New to Mumsnet. But feeling pretty isolated at the moment.
My husband and I had an argument on Sunday. We don’t argue often, but he tends to start them when they do. He’ll then go on and on and on until I retaliate and say something I regret. At which point I’m the b**ch and I get it in the neck for a few days afterwards for being ‘mean’.
Stupidly, I did a throwaway comment after being gone at for a good hour: “If you think that, why not just get divorced?”. SILLY, I know. But you know when you’re just pushed and pushed and you sometimes say something you don’t mean?
Anyway. Monday morning I apologised. I’ve had since “well, we’re getting divorced” and “let’s get Christmas out of the way and then we’ll separate”. When I explained I didn’t mean it he’s all “Well, maybe I do. It’s what you want.” - despite lots of apologies from me. He’s even gone so far as to start emailing lawyers.
If I bring it up, he says “you said it - so you want it.” type thing.
It almost feels like he’s enjoying it.
He also won’t sleep in the same room, which has led to DD asking questions.
During the argument he spoke to me like I was sh*t, and since he has done too. Although if I mention anything he has said, he says I am ‘twisting words’. I am not.
I don’t know if he’s just playing a massive game. Which I don’t think is fair over Christmas....or if he means it.
He won’t help with any Christmas prep.
He’s also taken my house keys so I can’t leave the house without him. He says he hasn’t, but I found them in his dog walking coat - I’ve left them though.
Feel so lost and confused. and silly for making the stupid throwaway comment in the first place.