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If there's a cloud next to an app... he's downloaded it before hasn't he?

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BubbleTeaJunkie · 20/12/2020 16:11

Been together 15 years. Pure hookup anonymous dating on his iPad.. has a cloud next to it..

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JoshLymanIsHotterThanSam · 20/12/2020 16:12

Yes it means it’s been purchased/downloaded before

BubbleTeaJunkie · 20/12/2020 16:13

Omg there's more... down dating 18+, tinder of course... what do I do

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JoshLymanIsHotterThanSam · 20/12/2020 16:13

By anyone in the family group I might add

JoshLymanIsHotterThanSam · 20/12/2020 16:14

Is there anyone else who could legitimately have downloaded them?

BubbleTeaJunkie · 20/12/2020 16:14

No it's his phone and nobody else touches it.. found even more.. blendr.. never heard of them

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BubbleTeaJunkie · 20/12/2020 16:15

I've got into his iPad so I can get on App Store.... was only looking for something innocent!

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ABitOdd · 20/12/2020 16:15

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EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 20/12/2020 16:16

I would redownload it and see if you can reset the password. Because if you just ask him he'll say he downloaded it to see what it was because a mate was talking about it and OF COURSE he would never message anyone or meet them, how could you even think that, OMG you have hurt him sooooo much...

Then you feel shit and he's got away with banging someone else...

BubbleTeaJunkie · 20/12/2020 16:17

I'm downloading them all now.. they are all phone apps too not iPad ones

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youvegottenminuteslynn · 20/12/2020 16:19

Fuck I'm so sorry OP what a horrible shock

Sparrow91 · 20/12/2020 16:21

I’m so sorry :( Flowers

On my phone when I click on ‘app store’ and then my account (a little emoji of me), then ‘purchased’ I’m able to see what date things have been downloaded... maybe this might help you build a timeline?

BubbleTeaJunkie · 21/12/2020 08:43

Thanks everyone.

He came home very emotional and insists he hasn't ever downloaded them. There were 6 apps in total and a private browser thing.

He said the private browser was part of a VPN, and he said it's possible he did download Tinder just out of curiosity when it first came out, but never used it.

The others he has been adamant, in tears, looking me in the eyes, that he didn't download and has never created profiles. He handed his phone over to me when he got in... I didn't find anything in messages etc, or really on Instagram.

There were some heart eye emojis to some girl from work but he said it was reaction to her stories which was photos of her dogs and she did post a comment about how he likes her dog so I guess that could be innocent.

But what other reasonable explanation could there be for these apps to be on his Apple ID? We checked and they were first downloaded in 2015 (we've been together since like 2006) - he said he wonders if he could have clicked some rubbish on the web and it auto downloaded that stuff but I don't think that's likely.

He's generally a shy guy and not the type to be sleazy ever. I could never imagine him sending photos etc let alone meeting someone for sex so I'm so confused right now. They were all downloaded on the same day, one was the day before.. Tinder must have been a different time as it wasn't on the list with the others.

I have downloaded tinder in the past when a work mate was using it as we were sat in a group intrigued how it worked.. I never made a profile and told my partner I'd done it at the time just so he didn't think something like this! So I guess the tinder story is realistic but accompanied by these other apps that all seem to be snap chat style, secret/self destructing or location based so he could set them up on work trips....

I'm so torn... if he genuinely hadn't done this, what other explanation is there?

I just don't want to get out of bed today, my stomach is in knots.

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MyOwnSummer · 21/12/2020 08:48

Sorry OP that's a load of crap. Does he think he can get away with such a shitty non excuse?

Mamagotskills · 21/12/2020 08:53

He’s full of shit OP, he definitely downloaded them. Well, someone using his device did anyway.

CausingChaos2 · 21/12/2020 08:59

How insulting of him to lie about downloading them. Lying to you now, on top of the initial betrayal. There’s only one way that they got on his phone and that’s from him doing so. Depending on his model of IPhone he will have either entered his password or had to pass some other security in order to download them.

slidingdrawers · 21/12/2020 08:59

He's gaslighting you. Of course he downloaded them, the fact there is more than one is proof of that. I'm sorry.

FippertyGibbett · 21/12/2020 09:00

If it feels wrong it usually is.

ErickBroch · 21/12/2020 09:08

The hearts/dog thing sounds valid - I sent heart eye emojis to food/dogs of colleagues etc innocently. But the rest of it... he downloaded them! Also, why the F did he ever download Tinder? No excuse

Jeremyironseverything · 21/12/2020 09:22

I'm sorry op. What a shock. If you did leave him, what is your position?

Cockenspiel · 21/12/2020 09:28

Sadly it does seem obvious he is lying.

OP, engage your practical head for a moment - what is your financial position? Are their kids involved? Married?

firecracker69 · 21/12/2020 09:32

He's turned on the tears because he's been found out.

There's no other reasonable explanation, he's definitely downloaded them!

AllTheCakes · 21/12/2020 09:36

He needs to tell you the whole truth so you can go from there. If you really need more evidence can you access his emails to check?

If he is using an iPhone which it sounds like he is, you can go to settings, then battery which will show you any apps that have been used on the phone recently.

BubbleTeaJunkie · 21/12/2020 09:38

@AllTheCakes

He needs to tell you the whole truth so you can go from there. If you really need more evidence can you access his emails to check?

If he is using an iPhone which it sounds like he is, you can go to settings, then battery which will show you any apps that have been used on the phone recently.

Thank you I will definitely try that.

I've no idea what to think... he geniunely isn't that guy or at least I thought he wasn't. I'm not some naive stupid girl but I really don't think he is capable of this...

But like you all say... what other explanation is there for this. I am in such a mess.

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ChristmasBubble · 21/12/2020 09:45

What was going on in your lives in 2015? Did you have anyone staying with you or someone who could've borrowed his device at the time?

Dizzy1234 · 21/12/2020 09:47

BIL wasn't the sort to cheat but he did, right shocker, couldn't believe it, never in a million years, he's just not the sort but he did.
Have a read through the posts on MN how many women didn't think their OH would cheat but they did and they all had the same excuses, it almost becomes laughable.
Get tough OP you're probably in for more revelations and heartbreak 💐

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