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Partner hit me infront of children

189 replies

lovelyhorse21 · 15/03/2021 09:40

my partner and i havent spoken for a few days due to an argument we had previously. This morning he began arguing with me again whilst i was sat on the sofa with my my two little children. I said i didnt want to argue infront of them and that i wasnt going to change my mind about the disagreement we had previously as i still thought i was right. at that point he started screaming came over to me put his hands around my neck and push me onto the sofa i tried to kick at him but he grabbed my hair and punched my in the head three times then dragged my across the floor, i tried to get away to phone the police as i thought he was going to kill me and all i could think of was being scared to leave my children. he followed me and smashed my phone and threw it out into the street, i tried to lock him outside then but he was stronger and pushed his way in before i could lock it. i went upstairs with the children til he left. they were distraught. he's sat outside now saying he has nowhere to go and no money and that he loves me etc. i dont know what to do. i'm also in first trimester of pregnancy.

OP posts:
HarrietLong · 15/03/2021 10:03

You must ring the police. He put his hands round your neck. He may actually kill you next time. If you want your children to grow up without fear, this must end now.

NerrSnerr · 15/03/2021 10:03

What are you accessing Mumsnet on? Could you contact the police via their website?

lunar1 · 15/03/2021 10:04

Please contact the police.

MrsWP · 15/03/2021 10:05

Police right now. Do not let him back in ever.

Outbutnotoutout · 15/03/2021 10:05

Are you ok

Police please now

Neighneigh · 15/03/2021 10:06

If you are on a laptop not phone can you log in to Facebook or something (email?) and message some friends? Please please get the police, somehow

chaitraguna · 15/03/2021 10:09

Please call the police ASAP

oakleaffy · 15/03/2021 10:11

@lovelyhorse21

*He does NOT ''Love you''.

Any man who loves and respects his partner would never do what he has done to you.

He will do it again, but more severely.

I feel physically sickened reading this.

Please, please do NOT carry on a sick ''Relationship'' with this man.

From seeing other women I know in these sick unhealthy relationships, he may well start apologising, crying, saying how sorry he is, maybe gift buying, swearing he'll never ever do it again...

But he will.

And it will be worse.

Get out NOW.

Good luck.

steppemum · 15/03/2021 10:12

call police.
charge him with assault.
kick all his stuff out
change locks.

oakleaffy · 15/03/2021 10:12

@NerrSnerr

What are you accessing Mumsnet on? Could you contact the police via their website?
This!

Contact police by whatever you are using now.

Alfiemoon1 · 15/03/2021 10:32

Call the police.

dewisant2020 · 15/03/2021 10:36

You didn't deserve that OP nor did your poor children.
I'm sure your head is all over the place at the moment but your children can never see that sort of behaviour again, please find the strength to leave the bastard. He will do it again and trust me it's no way to live. Take care of yourself x

Lockheart · 15/03/2021 10:37

OP you need to call the police or ask a friend to do it for you.

To posters on here offering to call the police, please don't. I know you mean well but you have no idea where you're sending the police or what the actual situation is at the address OP gives you. OP needs to call the police herself or have a real life friend do it.

ineedaholidayandwine · 15/03/2021 10:38

Op are you ok??

3babylady · 15/03/2021 10:39

Relationship or not that's a violent assault you've experienced and pregnant in front of your children please please protect yourself and your kids don't let him in call the police and please stay safe!

MrsBobDylan · 15/03/2021 10:40

There is no coming back from this op, you k ow that right?

You have two choices, open the door back up to him and end up dead at some point or call the Police and start the process of protecting yourself, your children and your unborn baby.

There is no grey areas in this, it is as black and white as I have started.

InkyOctopus · 15/03/2021 10:40

Has someone flagged this with @mnhq ? No response for an hour - any way they can identify this person and contact the police?

imalmostthere · 15/03/2021 10:43

Absolutely terrified for op - is there a way to find out where she is?

crackingcrackers · 15/03/2021 10:47

Don't let him in.

Contact police using whatever device you are on now.

Use same device to get someone round to your house (friend, family, neighbour) as quickly as possible.

YoniAndGuy · 15/03/2021 10:49

Police, now.
It is as simple as choosing to protect your children from a violent thug or choosing not to.

fedup078 · 15/03/2021 10:51

Police now

BrilliantBetty · 15/03/2021 10:58

If you do not call the police right now, you are really really irresponsible as you have kids in the house and have a baby inside of you. At this point there are no other options. You must call the police for all your sakes.

I hope you've called them. Also once you have the police crime number, contact your local authority if you need to get away. They will see you as high priority and place you and the kids in emergency accommodation. If you have nowhere else to go. Safety is first priority.

Sicario · 15/03/2021 11:01

REPORT HIM TO THE POLICE IMMEDIATELY.

Violence against women is at such epidemic levels that a lot of women think it's "normal". It's not. Women really must start reporting every single incident of violence or other abuse to the police.

Let the police see the full scale of this epidemic. We've been covering up for men and hiding the truth for far too long.

lovelyhorse21 · 15/03/2021 11:03

my sister is here and he has gone from outside my house, she is trying to make me phone the police, for some reason i feel guilty for ringing but i know there is no way back, im covered in bruises and there are finger marks on my neck. Thanks everyone.

OP posts:
3babylady · 15/03/2021 11:04

Please please front feel guilty he attacked you.
He should face the consequences of this.
Please look after yourself OP violent outbursts like this only escalate.