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I didn't clean up the toys!!!

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Powwow401 · 31/01/2021 21:00

Hello all sorry I need to have a rant before I loose my mind! You might think I'm over reacting. I've been at home all day with my two year old. In between looking after her, when I've had chance I've been redecorating the kitchen. It's a big job so I'm doing it when I can. Downstairs looking like a bombs gone off. Before DH came home from work, I ran around upstairs with the hoover cleaned bathroom etc. Tidied what I could down stairs, but left the toys in the room for the baby! I was cooking tea when my husband came in and started moaning about the mess, said he shouldn't have to come home from work to clean up after us both!!! I said it's not like I've been sat on my a@se all day and it's only toys it can go away when she goes to bed. He's saying he shouldn't have to come home and clean up toys that were everywhere (I never asked him and it took 5 mins). I'm livid!! I've been flat out all day and he's moaning about a few toys in the living room. Am I overreacting??

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WhirlingGerbil · 11/02/2021 23:42

I'll never forget a friend of mine on Facebook posting pictures of the messy house he came home to, within a few weeks of his child's birth, berating the mother for bot having it together, because why should he come home to this?

Fast forward 3 years. The mother has really put him through the wringer. I'm not advocating it - I feel so sorry for that kid.

Some men just take the piss though. You need to go out for the day, leave your partner in charge, and ask him to do what you did - see how that goes.

WhirlingGerbil · 11/02/2021 23:54

Just caught up on the updates. I see his back with his mum. It seems to be getting a bit easier to work out where the problems stem from.

Did he pull his weight before around the house? I know a few people whose partners seem to think they should live like kings around the house, doing absolutely feck all. It tends to blow I when kids come along - it just isn't viable.

Powwow401 · 12/02/2021 20:05

I'm good thanks everyone. Been keeping busy as well as having some me time. Have the odd wobble but then think about the bad things and realise I've given way too many chances and forgiven things over and over again. You realise eventually some people will never change no matter how much you want them too x

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