Thanks everyone.
He came home very emotional and insists he hasn't ever downloaded them. There were 6 apps in total and a private browser thing.
He said the private browser was part of a VPN, and he said it's possible he did download Tinder just out of curiosity when it first came out, but never used it.
The others he has been adamant, in tears, looking me in the eyes, that he didn't download and has never created profiles. He handed his phone over to me when he got in... I didn't find anything in messages etc, or really on Instagram.
There were some heart eye emojis to some girl from work but he said it was reaction to her stories which was photos of her dogs and she did post a comment about how he likes her dog so I guess that could be innocent.
But what other reasonable explanation could there be for these apps to be on his Apple ID? We checked and they were first downloaded in 2015 (we've been together since like 2006) - he said he wonders if he could have clicked some rubbish on the web and it auto downloaded that stuff but I don't think that's likely.
He's generally a shy guy and not the type to be sleazy ever. I could never imagine him sending photos etc let alone meeting someone for sex so I'm so confused right now. They were all downloaded on the same day, one was the day before.. Tinder must have been a different time as it wasn't on the list with the others.
I have downloaded tinder in the past when a work mate was using it as we were sat in a group intrigued how it worked.. I never made a profile and told my partner I'd done it at the time just so he didn't think something like this! So I guess the tinder story is realistic but accompanied by these other apps that all seem to be snap chat style, secret/self destructing or location based so he could set them up on work trips....
I'm so torn... if he genuinely hadn't done this, what other explanation is there?
I just don't want to get out of bed today, my stomach is in knots.