[quote Plentyofshit]@WellQualifiedToRepresentTheLBC My argument is that - and I think I stated this right at the start - if your children have food/shelter/warmth/access to good education/healthcare - then - up until the age where they become more independent - one parent should prioritise the needs of the children, and see this as an important and valuable career.[/quote]
I think you aren't too good at critical thinking, if this is your argument.
So one parent should always make a short term choice to deprioritize their ability to make an income, in favor of "prioritizing"* children, even if that short term choice is disastrous long term, for both parent and child?
- you don't explain what this means really, but I suspect you don't quite know. I've worked ft since my DS was 1, he has always been my priority though?
Your statements don't hold up when measured against real life examples:
If I had followed your guidelines, my DS and I would now be stuck in an abusive household.
My mum followed what you say, she was a crap mother who of course told all and sundry, including herself, that she "prioritized the children", no one benefited and now I as her child am paying the price long term.
The OP herself is in a dire situation of vulnerability here herself - she's unmarried and a lower earner than her partner. Your guidelines could ruin her life and her child's life.
There is no evidence for anything you're saying and I can't find merit in them. You're parroting things you tell yourself about your own choices, presumably because you feel threatened by an approach that challenges these beliefs.
In practice, children have always been reared in communities. Having a single human being in charge of raising a child is a very modern invention and has few merits, practically speaking.