Guess what the catch is

[GoneAndDoneItAgainAgain]

I’ve been chatting to a friend of a friend on and off for a few months about a mutual interest. A couple of weeks ago he asked me out for dinner, I agreed and we had a really lovely evening, loads in common and we’re seeing each other again this weekend.

He’s mid 40’s (11 years older than me), divorced but apparently amicable with ex, very highly educated and has a professional, well paid job. He’s good looking, he’s funny, he’s easy to talk to, he’s incredibly intelligent and has been single for over a year since his last relationship.

What do you think the catch is? Am I missing something really obvious? Why would someone like him be single and why would he be interested in me? I’m not being all false modesty or anything but he’s way out of my league in terms of looks (not personality, I’m fucking adorable). I’m guessing micro penis.

I’m guessing micro penis.....For fucks sake! I hope he's thinking Bucket twat.

Oooh this is a good thread, place marking for an update. Good luck!

I bet he's over the moon to be dating someone who is eleven years younger.

Younger but also has family complete and won't be looking for him to go back to sleep deprivation and nappies like many younger women might.

My DP is about 8 years older than me, never had a relationship until me (mid 40’s). We were friends for ages as I was waiting to find out what was wrong with him. He’s wonderful. Kind, funny, generous, thoughtful, good in bed........ owns his own home, good job, nice car, no kids....... they are out there. I’m marrying mine next year :)

@Beamur

My DH is a friend of a friend, we met after talking about some things of mutual interest. He was separated, he's a cultured, interesting person (not perfect by any means, but a keeper)...just sayin. No micropenis or such like. All in working order. Little bit older than me....

There's the catch then. He's already married to Beamur.

Shameless place marking.

Flamingnora123
After reading this thread I did ask him if he was dating GoneandDoneitAgain he looked slightly confused.
He's a bit older than the OP's chap unless he's fibbing all round.
I do hope this chap turns out to be a 'good un', there are so very many fuckwits out there you start to doubt there are nice men too.

Hmm.
Have you ever seen him around the time of the full moon?

Hah. He's 11 years older than you. That makes you gorgeous automatically in his eyes. And you share a hobby. Also, I find women say, 'He's SO good looking' about men they fancy who to me look like a bag of spuds. So maybe he's nothing special, just works for you. Have fun with him.

Very attractive men rarely get to do the choosing. They are relentlessly pursued by confident ( attractive) women. Most of us slightly attractive “bag of spanner’s” don’t think we would have a chance with the Adonis’s of this world so rarely bother.
However they get to middle age and realise that 90% of the female race has eluded them, they also realise that looks and confidence are not an indicator of interesting life partner so they become more selective. They also don’t really know how to seek out love because it has always been handed to them.
I suspect your good looking guy has started using his intelligence and realised that a good relationship is reliant on more than a pretty face.
Alternatively he’s just looking for a younger model.

He's not called Ted Bundy is he?

@monkeyonthetable

Hah. He's 11 years older than you. That makes you gorgeous automatically in his eyes. And you share a hobby. Also, I find women say, 'He's SO good looking' about men they fancy who to me look like a bag of spuds. So maybe he's nothing special, just works for you. Have fun with him.

^^ this about other people's husband's 😂 I'm sure other people feel the same about mine.

Though I do have a friend who goes on like her husband is Chris Hemsworth and how it's clear 'other women are after him' I've never thought of a diplomatic way to tell her he looks like ginger Shrek.

If he is 11 years older than you, maybe he thinks he's scored

He's not called Ted Bundy is he?

Ha! Zac Efron portrayed him brilliantly recently, chilling stuff!!

Shamelessly place marking for a post date update.

Wishing you all the best in your new relationship. Let's hope it's catch-free!

@GoneAndDoneItAgainAgain

I have no intention of leaving it too long. I’m seeing him at the weekend and will report with a full analysis.

Leave no stone unturned, no neck unsniffed.

@Beamur

Good you made enquiries of your DH. OP woud be very disappointed if it was he.

Weird sexual preferences? Small penis?

I think it’s the kids (they don’t want him to be in a relationship) or Disney dad issue or he wants to stay casual until they leave home. Something kid related.

But it may not be an issue depending on how serious you want to get yourself

Just don't blow it by giggling when you snuggle into his neck for a sniff! 😆

Marking my place!

this is way too much analysis for someone you've been on one date with!

Where you say you're 'trying to keep it light and breezy' - erm, it genuinely should be light and breezy at this point. You don't know him.

The aim of dating is to have a good time whilst getting to know the person you are dating. It's not a time to be overthinking, second-guessing, or otherwise trying to be 'chosen'.

Being single for a while means nothing about a person. They could be complete arseholes that no-one wants to date, or they might be busy with the rest of their lives and dating takes a back seat.

Concentrate on enjoying yourself, hold on to your heart as you do your 'due diligence', and allow this man to unfold. You'll soon see if he really is a catch or not. Focus on getting to know him and seeing if he is someone you want a relationship with - that's what dating is about.

One date in, everything is pure guess-work

christmasfluff I know it’s far too much analysis but I have a very empty life at the moment so I like to have something to ponder on. I’ve been on a fair few dates since becoming single and on pretty much every one it’s been pretty obvious why these men are single or that we’re not a match. I was fully expecting this to be the case with this guy but it’s not and it’s annoying me.

It’s genuinely the first time since meeting dh over a decade ago that I’ve met someone that I really want to shag and that I like personality wise too. Normally it’s one or the other and I’ve just compromised.

Just checking in to see whether we know if he has a micro penis or not yet....

I’ve been on a fair few dates since becoming single and on pretty much every one it’s been pretty obvious why these men are single or that we’re not a match. I was fully expecting this to be the case with this guy but it’s not and it’s annoying me.
Maybe it's a case of "the thing you're looking for is always in the last place you look"

fuandlyp I won’t be able to report back until Sunday on the penis front I’m afraid. I will update though.

I’m not even properly divorced yet and definitely not (or wasn’t) looking for a relationship. Exdh wouldn’t even kiss me on the cheek for over 4 years as he found me so repulsive so I just wanted a good shag now and again, ideally with someone who wasn’t a psychopath. So I probably am looking for problems with this man on purpose as I don’t want to actually like anyone or have a relationship. I don’t think so anyway.