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Partner hit me infront of children

189 replies

lovelyhorse21 · 15/03/2021 09:40

my partner and i havent spoken for a few days due to an argument we had previously. This morning he began arguing with me again whilst i was sat on the sofa with my my two little children. I said i didnt want to argue infront of them and that i wasnt going to change my mind about the disagreement we had previously as i still thought i was right. at that point he started screaming came over to me put his hands around my neck and push me onto the sofa i tried to kick at him but he grabbed my hair and punched my in the head three times then dragged my across the floor, i tried to get away to phone the police as i thought he was going to kill me and all i could think of was being scared to leave my children. he followed me and smashed my phone and threw it out into the street, i tried to lock him outside then but he was stronger and pushed his way in before i could lock it. i went upstairs with the children til he left. they were distraught. he's sat outside now saying he has nowhere to go and no money and that he loves me etc. i dont know what to do. i'm also in first trimester of pregnancy.

OP posts:
Easterbunnygettingready · 15/03/2021 09:42

Can you shout out of a window for a neighbour? You really need the police there...

HedgeOwl · 15/03/2021 09:44

Phone the police.
If you have no phone and only internet access, you can PM me you details and address and I’ll phone for you.
But better still contact a friend/family member to do so so you trust them and know you are safe.
Or just start shouting out the window to call the police. He will try again, you need medical help too. Well done for reaching out.

NewjobOldme · 15/03/2021 09:44

Can you message someone from the device you are on and ask them to call the police?
Don't let him back in.

afrikat · 15/03/2021 09:45

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I would absolutely still call the police and please don't let him back in. It isn't your responsibility he has nowhere to go - he attacked you, he isn't safe to be in your home

Are there any other phones in the house? Can you get a neighbours attention somehow?

bookworm34 · 15/03/2021 09:45

Please call women's aid and the police. DO NOT LET HIM IN. He's not sorry he hurt you! He's sorry your pissed off and upset. And now he's done it once he won't think a second time. Put you and your children first. Can you shout out to a neighbour?

marshflamingo · 15/03/2021 09:45

Call the police.

Fireflygal · 15/03/2021 09:46

How terrifying for you and your children?
Do you have access to another device to send an email for help? He needs to be arrested.

MingeofDeath · 15/03/2021 09:46

If you are using a computer use that to contact the police.

bookworm34 · 15/03/2021 09:46

You can report to the police online if you don't have a phone. It'll come up as a chat, message them and tell them you need them out now.

marshflamingo · 15/03/2021 09:47

What are you using to post on here? Use that.

Flippyferloppy · 15/03/2021 09:47

He will do this again if you don't deal with it. You really must tell the police!

Shmithecat2 · 15/03/2021 09:47

Do you have a landline to call the police?

LastRoloIsMine · 15/03/2021 09:48

I know you said he smashed your phone but you are on the Internet so can you message anyone for help? Get them to ring the police ASAP?

Stratfordplace · 15/03/2021 09:48

Please get help. Anyone who attacks you in front of two little children, when you are pregnant, needs nicking.

HedgeOwl · 15/03/2021 09:48

The police will believe you and come and keep you safe, no matter what he is saying to you know you need to phone them. Or message a friend/family member to do so

springtimesunshine · 15/03/2021 09:50

OP please, please do not let him in. You've been horribly assaulted. In front of your poor children. You need the police, now and he needs to be arrested. Any man who can do this at all, let alone to a pregnant woman and in front of children is an abusive monster who has no business being near any of you. He's very dangerous.

The police will help you and he won't have to come home again. Please get in touch with them ASAP. You can message them online or contact a family member or friend and get them to call 999.

ladywithnomanors · 15/03/2021 09:53

Don’t let him in.
Are you able to contact someone for help?

Divebar2021 · 15/03/2021 09:54

Text a friend or relative now and tell them to call 999. I’m thinking this is not the first time he’s done this? You need to get him removed and then you can work out a plan of action. His lack of money is not your problem - protecting yourself and your children is the main priority.

SirVixofVixHall · 15/03/2021 09:56

Do you have a landline ? Can you shout to a passer by to call 999 ? You need to get help OP.

Neversleepingever · 15/03/2021 09:57

Of you can't call 999, please contact a friend through the internet.

You can PM me and I can call the police for you.

ArabellaScott · 15/03/2021 09:59

This is a 999 situation, OP. Hope you are okay.

GuckGuckDoose · 15/03/2021 09:59

Echoing all of the above, DO NOT let him in, contact the police any way you can. The fact he went for your neck is an absolutely massive red flag and makes it all the more likely that he will attack again with even worse consequences next time.

PLEASE do not let this man stay in your life, he is not your responsibility. You can do this,

ladywithnomanors · 15/03/2021 10:00

If you’re reluctant to contact police tell him they’re coming anyway. At least you’ll get rid of him off your doorstep.

nimbuscloud · 15/03/2021 10:01

Please don’t let him back

gamerchick · 15/03/2021 10:03

Police. If you're using a device to post on here, you can contact the police or someone to ring them for you. Do it now.

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