Will you ever just fuck off!

[MMfanalltheway]

That's what my father said to me a couple of hours ago. I questioned him comparing me to animals.
It was said coldly and in a sinister way. Will you ever just fuck off.
So I will. But I'm so upset.

Please tell me that it's not normal for your father to tell you to fuck off? Or am I a cunt who deserves it?

No it's awful. It's not normal at all. Is he often like this?

He's cold, but has never insulted me like that before. I'm in my 40's.

OP he sounds awful.
I don't quite understand the correlation to animals though.

Not normal. Some people are horrible. He's one.

So, where are you, what's next, can you go non-contact, does he have any hold over you apart from dna?

My dad stopped talking to me for a year, then lockdown happened and he needed someone to get his groceries... I do, but I haven't forgotten.

I brought up the fact that he compared me to cattle when I was pregnant. Hence the will you ever just fuck off.

He’s gross. Cut off contact

He's a year.
Give him what he wants and fuck off out of his life. He doesn't deserve a place in it.

Twat.
One day I'll remember to check before posting.

It's not normal no. Were you arguing?

@okokok000

It's not normal no. Were you arguing?

read above

Sounds raw. U dont deserve that. Do u both normally use language like to one another though? If u use language like that to him too then it could just b ur relationship..

I did.

But thanks for the chippy response.

Was the cattle comment from a while ago or recent? My in laws told me about mastitis in sheep when I had mastitis, was it similar?

Is he a farmer?
When I get told stupid stuff like natural birth is always best I point out how many animals die giving birth and that I've seen several animals have CS. Nature is brutal so not always best.
I've also mentioned cows when discussing my own breastfeeding. Depends on context I think.

The fact you might be doubting his behaviour, suggests a backstory littered with disgusting behaviour.

@MMfanalltheway

He's cold, but has never insulted me like that before. I'm in my 40's.

Do you think he may have dementia? I'm not excusing his disgusting behaviour or saying it will hurt less. I know it hurts to have a parent say cruel and inappropriate things and Im so sorry

How old is he? My usually cold but not nasty nan did this at the start of her dementia

To Be honest you've given so little details his comment could have been massively taken out of context - you clearly didn't like his comparison and so have judged his "fuck off"
Comment to be "cold" - maybe you came across as being a bit precious/hysterical hence his reply??? 🤔

@okokok000

But thanks for the chippy response.

Just thinking the same! 🙄

Obviously it’s not a nice thing to say to you. But, we weren’t there and context is everything.

‘Would you ever just fuck off’ = Shut up, Do you ever stop complaining, goading, nitpicking.
My DB and I say this when we piss each other off.

You say you confronted him about something & he just shut you down.
Maybe he’s an arsehole or maybe you both are? I don’t know.

Not a nice thing to say, no, but there is no context. I always distrust an OP that seems designed to give you the response you want.

Depends, doesn't it?
Did he compare you to cattle 5 minutes before he said that? Or ten years ago and you've been bringing it up regularly ever since?
Context is everything.

How long ago was this comment on the cattle? Is it recent or not?

Also of course telling you to fuck off isn’t ok. But then neither is calling yourself a cunt like that.

My dad would tell me to fuck off regularly.
But he also showed that he loved me all the time.

Is he generally not nice?