He ignored my "merry Christmas text"

[sunflowerbloom]

I'm not going to lie I feel really sad today.
My mum died in September and it's obviously my first Xmas without her.
I was seeing a guy(who wasn't treating me well) always twisted things to make me the one in the wrong etc but I loved him.
Anyway it ended but we started speaking again (just normal chat )
He was texting me and start conversations again,he made out he was doing me a huge favour talking to me.
Anyway last night (it was my birthday too) I messaged him "merry Christmas,have a great day,hope Santa is good to you"
He read it and didn't reply.
He's been on social media since.
I mean ..he couldn't even string a merry Christmas reply back.
Even tho we've made up recently and been speaking.
He knew it was my birthday too,he knew I was alone without my mum.
Isn't that cruel ?
I feel so sad today (please don't send nasty replies to this thread ,I don't want to feel more sad )

Wishing you a lovely Christmas with your dad. Festive jumper and all. So sorry about your mum. Happy birthday from this stranger on the Internet too.
Yes, he's nasty, and please block him. You deserve way better. I too have been there with one of those, and I know how it hurts.
Wishing better things for you from now on

I haven't received a merry Christmas from Someone I have known since February! Really pissed off.

@lollipoprainbow merry Xmas :-)

@Whenwillow Thankyou merry Xmas

@SparklingLime it would have taken him two seconds to say merry Xmas
It's the fact he had been speaking to me and I thought we were becoming friends.

It's crap and rude.

Says more about him than you though.

Merry Christmas

@sunflowerbloom thanks you too !! Same he is always so so chatty and we speak every day and today nothing although I didn't hear yesterday either. Plus he's been on online just don't get it.

It's the fact he had been speaking to me and I thought we were becoming friends

He is doing this to control you and cause you emotional distress by making you wonder what you have "done wrong"

CLUE
You have done nothing wrong, he is deliberately behaving like this.

[quote sunflowerbloom]@SparklingLime it would have taken him two seconds to say merry Xmas
It's the fact he had been speaking to me and I thought we were becoming friends.
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That suggests that he really doesn’t care then - you’re not even on his radar. Or he is being intentionally hurtful, knowing that it will get to you.

Either way, the solution is the same. But it does sound like you are very emotionally invested in him, so it may take quite some determination from you to take your focus off him and onto yourself and your future. A future without him taking so much of your attention.

He wasn't treating you well, why did you bother to make up with him? Just bin him off.

He may well text you later tonight or when he can be bothered or over the next few days. How will you respond?

Your lovely mum would have told you to block him and forget him. He likes to hurt you - that says it all.

'Why didn't he reply'

Because he likes having you where he wants you

Please block him & move on. He is not worth your time, live or angst.

Go and see your Dad & remember who LOVES YOU!!

I miss my Dad, I wish I could hug him today (he died a long time ago, so not a Covid thing).

He doesn’t deserve your attention. He is clearly an absolute moron and needs deleting and blocking. Remove him from your life because he is not worthy of you.

2021 for a new start sounds an excellent idea. Happy belated Birthday for yesterday (was mine too ) and have a very Merry Christmas with your dad today. As to why? Because he could, and that doesn't say anything very good about him.

Not sure where the random star appeared from, sorry.

Don’t wait a week for a fresh start, do it now!

@CrepuscularCritter oh happy belated birthday to you too xx

I know at Christmas I get messages from people I've never seen in years and don't speak too yet I always wish them a lovely Xmas
I guess that's the difference between me and him
He does know il be wondering what I've done wrong.
He knows il be upset
He made me apologise for my behaviour two weeks ago when it was him.
He said I should realise my behaviour was childish and regret my actions (basically tell him his behaviour was shit )

He doesn't care about you! If he was awful to you before, what's the difference now? He's being awful again. Give yourself the best Christmas present possible by forgetting, blocking and moving on.

The text you sent was a nice thoughtful text even on your own birthday, he didn't respond so he doesn't deserve any more attention from you, leave it now and make it your New Years resolution to leave him in the past look forward to meeting someone else that can give you all his attention.

I think saying he's cruel is rather dramatic. He's just not interested.
Set higher expectations and don't speak to him again

Yea he is very cruel to have done that, knowing all you've been through. As pp's have said, I think too you're much better off without him, enjoy your day with your Dad and forget about the creep. I'm sorry for the loss of your Mum too xx
Happy belated birthday and Merry Christmas to you !

I think he's still trying to punish you.

He will be back and like nothing has happened. When he is and if you say anything you will be labelled as ' irrational, moody'.

Very sly, but he's manufactured it.

He said I should realise my behaviour was childish and regret my actions (basically tell him his behaviour was shit )

Ive changed my mind!
Dont just ditch him
Tell him to go fuck himself!