I didn't clean up the toys!!!

[Powwow401]

Hello all sorry I need to have a rant before I loose my mind! You might think I'm over reacting. I've been at home all day with my two year old. In between looking after her, when I've had chance I've been redecorating the kitchen. It's a big job so I'm doing it when I can. Downstairs looking like a bombs gone off. Before DH came home from work, I ran around upstairs with the hoover cleaned bathroom etc. Tidied what I could down stairs, but left the toys in the room for the baby! I was cooking tea when my husband came in and started moaning about the mess, said he shouldn't have to come home from work to clean up after us both!!! I said it's not like I've been sat on my a@se all day and it's only toys it can go away when she goes to bed. He's saying he shouldn't have to come home and clean up toys that were everywhere (I never asked him and it took 5 mins). I'm livid!! I've been flat out all day and he's moaning about a few toys in the living room. Am I overreacting??

@Beforethetakingoftoastandtea I'd say it's 50/50 at the moment, probably why I've over reacted to this tonight

Well done for having such a productive day.

Hopefully he will come back with his tail between his legs and an apology tomorrow. What’s his Mum like? Is she going to talk sense into him or tell him why he’s right?

@Chanandlerbong01
I don't for one minute he'll tell her the whole story only that I asked him to leave because it made a comment about the living room been a mess with toys. I do think if she knew the truth she would read him the riot act for been selfish. Haven't had an apology so far just a message don't I think it's ridiculous 🙁

[quote Powwow401]@Beforethetakingoftoastandtea I'd say it's 50/50 at the moment, probably why I've over reacted to this tonight [/quote]
I dont think you over reacted. I dont think women should tolerate lazy ass grumpy men.

I stopped doing all the things I did. He soon changed his attitude.

@Beforethetakingoftoastandtea neither do I to be honest, I own my own home I can afford to pay the mortgage I'm pretty self sufficient so if he wants to carry on like that I won't be

@seepingweeping as much as I would love too I'd never be able to do it! 1) because the mess would drive me mad, and If I'm getting this kind of attitude because the baby's toys were out, while she was applying with them! Could you imagine if he had come home and I hadn't don't anything. It would be like a war zone he'd never be here lol

Why are you trying to make his life as easy as possible? Who died and appointed him king? He sits on a throne while you scurry around and do all the work? Is that really what you signed up for?

@CraftyYankee for an easy life I think, but on the whole I enjoy just getting on with it I think it's just the kind of person I am. However he's made comments about his ex and how he had to do everything when he came in from work too so I think when he said that about me it pushed me over the edge a little especially when I actually do the majority of house work ☹️.

My partner works 12 hour shifts and often has to take over the second he walks through the door, with no dinner, with 2 under 3, and frequently a mess, because when he gets in, I have t try to earn a living too.

Your partner sounds like an absolute cock. No offence.

Please don't ever do stuff because you think you have to impress him. Your child and home and chores is a joint effort. You look after your child when he's working and try to do stuff when you can. The rest should be a joint effort when he's home.

But anyone who's got a kid knows how relentless and hard it is resting to do stuff when you have to entertain and care for a child too.

Tell him to fuck off and give him a list of chores he has to do every day!!

Because apparently in his last marriage he did everything and he thinks he shouldn't do it now!

He set you up. You're competing with his ex instead of asking yourself why. Why is he so bothered by doing a lot in his last relationship? Why did he feel the need to tell you about it? Why was that what he focused on?

He thinks he management and you're staff. Frankly I wouldn't kick my husband out but he doesn't act like he's in charge of the house. Equality cuts both ways.

He does a bit of ironing but usually moans about it. He never cooks, I lie I think he's cooked twice in 5 years, I even cook when I've come back from work. He might run the hoover round on a Friday while I'm at work. I put the baby to bed every night bath her etc. It's exhausting

What's the point of him? I wouldn't be having back. He's completely useless and a moany dickhead to boot.

The problem with doing things for an easy life is that at some point you get tired of it and it's not easy anymore. But by that point you've made a rod for your own back.

Sounds like a conversation needs to be had where you discuss these things calmly, if that's possible. How will he pitch in with your shared house and shared child? If he refuses, then the easiest way to eliminate a third (at least) of your workload is to remove him from the house.

@MrsTerryPratchett I think he feels she took advantage of him and he didn't stand up for himself, so apparently he's now standing up for himself and refuses to be treated like that again, although it's a completely different situation we are talking about

@SnoozyLou thank you I couldn't agree more

I don't think you've over reacted at all. And people saying your relationship will be over if u are both like this. Well yes it will be if he carries on being an entitled twat. You are not a slave and why doesn't he cook and do the bedtime. Poor u.
Good for u for showing your DD you don't put up with crap from him

@pdiddydid I'm not sure what his role is anymore! But I've had enough

Am I the only one who thought this thread was going to be about a very different kind of toy?

@CraftyYankee right now with how I feel I think that might be the only way at the moment (third option)

@Outdoorsywithgin 🤣🤣

@squaresandsquares feeling like a bit of a slave at the moment hence why I asked him to leave rightly or wrongly ☹️

how much do you believe that he actually did do everything in his first marriage? because if he thinks picking up some toys is cleaning up the whole house then I really wouldn't trust his perspective.

@KickAssAngel I don't believe it at all especially after him using the same s@@t on me! When I know that not to be true

@nimbuscloud

Call him and tell him to come home.

Why should she?