Guess what the catch is

[GoneAndDoneItAgainAgain]

I’ve been chatting to a friend of a friend on and off for a few months about a mutual interest. A couple of weeks ago he asked me out for dinner, I agreed and we had a really lovely evening, loads in common and we’re seeing each other again this weekend.

He’s mid 40’s (11 years older than me), divorced but apparently amicable with ex, very highly educated and has a professional, well paid job. He’s good looking, he’s funny, he’s easy to talk to, he’s incredibly intelligent and has been single for over a year since his last relationship.

What do you think the catch is? Am I missing something really obvious? Why would someone like him be single and why would he be interested in me? I’m not being all false modesty or anything but he’s way out of my league in terms of looks (not personality, I’m fucking adorable). I’m guessing micro penis.

Im intrigued as to what the catch could be!!

But if there isnt one, can you make a carbon copy of him and post it to me please

beamur maybe the catch is that he’s actually your husband.

Yes smell is important!

He might seem too good to be true but if he doesn’t smell right to you I’d move on. Smell compatibility won’t overcome other major flaws and as far as I know you can’t smell micro penis but if you really properly fancy him you could probably live with it

The only red flag smell would be if it didn’t float your particular boat. If it becomes a serious thing you need to know that you’ll fancy him as much after a day gardening/gymming before he’s had a shower and after a bad day you can stick your face in his neck.

There may be other issues you don’t yet know about but really do give him a good sniff and you’ll either want to jump his bones or run away. It’s important. Don’t listen to the doubters.

@GoneAndDoneItAgainAgain

beamur maybe the catch is that he’s actually your husband.

He's in big trouble if it is!

If he smells good it might be him. DH smells great.

Well, I've just got me a new insult;

"YOU SMELL OF MICRO PENIS!"

I hope he smells good, and is good OP!

I'm thinking he might take a raincheck if OP starts sniffing his neck and armpits.

Do you look much younger than him?

My guess is ED (hopefully not with micropenis as well- I had one like that and it was a bad combination.)

Or he could just be great in virtually every way.

Please keep us informed.

Age difference.

I don’t look younger than him - I look older than I am and he looks younger.

Tbh I don’t think I’d be put off by a micro penis or ED. He gave me a snog goodnight last time I saw him and didn’t pick up on any micro penis smells. I didn’t stick my face in his armpit though so I might have missed it.

The suspense is killing me :)

@GoneAndDoneItAgainAgain

I don’t look younger than him - I look older than I am and he looks younger.

Tbh I don’t think I’d be put off by a micro penis or ED. He gave me a snog goodnight last time I saw him and didn’t pick up on any micro penis smells. I didn’t stick my face in his armpit though so I might have missed it.

How do you pick on micro penis smell?

Why is he divorced?
The catch might be in the reason for the divorce:
cheating /abusive /alcohol /workaholic / lazy - does fuck all at home

Of course, maybe his ex-wife cheated, was abusive, alcoholic etc.

Has he talked about what happened to end the marriage?

I am very wary of middle aged men who haven’t settled down - but yours has.
However you should take it slow and enjoy it. Don’t be too suspicious- there may not be a catch!

Why does there have to be a catch?

In my experience there always is. If he seems too good to be true he probably is!

Hope you have better luck and this is just your time

Maybe he’s just a nice guy! People divorce for lots of reasons. If he’s amicable with ex that’s a good sign. Just enjoy it, you never know

Maybe he can't be bothered with internet dating 🤷🏽‍♀️

Separated rather than divorced and still hankering after the ex? On the rebound and likely to race back if ex lifts finger?

If it's not this or any of the above suggestions it looks like he might just be great. Take it slowly and wait and see. Keep the hive mind/vipers informed. Good luck.

Has he talked about what happened to end the marriage?

@fuandylp The problem is he's never going to admit he's cheating /abusive /alcohol /workaholic / lazy, does fuck all at home and has ED of the micropenis.

Tbh I don’t think I’d be put off by a micro penis or ED.

@GoneAndDoneItAgainAgain It gets tiresome unless you manage to forget what decent sex is like for the rest of your life.

Apparently his wife left him for someone else and is still with the man that she left him for. He didn’t slag her off at all and just said that it was as amicable as it could be. Men bitching about their ex’s is a massive red flag for me. Obviously no idea what led to his wife leaving him though. He also has the kids 50% of the time which is a good sign in my book.

He did say he’d tried internet dating and that was how he’d met his most recent partner. He hadn’t tried it since that relationship ended about a year ago though.

Keep us posted Op.

The problem is he's never going to admit he's cheating /abusive /alcohol /workaholic / lazy, does fuck all at home and has ED of the micropenis.

Well no, but surely he's given some kind of indication as to why he and his ex divorced?

Anyway, he's probably all of the above and more so LTB.

Seriously though, there might not be a catch but you need to do something about your self-esteem because I don't think it's a good basis for a relationship if you think he's too good-looking for you or whatever.

The last guy I dated who said his ex left him for someone else had ED, it soon became clear why she cheated (not saying it’s right for anyone to cheat) but he wasn’t great in bed which was a shame as he was good looking, kind and intelligent.