination today. Busy hub in a major Midlands city. People obviously keen to get life back on track.

Love the new thread title!!

Although I liked the frebreze one too 😂 my ex was ..... Unhygienic.... So maybe thats why I liked it!

Speaking to a man who seems nice. Has long covid though and wants kids and I dont want anymore!

Little update on myself and Mr Green.....

Hmmm..... We had vague plans for Saturday just gone. Which he changed on Saturday morning to Sunday instead because he was helping a friend all day ...
Okay I can deal with that. Then he messaged me lunchtime Sunday to say he was helping his mum..... So there's another weekend gone.

I do really like him (as much as I can after only seeing him 3 times) but hows this going to go anywhere if he can't even get together with me? So I asked him what's going on and he apologized and said he is interested but it's bad timing because he's just so busy.

I don't think I have the energy for the apps so I haven't bothered yet but randomly tonight an old school friend messaged me and we're chatting so at least I get to chat to someone lol

Great thread title . Hi everyone 😁

@WeWantTheFinestWines I've been pondering it the last couple of threads. I can still remember when I first joined, several name changes ago, and met my current on/off iron. I wonder if we'll cut ties by the end of this thread. Part of me thinks it would be for the best but another part enjoys what we have, and that counts for a lot in current circumstances..

Aww.. dont think Mr Mac and i will chat anymore now. Live over an hours drive apart.. ahhh well it was lovely while it lasted 🥰😄😂

Thanks gang, making the new thread was my distraction for today 😂

@Shayelle2009 I learnt long ago not to name them until after a confirmations a date or even after date zero 😏

Not heard from Mr SAS for a good few days... I think he could feel the awkward too. I'm not just going to slink off, he's been lovely. I will message later in the week.

Mr FF is true to form, all chatty for a day or two then just disappears.

Mr HT posted a picture on FB of him in a rugby top #hot I've refrained from liking it... I might have looked at it a few times though 😁😋

Ah @cravingthelook its been sooo long since i even had a date zero! I mean im talking a good 8
months here 😂 ive just deleted pof again so im app free! Sod it .. they just dont work for me at all 🤷🏻‍♀️

Youre lucky to have a few interesting ones to chat to ☺️

Good for you for sticking to the boundary @Dancerinthemoonlight . I’m trying to do the same even if it’s slim pickings and I have no meets by the end of this year

@Shayelle2009

That’s a shame at least it was a good chat though - is it definitely too far for both of you?

@WingingItAtLife

That sounds a good call - it was work before and now it’s “helping friends” This may be the truth but like pps observed it might be him playing power games so you are just at his beck and call and end up agreeing to have him round when your children are home.

Tbf, he hasn't mentioned coming over again while the kids are here.... And I think with hindsight, he never did seriously ask to when they're here... It was more... 'wish I could' sort of thing.
Still doesn't make sense to me why he couldn't make any time for me the last few times I've been child free but it is what it is.

We're still in touch, at least for now. But I'm not expecting much tbh. If it's true that he's been too busy for whatever reason then he'll find a way to make time for me if he really wants to.

Great title @cravingthelook :D

So weaning myself off the apps failed... I signed up to Match last night, but it's not really any better than the others. I've kind of run out of enthusiasm for liking people on there though so will just see if anyone likes me.

I'm only really going on to the others to reply to messages, but have a date from Tinder pencilled in for Saturday and a couple of other chats that have potential. I actually thought one was a Bumble fake account, as they messaged me after I had paused my account for a few days. However they've been chatty and fun, and seem genuine. The only downside is they don't have a full-length photo and aren't that close either, but a bit of distance doesn't bother me.

Saying that, maybe I'd have better luck dating a Bumble spam bot...