He ignored my "merry Christmas text"

[sunflowerbloom]

I'm not going to lie I feel really sad today.
My mum died in September and it's obviously my first Xmas without her.
I was seeing a guy(who wasn't treating me well) always twisted things to make me the one in the wrong etc but I loved him.
Anyway it ended but we started speaking again (just normal chat )
He was texting me and start conversations again,he made out he was doing me a huge favour talking to me.
Anyway last night (it was my birthday too) I messaged him "merry Christmas,have a great day,hope Santa is good to you"
He read it and didn't reply.
He's been on social media since.
I mean ..he couldn't even string a merry Christmas reply back.
Even tho we've made up recently and been speaking.
He knew it was my birthday too,he knew I was alone without my mum.
Isn't that cruel ?
I feel so sad today (please don't send nasty replies to this thread ,I don't want to feel more sad )

I've rambled on all day haven't I
Merry Christmas everyone
Let's all enjoy a tipple or two tonight and be merry

If you don't know your own worth you will choose people like him who will treat you like you are not worthy. As a mum of two adult children, and who has been in several abusive relationships, take it from me, you are teaching him how to treat you by what you allow. A lesson I wish I had known myself a long time ago. Stip his ego tripping on you and I promise you the only reason he contacts you is to see if you respond, it's not due to live or attraction, it's ego and self righteousness. You deserve so much more, and you need to tell yourself that every time he co tacts you, and repeat to yourself that you know your worth even if he doesn't.

Second what pp said. There was a great tip on a really old thread once, it was to read first dating strategy on reddit.

Really hammered home everything to me.

Op you should google it and read it, thats the best present you can give yourself

Sorry should be Female Dating strategy here is the link

www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

Blocking that guy is the right thing to do.

Even if he's just really, really complacent, he could have taken his phone to the loo and texted you a row of emojis. It's a decision not to text somebody.

glad you are protecting yourself by blocking him.

Please take notice of all the advice that COMPLETE STRANGERS have given you. No doubt, he will be in touch with a multitude of excuses on how he was unable to reply to you. Is your self-esteem so low that you are willing to put up with this crap? C'mon girl, you're worth far much more than this.

Thanks strangers on the internet
He is deffo not complacent he just chose to ignore me.
Hurtful twat.
Leaving him in 2020

That really is such a shitty thing to do

[quote sunflowerbloom]@SparklingLime it would have taken him two seconds to say merry Xmas
It's the fact he had been speaking to me and I thought we were becoming friends.
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Cut that thought off right there, OP. Whywould you even consider making friends with someone you acknowledge treats you badly? No longer sleeping with him isn’t a magic pass to better behaviour, and it’s fairly clear from your posts that if you stay in touch and he decides he wants sex with you again, all he has to do is click his fingers and behave less appallingly for as long as it takes to get you into bed, because he’s really done a number on you, and you’re very vulnerable.

I’m very sorry for your loss. Be kind to yourself, and make a NY resolution to not have any further contact, ever, with him. Block and delete.

I know il probably get shouted at for this but this morning I unblocked and messaged
"FYI it takes 2 seconds to respond to a merry Xmas text..rude"
He responded within 10 seconds
"I've been extremely busy,it's not rude,are you going off it again and going a bit nuts again?"

I didn't respond and blocked immediately
Prick

But OP, that was never not going to happen. Stay away from him. He’s shown you over and over again in what contempt he holds you. Why keep going back for more of the same?

Someone who wants to be with you is never 'too busy'. If they are busy, and they want to be in a relationship with you, they'll be in touch to let you know beforehand.
Look up Baggage Reclaim by Natalie Lue. I'm certain it'll help you (easily found with a Google search. I just checked.)
You'll find your tribe. Good luck and best wishes for a great new year

I think you were right to call him out on it. People don’t do that enough I think and yes you were right that it was rude.

Make sure he stays blocked now mind!

He's just told me he is seeing someone new

But you blocked him— how is he contacting you?

@sunflowerbloom

I'm going to just try and have a nice day. It would have taken him 10 seconds to respond. It's just so nasty.

But @sunflowerbloom there's no mystery here: he IS nasty! Re-read what you're said about him!

Be strong and don't go back for more.

You can't change people and make them how you want them to be - in other words don't judge people by your own good standards.

Recognise this one's always going to be an insulting wanker to you and always will be.

Having lost your DM not long ago, makes his disgusting behaviour even worse. Cut him off for good now - he doesn't deserve you.

I unblocked him to message

I can promise you that it won't be long before before he is treating her in exactly the same way. For your own sanity please keep him blocked. He's an absolute arse. Do look at the woman I recommended (Natalie Lue) Also suggest looking up HGTudor on Narcsite.

In many ways he has done you a favour as he has reminded you that he isn't a nice person and will treat you badly eventually. You really should not have any more contact with him. I suspect though that when and if he eventually sends you a message, you will respond. I understand you are lonely but he will probably just keep disappointing you.

Please please have some self respect and stop playing games with him. Stop begging him for a reply . Stop trying to have the last word.

Keep him blocked. Never contact him again in any way at all and do not reply if he manages to contact you on another platform.

He’s not a nice person and he doesn’t treat you well. Whether or not you love him is irrelevant.

Please get some counselling / join a support group / read some self help books to work out why you are letting men like this treat you so badly.

Please don’t date again until you’ve done some work on yourself.

You played right into his hands there. Please make sure you delete all his contact details and do whatever it takes to keep him blocked for evermore.

Sorry for the loss of your mum

Give yourself a Christmas present of blocking this loser then deleting him from your phone and all social media.

I've been a fool again haven't I.
Once again he gets the last laugh.

It doesn't matter. Block him and forget him. I promise it'll get better if you give yourself a chance. Would highly recommend some counselling/psychotherapy if you can afford it.