I didn't clean up the toys!!!

[Powwow401]

Hello all sorry I need to have a rant before I loose my mind! You might think I'm over reacting. I've been at home all day with my two year old. In between looking after her, when I've had chance I've been redecorating the kitchen. It's a big job so I'm doing it when I can. Downstairs looking like a bombs gone off. Before DH came home from work, I ran around upstairs with the hoover cleaned bathroom etc. Tidied what I could down stairs, but left the toys in the room for the baby! I was cooking tea when my husband came in and started moaning about the mess, said he shouldn't have to come home from work to clean up after us both!!! I said it's not like I've been sat on my a@se all day and it's only toys it can go away when she goes to bed. He's saying he shouldn't have to come home and clean up toys that were everywhere (I never asked him and it took 5 mins). I'm livid!! I've been flat out all day and he's moaning about a few toys in the living room. Am I overreacting??

@DigitalChristmas he's busy sorting out the last house! So I'm not too concerned about mine right at this minute.

@PyongyangKipperbang exactly! I don't really know why they split up, only the usual rubbish . He said he left, she said she did 🤷‍♀️ she still abuses him to this day. So it's always bothered why she would be so bitter after all this time, somethings happens but I guess I'll never really know

@TheOtherBoelynGirl I think been single will be much easier and a lot less stressful tbh

@Poppinjay I agree, I don't think he's either

@johnd2 thank you

@MessAllOver honestly my life is no harder without him here! Strange as it sounds it's a lot easier and a lot less stressful. Looking forward to a quiet night after a busy day at work with no hassle at home ☺️

@billy1966 his mothers speaks appallingly about his ex and will probably do the same about me!! But she only hearing one side! His side!! Perhaps she'll soon realise that he is the common denominator but I doubt it

@GreatExpectationalized thank you for your kind words . A few relaxing nights now to recoup and spend some time worrying about myself for a change ☺️

He's a dick!!

Exactly OP,
Life is easier without him.

Tell his mother that.

Once your mind is made up thatvyou are truly are finished, reach out to his ex...your children are connected after all....and mess with his head in the process...

He's such a waster.

You are so brave not to waste years of stress with him.

Just a shame that he has to leave a trail of children behind him...his mother must be so proud🙄

@billy1966 his ex isn't much better tbh! She's doesn't want the kids having anything to do with eachother! She told them when my LO was born that they already had a sister and didn't need another, that she only only a half sister and the one she had was there full sister (child from another man!)

@winterchills

He's a dick!!

Agree 100%

@billy1966 his mothers has blocked me on everything 🤣 so couldn't even tell her if I wanted too but I wouldn't waste my breath, he's got his selfish entitled attitude from somewhere, I can only guess where from lol

The truth might be that it's a mess but jeez sometimes I do laze around doing nothing with the 3 kids and ring dh in despair before he gets home... he brings me dinner and cake on those days... your dh is lucky! Well done for all the painting you've done... sorry your dh was such a passage

Shit maybe I should read the whole thread

@fannyFERNACKERPANN that's the kind of man I want, he's a keeper

just read through the whole post and actually so happy your leaving him. I was thinking what an arse through the whole thread.

No one is entitled to a perfect home.

[quote Powwow401]@fannyFERNACKERPANN that's the kind of man I want, he's a keeper [/quote]
He can also be a pain at times ;)

I'm happy for you bye, just read the full thread and seems like you've got some fresh and exciting years ahead :)

*btw

[quote Powwow401]@billy1966 his mothers has blocked me on everything 🤣 so couldn't even tell her if I wanted too but I wouldn't waste my breath, he's got his selfish entitled attitude from somewhere, I can only guess where from lol [/quote]
Has done you a favour. As though anyone needs a hostile mother in law in their lives!

Great he's going to be busy with the old house to worry too much about your one. Is his old house of more or less value than your home? This might be relevant to splitting of assets in a divorce. What do his savings and other assets look like in comparison to yours, would he have more or less to gain in the event of a divorce?

@Wyntersdiary perhaps if he had pulled his weight it would have been 🤷‍♀️. One less moany arse dick to clean up after and listen too ☺️

@GreatExpectationalized I'm not really sure on all the figures to be honest, haven't had time to sit and think about it, been at work the last couple of days but he paid the joint mortgage for 15 years so I'll see how that goes lol

I used to get this from my dh when our dc were young (20 months apart) and I would be busy with them all day and he would come home in the middle of bath time or me putting them to bed and whine about the messy house and I would get so angry. Like wtf ?! I’m still putting them to bed or bathing them. I plan to clean up after and if you have a problem with it then help out!!!! I’m like you come home from work and now have free time, while I’m still taking care of the kids. I’m not sitting on my butt eating bonbons. Anyway, he eventually learned (now kids are 8, 7 and 14 months). It took him a while. Helps during lockdown as he sees just how much work in doing every second of the day. So when I’m coming downstairs from breastfeeding and putting the baby to bed he is putting dishes away or helping to clean the kitchen. He realises it’s not easy to do everything w the baby causing havoc. Even though I had told him I would clean up after she is in bed, he was doing his part and helping by taking the rubbish out. Putting dirty dishes in dishwasher etc.

I bet you can relax now OP - eat what and when you want - live in your own mess or not- he was a lazy sod and you seemed under pressure to keep the house tidy for him when he didn’t do much anyway.
Look after yourself.

How is everything op?