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He ignored my "merry Christmas text"

198 replies

sunflowerbloom · 25/12/2020 10:03

I'm not going to lie I feel really sad today.
My mum died in September and it's obviously my first Xmas without her.
I was seeing a guy(who wasn't treating me well) always twisted things to make me the one in the wrong etc but I loved him.
Anyway it ended but we started speaking again (just normal chat )
He was texting me and start conversations again,he made out he was doing me a huge favour talking to me.
Anyway last night (it was my birthday too) I messaged him "merry Christmas,have a great day,hope Santa is good to you"
He read it and didn't reply.
He's been on social media since.
I mean ..he couldn't even string a merry Christmas reply back.
Even tho we've made up recently and been speaking.
He knew it was my birthday too,he knew I was alone without my mum.
Isn't that cruel ?
I feel so sad today (please don't send nasty replies to this thread ,I don't want to feel more sad )

OP posts:
ichundich · 25/12/2020 10:06

Please forget him and move on with your life; he's not worth it. Merry Christmas!

TLIMSISNW · 25/12/2020 10:06

Don’t feel sad. At least now you know he’s not for you. You deserve better then that.

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 25/12/2020 10:07

He’s not worth it-you deserve so much more.
Use this to help you move on from this waste of space.
Happy birthday 🥳

TammyHullfigure · 25/12/2020 10:07

I'm sorry you are sad.

He is cruel, but you know this. Block and erase this idiot from your life. Christmas present to yourself.

You deserve better.

AllDressedUpForMyselfOnly · 25/12/2020 10:07

Merry Christmas!So sorry your doing this one without your mum!As for the guy,he doesn't seem very thoughtful at all.I think you would be better off without him!You deserve someone who makes you feel good.x.Bin him!

TwentyViginti · 25/12/2020 10:07

Don't bother any more with this man. He's certainly not bothered about you.

Onwards and upwards for 2021! Xmas Grin

GammyLeg · 25/12/2020 10:08

Sorry about your mum.

I think this guy showed his true colours long before this non reply. Move on.

Merry Christmas. Is there someone you can call for a chat?

Sunbird24 · 25/12/2020 10:09

Honestly, you are so much better off without him, he’s not worthy of your time or attention. Take all the headspace you’re currently giving him and use it to look after yourself.

Sassanacs · 25/12/2020 10:10

Don't do it to yourself, block and move on. Sorry for your loss x

Disorganisedfish · 25/12/2020 10:10

I’m sorry your sad - I would get view it as his gift to you is a clear message that you are worth more than putting up with his crappy behaviour. He’s set you free to find someone your mum would have been proud to see her daughter with!

Merry Christmas Flowers

sunflowerbloom · 25/12/2020 10:10

I'm off to my dads shortly for Christmas lunch/buffet tea
I just feel really sad that he couldn't even say merry Christmas.
Like I say he was messaging last week over a number of days yet can't reply today.
I think sometimes he likes hurting me.
Or wants me upset

OP posts:
cyclingmad · 25/12/2020 10:10

Why are you allowing some low life man to affect you so much? You admit he treats you like crap so ditch him.

You don't need him to say merry Xmas or happy bday to feel better you have that power yourself.

Mintyt · 25/12/2020 10:11

Happy Christmas lovely, don't settle for him you are worth more, happy birthday too, sorry your lost your mum, I'm sure she sends Christmas wishes to you too x

TwentyViginti · 25/12/2020 10:13

You don't need him to say merry Xmas or happy bday to feel better you have that power yourself

Wise words indeed.

sunflowerbloom · 25/12/2020 10:17

I'm going to just try and have a nice day.
It would have taken him 10 seconds to respond.
It's just so nasty.

OP posts:
Dozer · 25/12/2020 10:19

V sorry about your Mum.

He has shown you repeatedly that he isn’t going to treat you well. Pay attention to that, do yourself a favour and stop all contact from today.

hollyandkit · 25/12/2020 10:19

Block and ignore, he's not worth any more of your time. I hope you manage to have a good day, sending you love x

SparklingLime · 25/12/2020 10:24

You’re trying to get something from him that he is never going to give you. You can keep wondering why not and trying again, but you’re keeping yourself stuck and hurting. You’re upset that he doesn’t show you kindness, but he’s already shown you that’s not who he is. Block and give yourself a fresh start.

Tryalittletenderness · 25/12/2020 10:24

You should be happy, because now you know exactly where you stand. If he replies, be civil but now you can move on. Don’t carry on chatting ..let it go. Happy birthday by the way & Merry Christmas x

Whatayear1234 · 25/12/2020 10:27

That's cruel. He doesn't deserve someone whilst he is behaving like this. Hopefully a warning before you got even more involved.
I'm sorry about your mum Flowers
I hope you manage to have a nice day with your dad and not feel so sad.

Flibbitygibbit · 25/12/2020 10:28

Ignore him op. Happy Christmas and birthday , always hard without a parent 😘

RantyAnty · 25/12/2020 10:29

Block and delete him.
Guys like this aren't nice and they don't care about anyone else but themselves. They will contact you when they're bored or horny. Otherwise, it's crickets.

Think of friends and family who care about you. They're the ones worth sending nice texts to.
Save your kindness and caring for people who deserve it and appreciate it.

madcatladyforever · 25/12/2020 10:30

Why are you talking to him? Block him, and drag your self esteem off the floor. You deserve better than that idiot.

Bronzino · 25/12/2020 10:33

He isn’t the right stuff. Let him go, I know it’s hard but him ignoring you is a kindness really, because it’s the truth of his feelings. Enjoy the day with your dad, and remember your mum, there’s love all around you.

Mischance · 25/12/2020 10:38

You MUST put this man behind you. You do not love him - it is an infatuation. You know he is crap and no good for you and yet still you make contact.

Christmas/New Year resolution - put him behind you.