Guess what the catch is

[GoneAndDoneItAgainAgain]

I’ve been chatting to a friend of a friend on and off for a few months about a mutual interest. A couple of weeks ago he asked me out for dinner, I agreed and we had a really lovely evening, loads in common and we’re seeing each other again this weekend.

He’s mid 40’s (11 years older than me), divorced but apparently amicable with ex, very highly educated and has a professional, well paid job. He’s good looking, he’s funny, he’s easy to talk to, he’s incredibly intelligent and has been single for over a year since his last relationship.

What do you think the catch is? Am I missing something really obvious? Why would someone like him be single and why would he be interested in me? I’m not being all false modesty or anything but he’s way out of my league in terms of looks (not personality, I’m fucking adorable). I’m guessing micro penis.

@GoneAndDoneItAgainAgain

I’m not really looking for a relationship, just ridiculously overanalysing as I have very little else to do with my time at the moment. Lockdown has meant that all my usual hobbies have been cancelled so I’ve taken up obsessing over men I barely know instead.

Well we all need a hobby

I'm another that caught a gooden when I was least expecting and defo not looking, y'never know! Fingers crossed for your next date (not placemarking for update at aaaall)

This could have been a new type of voting in threads; "most likely catch is .."

1. Micropenis
2. Terrible in bed
3. Psycho kids
4. Mummy's boy
5. Broke
6. Has sex dungeon
7. Any combination of the above

8 Something else

What have i missed?

Ah, I forgot erectile dysfunction.

1. ED

Re. The second proper date sex thing .. didnf some people follow a third dare rule; it's only one shirt if that (plus previous bon one on one meetings could be lumped together to be equivalent to a date).

All I know is I used to wait two or three months before (penetrative) sex and when I discovered they didn't know where a clitoris was or what to do with one, I was already attached and invested and put up with crap sex ... Not a strategy I'd be reverting to again.

I'll see your erectile dysfunction and raise you an alcoholic.

*short of that

10. Functioning alcoholic.

Do we want to add coke- snorter?

Skimmed the thread and see I've forgotten

11. Player, and
12. Emotionally unavailable

Some of these could take months to establish.

I vote ED or death grip

You do know you’ll HAVE to update once you know op?

Anyone suggested a sweepstake yet?

Can’t wait for the update!

What about that there could just be no catch and he’s a genuinely nice guy? they do exist!

There are decent men in their forties who have been single for more than a year because they don't go in for casual affairs. Neither do they have a micro penis. He may be one of them.

If you like him, take it slowly and get to know him really well.

has this thread put the fear of god into anyone else in the dreamy stage of a new relationship

When I played the early days scratch card I was pretty certain I was gonna find a micro penis or rubbish in bed definitely nope and nope thank fuck but I did win Broke least worst I think

I know this is a fun thread but micro penis? Imagine if it was a man speculating about the size of a woman's body parts and dismissing her in that basis

Age difference and ego boost. Divorced his same age wife and is finding new youth dating 10 year+ younger women.
Not neccessarily a dealbreaker.

Other than that, secret porn addiction? Why did he divorce?

longcoffeebreak I’m only joking. I did say that I wouldn’t be bothered even if it does turn out to be the case.

@longcoffeebreak I thought exactly the same thing. The “catch” will be that he can’t have a relationship with someone who thinks that’s a reason to dump someone or a funny thing to say. No different than the ultimate turn off of a guy saying something similar. Not adorable AT ALL.

Not adorable AT ALL

Good thing you're not the one dating the OP then, isn't it?

He might like weird stuff sexually. Finger up the bum type 🤷‍♀️

@Anniegetyourgun well yes.

Also, I did break a relationship off because of micro penis. It is a big deal (to me). Couldn’t get any feeling from it. Very unsatisfying shag if it was even a shag!

@troublingtimes men say the same sort of thing about small tits or large vaginas don’t they? It’s not attractive.

If you think you are a nice person with no red flags that should stop someone entering a relationship with you, then you have to allow that a man could be the same.

I’m an emotionally scarred, self sabotaging underachiever who desperately tries to find fault with everyone. I’m 99% red flags.

Also commenting to follow the thread - desperate to know how this turns out 😂.
Also reading all these stories, is definitely making me realise what a catch the guy I'm sorting of seeing is! Only been a few weeks and I am being very guarded as I only separated from husband in January and really wasn't looking for anything... But he definitely doesn't have a micropenis, or ED and is certainly not terrible in bed 😂. He's not an alcoholic, no crazy kids etc...