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[Andithoughtiwasspecial]

Name changed. Been with P 6 years. Fell asleep on Sofa tonight woke up went to bed. P fast asleep in bed you tube on. Turned it off messages open last message to ex from 22 46 "I love you with every fibre of my being" There's no excuse is there? I thought we were happy. I thought I knew him. I thought many things but at the very least he lies to me. Any advice MN bar do not do the pick me dance. I suppose I decide what I want and do that.

[QueenBee52]

congratulations on getting rid of the rot in your life my lovely 🌸💕

[Sakurami]

Yay op

[MsDogLady]

Thank you for updating, OP. I have wondered about you, and am glad to hear that you and your children are doing well. 🦋

[Purplecatshopaholic]

Glad you are doing ok, op

[Andithoughtiwasspecial]

So they had their baby and appear to be OK despite the frequent I still love you whatever.. And I have been promoted! My family and I are all OK and life is good. Happy ending house sold new house imminent exam results to come. What a difference 6 months makes

[BigDecisionsLittleTime]

I think of you now and again too, so glad to hear you've kept NC. Sounds like you are doing so well, being proactive with selling the house and asking for help too with counselling. You'll come through the other side and good times will be yours to enjoy again soon.


Consider changing your username, you are wonderful and special.

[RandomMess]

I hope things are feeling less painful than they were, one day at a time

[Andithoughtiwasspecial]

We are now NC. My choice. I could drive myself mad with what ifs buts maybes and explanations. No.

[rulerbirds]

Have you had any explanation from him? Is this why her relationship split up because the baby is your partners? What on earth would have happened if you hadn’t found those messages! I just don’t understand what he was thinking.

[TabithaTeacake]

Good luck and yes , fingers crossed !

[Andithoughtiwasspecial]

A few viewings in the last few days no offer yet. Have found something that would work for us if we sell soon (empty so chain free) and have an offer in principal for enough to buy. Fingers crossed.

[NCTDN]

Op have you had any luck with your house sale?

[Pastryapronsucks]

Dont ever feel guilty or gullible
Its perfectly normal and reasonable to trust your partner.

Your instincts were spot on when you questioned if there was something wrong and to be firm about the message you saw.

He is a lying gas lighting creep, who cant even be honest to the person he supposedly 'loves with every fibre of his being'. In time you will appreciate you are we rid. Take care of yourself and your children, you have a fabulous future ahead of you now👍

[AllDoneIn]

OP every time I think about this thread I get angry for you all over again. You have nothing to feel bad about - this man is one of the worst I've read about on MN and he's up against some pretty stiff competition.

One thing I will say - there is a 90% certainty he will try and come back to you at some stage. Might be in weeks or months or even a year's time. Don't even contemplate it, no matter what he says. He is a godawful human being who doesn't deserve to lick the sole of your shoe.

[Joinedjustforthispost]

Op please keep talking we are all here for you , I think you are doing so well! Amazing lady!

[Manxiety]

Don't blame yourself OP. He (& men generally) are master manipulators. You were trusting and invested - they are good qualities. Don't let him hurt you anymore. Please.

Think about his sitch realistically - an issue with his son. A new baby. Past trust issues between him & his wife...doesn't sound like a walk in the park at all.

You'll have the last laugh. Get up. Talk to your F&Fs. Be positive. Be you.

[Andithoughtiwasspecial]

@Joinedjustforthispost I am OK. Concentrating on viewings selling and moving on. Have accessed some counselling through Bupa as I am struggling with how blind I was and feeling an inability to trust anyone- torn between blaming myself for being oblivious and feeling everyone is or will be a lying selfish arse - have withdrawn a bit from everyone but it's not good long term I know. Just need some help processing. Weirdly I feel guilty for being gullible/ taken in if that makes sense?

[Joinedjustforthispost]

I hope you’re ok op

[MadeForThis]

What a bastard.

[whatsthestory123]

what a terrible time op

the ex wife is a total bitch to in all this

take care opx

[SheilaWilcox]

@Andithoughtiwasspecial

I'm sorry he has brought this drama to your life.

But after last night's announcement from Boris, what a fabulous Summer you and your children are going to have without this bell-end in your life. You can catch up with friends, answer to no-one and thoroughly enjoy yourselves!

Not that you have to think of him any more, but he'll either be alone and miserable or sleep deprived and up to his nostrils in nappies.

[SunshineCake]

@Andithoughtiwasspecail

I am so sorry that he turned out to be such a dick and I really hope you are progressing with your dick free life positively. You sound so strong. Keep fighting for yourself.

[ineedaholidayandwine]

How are you doing OP?

[PegasusReturns]

@BloggersBlog

If you’re going to come on a thread where the OP is clearly distressed and make dismissive pronouncements perhaps have the courtesy to have read it first

[RampantIvy]

@2bazookas

Is there any chance he'd been chatting to one of his children?

No
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