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I didn't clean up the toys!!!

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Powwow401 · 31/01/2021 21:00

Hello all sorry I need to have a rant before I loose my mind! You might think I'm over reacting. I've been at home all day with my two year old. In between looking after her, when I've had chance I've been redecorating the kitchen. It's a big job so I'm doing it when I can. Downstairs looking like a bombs gone off. Before DH came home from work, I ran around upstairs with the hoover cleaned bathroom etc. Tidied what I could down stairs, but left the toys in the room for the baby! I was cooking tea when my husband came in and started moaning about the mess, said he shouldn't have to come home from work to clean up after us both!!! I said it's not like I've been sat on my a@se all day and it's only toys it can go away when she goes to bed. He's saying he shouldn't have to come home and clean up toys that were everywhere (I never asked him and it took 5 mins). I'm livid!! I've been flat out all day and he's moaning about a few toys in the living room. Am I overreacting??

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johnd2 · 31/01/2021 21:10

He only knows what happened at work and you only know what happened at home.
Both of you need to explain to each other how your experience is and listen to the other.
I think you are almost certainly going to be justified in having left the toys out but the important thing is you accept each others feelings and explain your own.
If he doesn't accept that then you have a problem but it didn't sound like you are there yet, If i read thing right.
Good luck!

Onthedunes · 31/01/2021 21:11

No not at all, he's a knob.

Flowers
dublingirl66 · 31/01/2021 21:12

Ass hole

Sorry but I would have screamed my head off

Hate that

Original poster
Powwow401 · 31/01/2021 21:13

@dublingirl66

Ass hole

Sorry but I would have screamed my head off

Hate that

I did!!
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BillMasen · 31/01/2021 21:14

@johnd2

He only knows what happened at work and you only know what happened at home. Both of you need to explain to each other how your experience is and listen to the other. I think you are almost certainly going to be justified in having left the toys out but the important thing is you accept each others feelings and explain your own. If he doesn't accept that then you have a problem but it didn't sound like you are there yet, If i read thing right. Good luck!
Sensible post but I’d imagine it’ll be followed by loads just saying g he’s an arse or LTB
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Powwow401 · 31/01/2021 21:15

@johnd2

He only knows what happened at work and you only know what happened at home. Both of you need to explain to each other how your experience is and listen to the other. I think you are almost certainly going to be justified in having left the toys out but the important thing is you accept each others feelings and explain your own. If he doesn't accept that then you have a problem but it didn't sound like you are there yet, If i read thing right. Good luck!
We've spoken throughout the day while he's been in work, he hasn't had a bad day, he also said when he first come in wow you've done loads of painting! It Went pear shaped when he saw the toys Because he couldn't sit down on the sofa
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AttilaTheMeerkat · 31/01/2021 21:25

Is he always this precious?.

I was wondering what he is like with you day to day, is he otherwise critical of your efforts?.

MiddleParking · 31/01/2021 21:25

I would have gone absolutely ballistic if I’d been decorating while in charge of a two year old and was then cooking his tea and he said that. That would be seriously Big Row territory. (Then again, tidying the toys isn’t a daily job in our house...!)

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Powwow401 · 31/01/2021 21:28

@AttilaTheMeerkat

Is he always this precious?.

I was wondering what he is like with you day to day, is he otherwise critical of your efforts?.

He normally moans I clean too much and I don't sit down 🤷‍♀️
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WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants · 31/01/2021 21:29

What a massive knob.

Tell him if he wants an imma image house when he comes home, he can crack on with the decorating, cleaning & cooking dinner as you'll be focussing 100% on following DD around tidying up her toys.

Bellend

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Powwow401 · 31/01/2021 21:30

@MiddleParking

I would have gone absolutely ballistic if I’d been decorating while in charge of a two year old and was then cooking his tea and he said that. That would be seriously Big Row territory. (Then again, tidying the toys isn’t a daily job in our house...!)
It took all of 5 mins to clean them away, this is a daily routine in our house not surprising with a two year old but not normally till after she's gone to bed at 7.30, this all happened just after 6
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Powwow401 · 31/01/2021 21:33

@WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants

What a massive knob.

Tell him if he wants an imma image house when he comes home, he can crack on with the decorating, cleaning & cooking dinner as you'll be focussing 100% on following DD around tidying up her toys.

Bellend

He's used to coming home to a clean house and a dinner on the table!! One night it's not and this is the shitty attitude I get! Livid 😡 but I'm been ridiculous because I don't like to hear the truth
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FFSAllTheGoodOnesArereadyTaken · 31/01/2021 21:35

I think he is being a twat. Even if he had had a shitty day at work, it's not ok to come home and have a go at someone who has been looking after a toddler, decorating and done other housework, because toys that your toddler is still playing with, aren't tidied away before the time they normally get tidied away. That's batshit

MajorMujer · 31/01/2021 21:36

Tell him to grow the fuck up.

Fromage · 31/01/2021 21:42

Why didn't he sit down and play with his child amidst her glorious pile of toys, like a good parent would?

FFSAllTheGoodOnesArereadyTaken · 31/01/2021 21:42

Also if he wants some kind of stepford wife / show home type set up, because he thinks the stay at home parent should do all the housework, shouldn't he be doing the decorating?

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Powwow401 · 31/01/2021 21:43

@FFSAllTheGoodOnesArereadyTaken

I think he is being a twat. Even if he had had a shitty day at work, it's not ok to come home and have a go at someone who has been looking after a toddler, decorating and done other housework, because toys that your toddler is still playing with, aren't tidied away before the time they normally get tidied away. That's batshit
I've told him that's not normal behaviour!! I was so happy with how the kitchen was looking and how much I'd achieved today with the baby in tow. Completely burst my little happy bubble I think I'm more upset than angry
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Powwow401 · 31/01/2021 21:44

@FFSAllTheGoodOnesArereadyTaken

Also if he wants some kind of stepford wife / show home type set up, because he thinks the stay at home parent should do all the housework, shouldn't he be doing the decorating?
I also work part time as a nurse. So its hard trying to getting everything done the coupe of days I have off
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Powwow401 · 31/01/2021 21:45

@Fromage

Why didn't he sit down and play with his child amidst her glorious pile of toys, like a good parent would?
Exactly!!
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Original poster
Powwow401 · 31/01/2021 21:45

@MajorMujer

Tell him to grow the fuck up.
I've told him to fuck off!
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whydoyouhateclocks · 31/01/2021 21:47

I'm sorry, but why the fuck are you trying to do everything alone? What's the point of him? Did he hire you as his nanny, cleaner and personal chef?

harknesswitch · 31/01/2021 21:49

Stop washing his clothes and when he asks why he's got no clean pants tell him it's because you've been too busy tidying up toys to wash. What a bellend

Or hand him a paint brush on his day off and tell him to finish decorating the kitchen whilst you go to work.

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Powwow401 · 31/01/2021 21:49

@whydoyouhateclocks

I'm sorry, but why the fuck are you trying to do everything alone? What's the point of him? Did he hire you as his nanny, cleaner and personal chef?
I'm beginning to think so!!! I've said I'm not his slave!!! Tried to get as much painting done tonight so he wouldn't have to when he got him from work! Wish I hadn't bothered
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Buntysbosom · 31/01/2021 21:49

So tomorrow do nothing Grin

I didn't clean up the toys!!!
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Powwow401 · 31/01/2021 21:51

🤣🤣 I wish!!

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