Guess what the catch is

[GoneAndDoneItAgainAgain]

I’ve been chatting to a friend of a friend on and off for a few months about a mutual interest. A couple of weeks ago he asked me out for dinner, I agreed and we had a really lovely evening, loads in common and we’re seeing each other again this weekend.

He’s mid 40’s (11 years older than me), divorced but apparently amicable with ex, very highly educated and has a professional, well paid job. He’s good looking, he’s funny, he’s easy to talk to, he’s incredibly intelligent and has been single for over a year since his last relationship.

What do you think the catch is? Am I missing something really obvious? Why would someone like him be single and why would he be interested in me? I’m not being all false modesty or anything but he’s way out of my league in terms of looks (not personality, I’m fucking adorable). I’m guessing micro penis.

I honestly think the ill-judged sexy eating of the mussel has saved you some heartache OP. Try & retain that visual for when you’re horny and think of texting him ....

But then we went out for dinner and he tried to sexily eat a mussel while looking me in the eye. That was enough for me to never want to shag him again.

The mind boggles - what on earth was the man doing with the mussel....?!!

@GoneAndDoneItAgainAgain

Well, it’s all over now. I told him when he got here yesterday that I was concerned that he was still hung up on his ex wife and that I probably wasn’t ready for a full on relationship anyway. I also told him that I love shagging him and that I was happy to carry on with just that if he was. Which he said he was and all was well. But then we went out for dinner and he tried to sexily eat a mussel while looking me in the eye. That was enough for me to never want to shag him again.

And so ends the story of my first romance post marriage.

Oh well now, we need a bit more information than that please, OP!

You sound awesome, by the way. Glad you haven't settled for the sexy mussel-eater.

Did it involve...licking?

It’s sort of involved sucking the mussel to get it out of its shell. All while maintaining eye contact. It was horrible and it keeps replaying g in my mind and making me shudder.

Yuk.

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It’s sort of involved sucking the mussel to get it out of its shell. All while maintaining eye contact. It was horrible and it keeps replaying g in my mind and making me shudder.

Lucky escape, OP.

It’s sort of involved sucking the mussel to get it out of its shell. All while maintaining eye contact. It was horrible and it keeps replaying g in my mind and making me shudder.

Oh op, you have been hilarious throughout this thread.

That just have been seriously unsexy to have out you off a handsome, smart,good in bed bloke who'd agreed to fwb!

Well at least the sex was good before the mussel eating induced ick.

So have you agreed to be FWB - and dinyii follow through ...... or did you make your excuses and leave him with jus dribbling down his chin.

did you

I was a coward and said I had to dash off to look after my dc. I don’t think I can tell him that I no longer want to shag him because he looked at me while he ate a shellfish, it seems a bit mad.

Just say that you thought you'd be able to separate the sex from the relationship but you've realised you won't be able to.

I keep thinking about the guy who's obsessed with giving oral sex at dinner with Charlotte in sex and the city now.

Not giving oral sex at dinner to be clear.

He's obsessed with giving oral sex and when she goes to dinner with him, he sort of mimes oral sex with everything he eats, including shellfish I think.

Of course I can't find the clip.

@GoneAndDoneItAgainAgain what did he say when you told him you thought he was still hung up on his ex?

Oh God gilbertmarkham he was a bit obsessed with oral sex too. I don’t think I’ve ever seen SATC but that certainly sounds very similar!

he was a bit obsessed with oral sex too

Whereabouts dud you say he lives again? 😁😉.

Oh I wish I could find the clip - all I've found so far is that the episode was called The Freak Show and he was nicknamed Mr Pussy.

what did he say when you told him you thought he was still hung up on his ex?

Do you really have to drag the thread back to important, relevant topics?

Ah, the ick.
See recent ick post for reference.
Mussel ick.

Yep, the full ick. There’s no coming back from the ick.

Oh Op, just read your thread - you sound fab! Well done for knowing your worth and what you do / don't want! The ick brings back (fond?!) memories of some of the guys I dated at university

I think you just need to lay it all out on the table with him? See what he says

Oh shite sorry the final page and vital update hadn't loaded properly before I posted.

That's shit, but glad he did that now rather than a few weeks down the line.

I'm sad about the sex for you.