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I've wasted money and made myself obsessed.

177 replies

Marmalade414 · 14/10/2020 01:01

I've been a real idiot the last month. I'm currently wide awake as tonight was the night everything needed to stop.

I developed a strong intense crush a month ago. Was so sure the man felt the same. In my desperation I turned to a psychic who I've used before. I do trust her. She picked up he liked me and saw him opening up. She said he was recovering from a relationship though so was going to take a while to untangle things.

Then I discovered esty readers. How stupid am I! I've tried 8 this last two weeks. Absolutely every single one fed me different stuff.

I was so desperate to know. Then today I realised how stupid I've been. Nothings happened. He didn't approach me. . I left an honest review on a psychic page because she told me he'd give me his number. He didn't. She has since been private emailing me to say she will deal with my review publicly. Then she's tried to say he knows my address and just because I'm impatient doesn't mean it won't happen. Then she told me she didn't think my personality is nice like she read after all. Charming!!

Anyway I'm upset at my stupidity. But also I'm upset at how desperately obsessed I got over this man.

I went back to the psychic I trust tonight. She said a spirit is blocking him because he's too much like the men in my history. Apparently he's gone from being a sweet guy ready to open up but nervous. To abit of a player.

I'm so stupid.

OP posts:
Anordinarymum · 14/10/2020 01:12

I saw people like this when my son died. I wanted someone to tell me something - anything so I could deal with my pain. I think you know you are wasting your time and money on something that is not going to happen.

Try to move on. He's not right for you anyway or he would have got in touch

CoffeeInAnIV · 14/10/2020 01:16

First of all, don't feel stupid. We've all done things that seem silly in hindsight out of grief or desperation or just craving a sense of hope and validity.

Secondly, how well do you know this guy? As in, have you asked him out? Does he have your number? Is he on your social media? How often do you see him? Is there any reason why you haven't approached him about meeting up/talking more etc?

MrsTerryPratchett · 14/10/2020 01:29

Expensive lesson but it's only a waste of money if you don't learn from it.

Chalk it up to experience and move on.

HeIsNotTheSun · 14/10/2020 01:32

Anordinarymum these people are scumbags. I remember when my grandad died, my mum and her sister pursued all this. They were just desperate to know that he was ok. These people are the lowest, taking money from people at their lowest point. Taking advantage. Flowers

Monday55 · 14/10/2020 02:08

Concentrate on the guy. What are the vibes when you have small talk with him? In this day and age It's ok to ask a guy out and most guys actually appreciate it too when the lady takes initiative.

katy1213 · 14/10/2020 02:18

The psychic you trust is just a bit more clever at fleecing you than the others. They see you coming; it'll be written all over your face (literally or metaphorically) what you want to hear.
Don't waste any more money on this nonsense. If you want to put yourself out of your misery, ask him out and have done with it. The spirit is telling me he'll either say yes - or else it's a no.

Nikori · 14/10/2020 02:27

Whatever is going on, this obsession you have with this guy isn't healthy.

I think you need to focus on yourself, because I'm feeling that if you were happy in your life, you wouldn't be obsessing this much over a guy. What's going on with you? Are you under a lot of stress?

Torvean32 · 14/10/2020 02:38

Dont trust any psychic. You cannot trust them. They basically scam your money.

MyTelescopeBroke · 14/10/2020 04:59

You're be better off spending the money on counselling. And I mean that sincerely.

These people will tell you what you want to hear so that you return and pay to hear more of the same.

No one can possibly know the thoughts, feelings and motivations of others. Especially as many people aren't even clear about it themselves!

Phrowzunn · 14/10/2020 05:13

WTAF! To clarify - are these people claiming to be able to know this guy’s thoughts and feelings or are they claiming to be able to see the future?
There should be no such thing as a ‘psychic you trust’ - that doesn’t make any sense!

Hangingover · 14/10/2020 05:20

Do people really leave reviews on psychics? Don't they all just say: "made up bollocks, 0/10"?

I'm going to Google it...

pictish · 14/10/2020 05:30

‘I do trust her’.

Don’t. She doesn’t know anything and she hasn’t got any special powers of prediction but she’ll look you in the eye, pretend she does and take your money.

Hangingover · 14/10/2020 05:31

Oh blimey I got this one almost word for word Grin

"Con artist, fraudulent claims. Obsessed with conspiracy theories. 0/10, would not recommend"

Hangingover · 14/10/2020 05:44

They also reply:
"I attend emergency clients from time to time, people who are terminally ill, giving birth, cancer patients asking for urgent healing, people being raced to surgery and often I find myself suddenly searching for missing children or animals"

These people are unbelievable.

DianaT1969 · 14/10/2020 06:10

Have you tried therapy for your compulsive behaviour? The man and then 9-10 paidreadings with 'psychics' over the same issue. Do try OP, or you may find yourself in the same position, only different details in 6 months. But don't feel annoyed with yourself. It's done now and everyone does something silly from time to time. Learn from this and best of luck.

Doubleyikes · 14/10/2020 06:38

You aren’t stupid. You are just desperate for answers and trying to find them which is understandable as we all would like to know if things are going to work out. The problem is nobody has the answers no matter how much they believe or pretend they have.

If you look at your behaviour as a coping mechanism then maybe it could help. It’s not a helpful coping mechanism though so it would be more useful to work on accepting that no one can predict what lies ahead for us, we can’t predict what lies ahead for us and that all we can do is make life as good as we possibly can for ourselves by not looking for answers to impossible questions and by doing what we can to ‘live our best lives’ (sorry about the cliche here).

Don’t bear yourself up. Look at the realistic and helpful things you can do to meet someone who you can have an equal and happy relationship with and if you need others to help you do this, pick people who do have your interests at heart and who won’t just tell you vague spirity things and then take your money.

Shoxfordian · 14/10/2020 06:41

Have you even spoken to the guy?
Don't waste your money on psychics, go speak to him and ask him out for a drink

MsJinks · 14/10/2020 07:32

It’s a bit of a general human flaw the wanting to know, seeking certainty. You need support to deal with accepting that you can’t know, maybe counselling, does your employer use EAP? That’s quickest way to get some help, and it can just be a one off, or they can access full counselling. Don’t berate yourself, readings look a fast track option, but she read you, not what would happen. I don’t fully agree with the assumptions here re all and every psychic, but 99.8% of them and probably 99.99% of those who charge like this are deliberately conning you. However, from what I understand no-one who can (possibly) see/read things that others cannot would be able to see events unfold anything like as you say your trusted psychic tells you. She really is not your trusted psychic, and you need to invest in yourself in a different way. Be kind to yourself - my levels of silly things I do constantly surprise me - so don’t feel bad, just learn and move on. Hugs.

Savemyusername01 · 14/10/2020 07:37

You could ask the guy for his number, he gives it to you and then you believe the psychic who told you he would. It’s a ridiculous cycle.

Hope you can see it for what it is now.

Rosehip10 · 14/10/2020 07:45

Any "psychic" = money making scam and in no way worthy of "trust"

LEELULUMPKIN · 14/10/2020 07:45

You ARE stupid if you believe that anyone can tell you the future in exchange for cash or otherwise.

They are con artists, yes even the one you "trust"

Sorry to be brutal but it's true.

DrMorbius · 14/10/2020 07:46

I went to a psychic but they were closed due to unforseen circumstances Angry

RationalOne · 14/10/2020 07:54

Psychics are out for money. There are just so many of them now all giving out vague rubbish and taking money from vulnerable people (you) to tell them vague stuff.

A SPIRIT IS NOT BLOCKING HIM FROM LIKING YOU - what bullshit

As you have sadly found out they all told you different things. One of them will be right and that doesn't mean that person is psychic so please don't given them any more money! Leave the honest review on the site and block all contact with the snakeoil salesperson.

Take time out. Work on yourself. Avoid psychic (con-artists)

Besom · 14/10/2020 07:57

I have 'psychics' in my extended family. I don't think they are deliberately scamming people as they seem to believe their own shtick. But they don't have any special 'powers' believe me. So the one you trust may not be a bad person exactly but she is just guessing at things.

You would be better using your money for some kind of counselling to help control the obsessive ruminating and impulsive stuff.

RationalOne · 14/10/2020 08:02

A 'psychic' person on local facebook page proudly telling everyone that the virus was around in December 2019 and that she and everyone she knew had it already and no-one died. This on a public page. She then said it was all exaggerated, no one would die and it would all be gone by June 2020 and all back to normal.

She charges £35 for 30 minutes 'reading' and currently doing this via zoom due to the virus. People still pay her for this tripe.

She makes a great living selling crap to some very vulnerable people who have lost relatives and to others who are just idiots easily parted from their money.

It's not regulated and I could should I be of such low moral fibre and greedy take a short online course and suddenly become to 'psychic' set up very easily. Have a look there are loads of courses. I don't believe in conning others though - it takes a certain type of scum to do that.