Guess what the catch is

[GoneAndDoneItAgainAgain]

I’ve been chatting to a friend of a friend on and off for a few months about a mutual interest. A couple of weeks ago he asked me out for dinner, I agreed and we had a really lovely evening, loads in common and we’re seeing each other again this weekend.

He’s mid 40’s (11 years older than me), divorced but apparently amicable with ex, very highly educated and has a professional, well paid job. He’s good looking, he’s funny, he’s easy to talk to, he’s incredibly intelligent and has been single for over a year since his last relationship.

What do you think the catch is? Am I missing something really obvious? Why would someone like him be single and why would he be interested in me? I’m not being all false modesty or anything but he’s way out of my league in terms of looks (not personality, I’m fucking adorable). I’m guessing micro penis.

There might not be a catch...

Drinker? Mummy's boy?

You need to smell his neck and his armpit. I’m not joking.

You're overthinking at this point. Just take it slow and enjoy yourself with a seemingly nice person.

Get friendly with his ex and ask her?

Or shag him and find out.

And stop being so hard on yourself about the way you look. If you do have a face like a bag of spanners, then at least you can add 'not shallow' to his list of attributes.

I'm not sure why you've immediately assumed he's a member of the pencil penis posse though.

@AnneLovesGilbert

You need to smell his neck and his armpit. I’m not joking.

What?

I'd say the catch is the age difference.

It'll be kids - either he didn't want them, or he has them with ex and doesn't want more. Or a micropenis.

Commitment phobe, player, lol I don't know, just enjoy the attention, you never know nothing might not be wrong...

I don’t think he’s a big drinker and no sign of him being a mummy’s boy. I’ll try and give him a sniff and report back - are you thinking just generally a bit stinky or is there a specific red flag smell?

I am trying to be light and breezy about the whole thing but it’s annoying me that I can’t work out what’s wrong with him.

His neck and his armpit, Mrs Blythe?! Explain, please.

@AnneLovesGilbert

You need to smell his neck and his armpit. I’m not joking.

What would that reveal? Can you tell penis size from the aroma?

He seems happy with his kids, doesn’t want more and neither do I.

Could possibly be a player, that’s probably the most likely.

I would just watch out for any red flags. Controlling, narcissistic, emotionally unavailable, selfish, etc. For now, just have fun.

Am guessing pheromones? DH smells HOT in his neck and armpits.

There may be no catch, you're 11 years younger than him and fucking adorable- what else could he need?

Who knows. Until you get to know someone it’s hard to tell. I have met many men that seem great on a first date but as time goes on they show their true colours 🤣. All you can do is tread carefully and don’t be swept off your feet too soon.

I dont understand your post. Why would a decent man not be available? Plenty of lovely women are.

Or maybe he just has stuff in common with you and likes that, isn't shallow and you're actually much hotter than you give yourself credit for

Whenever I've met someone who seemed perfect in every way I would get the wake up call of either shit in bed or major erectile dysfunction

Do you have your own kids? I would have said his kids and his age were the catch.

My DH is blooming amazing and there is no catch with him! Honestly OP there will be some blokes that you are just compatible with, that’s all there is to it. Have fun dating this guy and seeing where it goes !

I’ve got my own kids, don’t want anymore and my exdh is the same age as him so I don’t see it as a big age gap tbh.

I’m probably just being a cynical old bag but all the lovely men seem to be happily married.

My DH is a friend of a friend, we met after talking about some things of mutual interest. He was separated, he's a cultured, interesting person (not perfect by any means, but a keeper)...just sayin.
No micropenis or such like. All in working order. Little bit older than me....

Also I’ve been trying OLD for several months and it’s destroyed whatever faith in men I had left.