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Name changed. Been with P 6 years. Fell asleep on Sofa tonight woke up went to bed. P fast asleep in bed you tube on. Turned it off messages open last message to ex from 22 46 "I love you with every fibre of my being" There's no excuse is there? I thought we were happy. I thought I knew him. I thought many things but at the very least he lies to me. Any advice MN bar do not do the pick me dance. I suppose I decide what I want and do that.

I am sorry op. What a cunt.

I’m sorry you’re going through this OP. As soon as you can sell and move it will start to be better, you will have proper transparent control over your life again.

Jeez I’ve just read all this.
I’m so sorry OP, but I have to say wow.
What an amazing and dignified person you are. You deserve so much happiness and it sounds like your DC are going to be there fully whilst you live the fruitful years to come ❤️

What on earth?! Is it his baby? I’m so sorry!

So sorry op. You are better off without him but I cant imagine how you must feel

This is awful....he seems like an arsehole! You must feel dreadful! Have you help with you? Friends or family to support you?

Why has his ex changed her profile picture? You don't think it's his do you??

@Mrsrightagain

Omg how awful. Surely it must be the other mans if they only split up recently. Hope you are ok. You deserve better than him.

Not if OP's partner had been having sex with his wife behind OP's back.

I'm sorry OP, what a horrible betrayal.

So sorry op. 💐

I’ve just read the full thread. My goodness what a mess he’s made for himself. I’m sorry this is happening to you. You’ve been really brave and I admire you. You’ve been so dignified, I see that particularly with not responding to his teenage son in a way that would make him feel differently to his father. He’s lost a gem.

I think he’s made a very uncomfortable bed and now you’ve forced him to lie in it, he’s desperate not to. I’m not sure he’ll enjoy life loving with four children (considering he only wanted two).

You should be so proud of your determination to not be treated this badly.

I am so damned sorry. And yes, you have to accept it yourself. Thankfully, your options are better than many. However, emotionally, that doesn't help one bit. My thoughts with you.

Gosh so so sorry

Consider yourself well rid , op and don’t have him back when it all goes wrong with his ex !

He is the lowest of the low. Sending you strength.

Good morning, I woke up and thought I’d have a look on MN and read this whole post - I’m so sorry OP, feel so bad for you. What a terrible situation he’s caused. Feel so sorry for you

I've just read your whole thread OP, I'm so sorry this has happened to you. You will recover, it will get better. Concentrate on you and your children now.

Life will improve again. You'll go through the grief cycles and it will hurt less over time. My story is similar only I married mine, it's been 10 years since he left now and looking back I can barely even remember him, it's as if it were all a (bad) dream.

Take it day by day but remember in a year you’ll be over him and glad he went.

Oh Op, I've just read the full thread. What an awful situation for you to be in.
Have you been in contact with him at all? It's understandable that you feel like a seat warmer but that is all on him.
Hold your head up

Just read while thread.
First of all op I’m in awe of how you are handling this you have dignity in spades whereas he is truly vile.
Let them lie in the mess of their own making I cannot imagine that will be a bed of roses and even more difficult with a newborn’s arrival.
Give yourself time then dust yourself down and move forward you are worth ten of him. Be happy op we are all rooting for you 💐

His wife's profile picture has changed to a scan picture with a due June 2021 banner. ... Asked him if it was theirs no response.

Ah. So sorry OP.

Take this as a ''that's it then''. Leave them to get on with it. Get the house on the market. A nice fresh start for you and your kids

Blimey, I could cry for you. What a fucker. Sending you love and hope and strength. Sending him crabs, piles and a dodgy prostate.

Could it have been a message to his child?

OP I am so sorry to read your update, you couldn’t make this shit up!
Just remember you are the one person in this whole sorry saga that can hold your head high. You have done nothing wrong.
It’s obvious they have been sneaking around for a whil. I wish you all the best and nail the f**ker for everything you can get!
💐💐

@Kona84

Could it have been a message to his child?

I love you with every fibre of my body? Really?

They split up as she wanted more children.

What a tool he is. They split up as he didn't want anymore DC. Now she has been living with someone else and has his child. Your DP now professes his undying love for her.

I think you should tell him to leave immediately and he can go back to her. Wish him good luck with the whole "I didn't want any more kids with my wife on top of the 2 I had already with her and now I am going to bring up someone else's child......." whole shitfest. I think once you give him his cards he'll come crawling back begging. The exW ship has sailed.

TBH OP, who needs that kind of Jeremy Kyle shitshow in their lives. You don't need it. It's Spring and time to offload your crap.

That's right, it's Spring! A lovely new canvas is stretching in front of you, and one day soon you'll be sitting in the sunshine, sighing with peace and relief, and smiling about the shit he's wallowing in. His own shit, the massive, pathetic bellend.