Dating Thread 195 - Level Dean, home of serious women who actually talk

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

How is everyone feeling about dating from Boris's three tier announcement?

My county council are asking the government to be in Tier 2 which seems a bit excessive to me. Outside and walking dates were appealing in the summer but not now in the Autumn heading into Winter

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Thanks for new thread

Tier 2 coffee shops and cafes are still open - coffee dates are generally ok for me.

I’m stocked up on cute warm walking gear in case I’m dating again

@Bunkbedpeople, I thought coffee dates would be out now as you can only meet anywhere indoors with members of your household and bubble ? It's pants, confusing and limiting. Can't see any friends unless outside ( I think )

I thought it’s six for cafe meets? (Could be wrong - I don’t have a big social life and at the moment me and MrCountry are going to be extending as he lives solo)

Yes tier 2 includes no mixing of households indoors, including public venues.

I'm in local lockdown and haven't been able to see Mr Political which is really hard when it's been going so well. Messaging isn't cutting it and video calls are only good up to a point. Not easy!!

I really picked a great year to start my dating adventures

@Bunkbedpeople you aren't allowed to meet anyone not in your bubble or household group inside which applies to restaurants, coffee shops and pubs unfortunately. I wonder how many people will actually stick to the rules and not just say they are the support bubble etc

That’s mental walking gear it is.

Looks like I’m sticking with MrCountry for the foreseeable - he’s doing me some WFH space at his.

I don’t have a big social life and am WFH anyway - cafe visits are solo for me.

But it’s a kick in the teeth for meeting new people - I think if I’m back on the apps I’ll be on with incredibly ruthless screening before meeting

@bunkbedpeople it is mental, you are still allowed to go to those places and sit inside with how ever many people but not allowed at the same table with friends, dates etc outside your bubble.

If they were just crisp days I wouldn't mind so much but I don't want to be walking in drizzle or the rain. I do enough on my therapy/exercise walks. I am also more likely to have a flare up on a damp day.
Hopefully the government will laugh at Essex County Council and say your rates aren't bad enough but that isn't likely to happen

Reporting for duty!

I'm medium risk so cafes still open here. Dating feels pretty futile right now either way though :(

(I mean, more futile than usual!)

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Is it just me or is the selection on Bumble absolutely chronic at the mo? And I live in a big city..

Or is it the level of stress and redundancies, I wonder..

(Ooops just accidentally posted this on the old thread)

Thanks for the new thread @Dancerinthemoonlight

I'm observing myself falling fast and hard for the iron I had first date with on Saturday (Ffs. What am I like?)

Trying trying trying to play it cool and remember I had a well rounded life before we matched last Mon.

And remembering that it's a two way discovery process and what appears to be may not be. He may be telling lies about not talking to others. May decide I'm not his type etc etc. And I might realise I don't like something fundamental about him.

He's called me each day since Date 1. No lovebombing or cheesy flattery just funny & a video walk round his (lovely) flat.

Says he's 'impatient' to see me again so suggested Date 2 for tomorrow evening.

Even just writing this hear has pulled me to my senses and can now see I was letting my rich imagine get away with me instead of coolly allowing the prices to unfold.

It's such a bloody rollercoaster this OLD thing.

Oh yeah despite my XH finally slithering out if the woodwork to suggest he parents his kids overnight occasionally (at long last)
My DDs are flatly refusing to entertain the idea of going to their dad's as the 'vibe is so wrong' so if I ever was in the position to invite an iron to mine for some hot romance I wouldn't be able to. Great. Thanks XH for skipping off with OW & her three kids and leaving me to do 99.99% parenting.

*process (not prices)

Hello can I join in? Recently started online dating and to be honest it's pretty dire 😂

Er @Dancerinthemoonlight what is 'level Dean'?

@ruralbliss there was a short discussion on the last thread about a lot of deans and how everyone was saying the same thing along the lines of does anyone actually talk on here and looking for serious women.
At least that's what I understood because I got a bit confused 😂

@jigglypuffcookie welcome. It can be pretty dier at times

@Dancerinthemoonlight oh that's hilarious.

I agree. I matched with three Deans a few weeks ago. How funny. Perhaps they all just signed up in their droves!

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