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Did you have sex on your wedding night?

216 replies

Wakingup55643 · 05/02/2021 23:08

That's the question, just out of interest. We didn't, and I'm now going back through our relationship analysing why we are where we are now. And I just wondered if that was still a big deal or not, the wedding night thing.

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YouLikeTheBadOnesToo · 05/02/2021 23:30

Yes. But we had a really small wedding, just us and 4 guests. We all had lunch after the ceremony, then dh & I spent the evening just the 2 of us.

Isadora2007 · 05/02/2021 23:30

First husband no.
Second yes.

Should’ve known! 😂

vdbfamily · 05/02/2021 23:31

Yes,as was first time for both of us and we were both in our 30's so had waited a long time!!

JazzyGeoff · 05/02/2021 23:31

Nope, we were too tired and tipsy. We flopped out in bed, and polished off another bottle of fizz whilst we compared recollections of it all.

MargotLovedTom1 · 05/02/2021 23:31

I think 99% of couples will have already had sex with each other before their wedding so the whole anticipation thing doesn't quite apply!

Toorapid · 05/02/2021 23:32

I can't remember. What does that say?

NiceGerbil · 05/02/2021 23:32

I've heard most don't.

We did (twice!) But got married quite quick so were still a bit honeymoon period.

IthinkIm · 05/02/2021 23:34

Yes.

Empressofthemundane · 05/02/2021 23:34

Yes. Twice.

We had a small wedding with 25 guests and drove off to the beach at 3:30 in the afternoon.

Plenty of time and energy for it. Understandable that people who have had big events lasting all day and into the night are just too tired!

arthurdaly · 05/02/2021 23:35

After a friend patronizingly told me I wouldn't get drunk at my wedding or have sex on my wedding night I made a point of doing both. I dragged my DH about 9pm to have sex 😂 we were camping so it was very glamorous in a field.

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Wakingup55643 · 05/02/2021 23:38

Lol at the hair grips! Mine gave me such a migraine, I couldn't see out of my left eye by the time we got to our room. But I still went in the jacuzzi with a glass of champagne in anticipation, then gave up waiting for him to join me, and went into the bedroom to find him snoring away in front of the telly. I booked the same suite for our first anniversary, and exactly the same thing happened! And barely much since. But I just thought I'd ask, as sometimes I think it's very telling that we didn't, but reading your replies it looks like most are too knackered and it's not the fairy tale you'd like to imagine :/

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Inastatus · 05/02/2021 23:40

Yes, we were very pissed and tired but still had sex.

momager1 · 05/02/2021 23:41

yes. although i was exhausted. We went back to our home and opened cards and gifts.. Our 3 teens(blending families but we were both the custodial parents...my daughter ..his (my! by choice) boys stayed at my parents for the night. I was so very tired and he almost fell backwards down the stairs (only a couple of glasses of wine..not drunk at all) I told him we did not have to as we had to do a 2 hr drive to the airport in less than 6 hours, but he said..NO.. Its our wedding night Mrs Our Last Name. I melted. It was the first time i was called that.. honestly? it was not the best...but it was the most memorable I have had. We were both tooo tired to put in much of an effort LOL

Hopingformydb · 05/02/2021 23:41

No too pissed and shattered

PickAChew · 05/02/2021 23:42

Remarkably, yes, despite having a 7 month old.

fibeee · 05/02/2021 23:43

Yes. But DH had a few too many in him and it was far from our best Grin

WalkingOnStarshine · 05/02/2021 23:45

We tried but were both too pissed. We'd been drinking solidly for 17 hours so we weren't in a very good state Grin

Lollypop701 · 05/02/2021 23:45

What does it matter? It really depends on the day and alcohol and tiredness. No perfect answer...why do you care what other people have done because if it’s an issue then it’s an issue??? It’s the ongoing compatibility hat counts

BTV2000 · 05/02/2021 23:47

I think if you set yourself up for a ‘fairytale’ you’re likely to be disappointed! We didn’t, and I don’t think we did for the first few days of our honeymoon either! We had such a fantastic reception that we danced til about 3am and then went exploring for our honeymoon so we were knackered! 😂

Honeyroar · 05/02/2021 23:48

No. Partly because the hotel locked us out of our room and there was nobody on reception or answering the phone!! We had to go home (luckily lived nearby!!)

momager1 · 05/02/2021 23:49

in comparison to my first wedding... my ex husband spent all of our reception watching a football game with his best friend. Then we left for Niagara Falls ( live in Canada) had a gorgeous suite paid for by my parents. He put on WWF (wrestling) and yelled at the tv. I fell asleep. One of the many reasons i am glad he is my X. however he gave me my beautiful daughter who has now given me 2 amazing grandmonsters... and her DAD (my second husband) did a stepparent adoption with her when she turned 18. It was worth it! even the not so amazing first night lol

TheGracefulwhale · 05/02/2021 23:51

Nope, way too tired for that! Went on a mini honeymoon a few days later and it rained the entire time we were there so went spent the week doing that and watching boxsets of Stella! Best 2 weeks ever!

RantyAnty · 05/02/2021 23:52

1st husband No. He was drunk and watched sport
2nd husband Yes.

crimsonlake · 05/02/2021 23:52

Three times on my wedding night and yes both drunk and late.

Aria2015 · 05/02/2021 23:52

Yes, drunkenly! I didn't even change into my wedding lingerie! He had to make do with my large nude coloured pants and my unsexy nude strapless bra lol!